The other things is he can come & go as he pleases, be with you the whole time & not be sent home or sent to the public toilets outside the ward because he's not allowed to use the ones in your room! Glad he's come round to the idea!

hi

have been on the homebirth site and its brilliant thanks v much was realy helpfull,weve done a mock up birth plan to discuss with midwife ect.

also just found out there is a new xbox game coming out around the same time as im due so think ive finally conviced my bf that its as safe as hospital !!!! also more practicle and if the birth takes it time he now like the idea that il be able to walk about as and when i like.

Thanks v much for advice

x

Totally agree with Rachel it's never too early lol!! As for dp I quite simply got fed up with all the arguments we were having as he just wouldn't take my word for it so I told him if he could find any evidence to suggest hb's were dangerous or hospitals were safer then I would be happy to go in & until he actually put in the research I did his opinion wasn't worth jack! Needless to say a copld of days later he'd come round to the idea lol!!

Homebirth.org is a fab website & I think there is even a section for the dads who are nervous, failing that arrange an appointment with your mw & get him to come along so he can talk to her?

Bribery!  My DH was persuaded with the fact that he could play on his Xbox and make cups of tea when he wanted LOL!  In all seriousness I got him to have a look at www.homebirth.org.uk at some of the birth stories and facts and figures!  Men like solid facts and figures!  Also the latest Dutch research says that HBs are statistically as safe for low risk women as hospital births are!  Also with HB because you have 1 to 1 care with the MW and she's not rushing round looking after other women problems are spotted earlier and you can be transfered to hospital if necessary!  As for your family saying it's too early then that's just complete rubbish!  I started thinking about HB first time when I was about 16 weeks PG and this time it has been planned since I got my BFP!

HTH Rachel (27+2)

hi

im georgia im 21 and 21weeks 6days with pink bump due 8th nov

Im very keen to have a homebirth and although its apparently quite early to start thinking about it all according to friends and other mums.

i like to be realy prepared and my midwife seems very enthusiastic about homebirths.But my partner isnt that keen ive done lots of reaserch reading everything i can, but he still seems to think that id be much safer in a hospital although are local hospital has terible birth rates of interventions and cuts ect, as i realy want it to be a natural process i just want to be at home were its calm and i can get up and walk as and when i want to.

anyone got any advice on anxious partners with home births.?

thanks

x

It's natural t be anxious about the birth at your stage!  Everyone goes through a minor panic with their first HB!  I used the cut and paste birth plan from www.homebirth.org.uk and my MWs found it very helpful!  Beware though as HBs are addictive and it'll make you broody sooner!  I had my DS at home last May and now baby number 2 is due on 1st October LOL

Rachel (27+1)

Yep been through my birth preferences with df last night and hoping for as little intervention as pos. Have TENS, homeopathic pills at the ready and pool on order. Also been doing some hypnosis/breathing techniques. Feeling confident enough to say 'No' to unwanted examinations too. Keeping everything crossed that hb goes to plan but also have in the back of my mind things may go differently! Feeling more excited about meeting baby now rather than anxious about the birth too

Just make it entirely clear that you are going to have a homebirth!  Do you have your birth plan yet?  Def get your pool organised ASAP!  As pp suggested confirm you can have HB from 37 weeks and ask about provision of gas and air and birth kit, which will be delivered pre birth and which on the day!  Most importantly relax as you'll never go into labour if your all tense and stressed!  Adrenaline counteracts labour hormnes!

I would say you need to get your birth pool sorted ASAP first of all! Secondly I would get her to confirm they will be attending you from 37 weeks just to avoid any drama in case you do go into labour between 37-38 weeks as it seems some areas only "allow" hb after 38 weeks but you are entitled to one after 37 weeks. Check out homebirth.org it's a great website with lots of info, draft birth plans & things you will need etc. Good luck x

Hi, I wondered if anyone had any tips for 1st time mum to be wanting a hb? We have the MW coming to our home next week and so far she hasn't seemed overly keen on the idea of me having hb. I've had a healthy pregnancy up to now and have my final 36 week scan the day before she comes. Is there anything I should have ready for the visit or any questions that would be worth asking? We are hoping to have a birthing pool so will bring that up. Very excited but nervous too!!!

36 + 6 with yellow bump xx