Feeling scared
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25/8/08 14:39
25/8/08 10:19
OK so ive done it before the girls are 8 months old and having twins shouldnt bother me right? But im finding as the days go by im more and more scared, I never ever felt like this with the girls maybe I was a bit dumb in not knowing what it would be like but its like now I know its terrifying me.
We are moving house soon (have no choice) im worried about that im tired im stressed and in constant pain with my hip everytime I moan about it to friends etc its like they think im being selfish for moaning, dont get me wrong I KNOW how lucky I am but ffs arent I allowed to moan when im in pain and tired.
Im so worried about how il cope when they are here, im still yet to wean the girls from BF and im worried they are going to be upset part of me feels like im letting them down as if I wasnt pregnant id have no plans to stop BF them anytime soon.
I so so want these babies they werent planned and some days I feel like im still struggling to get my head round it still, but it took so long to get pregnant with the girls that of course im very happy we are pregnant again and so then I feel guilty for feeling the way I do, its not that i dont want them just sometimes I feel its way too soon after having the girls. Ive got so much support (sometimes its a bit smothering!!) so im sure we will be fine but I cant help the nagging feelings of fear in the back of my mind.
Carla 21+4 B&G xxx



What you're experiencing is totally natural, I don't think there is any mother that hasn't gone through this when expecting subsequent babies, we all think the news ones will push out the older ones, which of course is untrue, but has us worried for a while. Put it down to hormones hunni. As for the breast feeding I don't know what to suggest having never been a succesful feeder myself, but you have given your twins a massive head start already, and the milk they're having off you now will not be as important as the first few months, i would try and get them to take some formula now, even if it's only little by little, at least you wont have the headache when it's closer to your new babies births. As for your friends I'd say they are very very jealous, but they should sympathise, alot of people would give their right arm for one set of twins never mind two, but they should also realise they're very hard work. What with the stress of moving home, make any wonder you're feeling frazzled. I hope that soon you'll feel a little more chilled and happier. xxx