Hey thankyou for the advice i think i am definatly going to take it. My situation with the ex is he wanted children with me so we tried and i got pregnant more or less straight away and then wen i was 5 month pregnant i piked him up like a normal day and he told me he didnt love me anymore and didnt want our child, which personally i think that was definatly fueled by his mother. Well never really saw him much contact was almost extinct! he came to the 20 week scan and then i didnt see him till i gave birth and he stayed for a few hours then went home and didnt come back luckely i had called my mum because i knew he wouldnt come back! i had lo at 1.39am and he text me saying whats the outcome!? (how dare he i no!) and he came the next day for an hour. then a great fatherly bond happened and he was in our lives on and off for around 3 months then he got a new girlfriend and dissappeared again didnt see him till lo was 8 months old then we used to meet at a pub for dinner and he just wasnt intrested in lo i think it was just to say to people that he does see him now and again. And then he started coming to my house once a week and then another girlfriend came along and she gave him an ultimatum "its me or your son" and he chose her as we havent seen him since January. No phone calls texts etc etc. But in a way im glad becasue now my lo is all mine and i deciede how he brought up as i didnt agree with how he gave in to keep lo quiet. But it just gets me angry as some weeks i struggle with money and things and hes swannin around wining and dining his new mrs. which i am yet to see...(i will show her ultimatums!) So i just wanted to make it official that yeh he is all mine but i suppose i must admit that i just want to rub it in his face how my lo is just mine and how much i am proud of him and its all my work. He doesnt evan no him at all and it gets me mad to think he can go round tellin people hes a proud parent!.......

Sorry but long and gone of the topic a bit but i think i may just leave things as they are. Thank you for the advice  xx

I don't think it is honestly worth it hun, unless he would refuse to sign for medical treatment on your LO.

Plus it may make him more determined, he sounds like a bit of a flake atm and chances are the novelty of daddyhood will wear off eventually - or he may even grow out of the whole revenge issue.

The way the law in the UK is, from the age of 11 (I think) your child can LEGALLY decide which parent to live with and the courts/you can't do a thing, so full PR would only be a temp solution.

Even if you were granted full parental responsibility I think your ex wil still be able to take you into court when hthe child is older and gain some access. Without a valid reason for full parental responsibilty then I do think you need his permission. Basically he has to sign the rights away to his child. I know I looked in to it, my ex has never wanted to see our son and even last year said he hasnt got time so dont get in touch. I decided it was way too much hassle, when I had full custody anyway, and I knew he wouldnt take me to court any time soon for access. If your ex doesn't see his child and right now has no interest of then maybe it wouldnt be worth your while. If in a few years he wants access then you can let him take it to court, and you can explain why he shouldnt be granted. Keep a record of threats he makes, when and where. If you or your child are ever in any danger of him then you should report him to the police and keep all copies of crime reference numbers.

If you do not want a relationship between your child and your ex, then my advice would be to stop all contact between the 2 of you. Maybe even change your phone number. Obviously I dont know the circumstances, and the reasons why he isn't seeing his child now all that would have to be taken into consideration if you choose to go ahead. If its just because he doesn't want to see your child, it seems like a lot of hassle for something that will have no change, if it is because of something else then maybe for peace of mind it will benefit you. Speak with CAB and ask them for advice on what to do, and they will give you your best options.

Hey i was just wondering if anyone else has gone to court regarding full parent responsibiltys and was it worth doing? also does there have to be a reason why u want to do it for example violence etc etc. Im thinking of applying for it becase my ex doesnt see lo at all but regulary threatens me wait until hes older ill get him back. I need a lil bit of advice please xx