Thankyou for your replies, its nice to know that Im not the only one who feels this way.  Family just dont understand why I feel like thisand think its only because I still have feelings for ex, and thats why I,ve put everything into getting ex to see son.  Like I explained to them, yes obviously I have some feeling for him, he,s my sons father, but not the feelings they think I have.

Just know when my little man is older his dad will put the blame on me for him not being around, just hope son doesn,t resent me.  Luckily have all the court papers and letters from solicitors etc, so when the day comes, I,ll be able to show him that i tried.

Oh hun i feel for you... i left my ex before i found out i was pregnant... we hadnt been together long so i knew what he'd say when i told him i was pregnant....

It breaks my heart a millikon times a day that he doesnt want anything todo with dd... to me she is the single most importnant thing in the world to me and i couldnt live without her... but its his choice... i just keep the thought that he can never truely know what love is if he cant bring his self to meet his dd...

I feel for you Barney, my ex thought he could just call when it suited him to hear what the wane had been up to but had no intention of being a good dad and actually doing anything for him.

It really hurst cause i love my son so much and because ive argued with him over his drinking and money hes decided that hes not paying a penny for his son ( and cant guarantee to be sober ) so he knows he wont be seeing his son again, i mean how can he do that ?? he choose drinking over his son, i didnt stop him seeing his son just put (reasonable) conditions on it, i.e. staying sober and not drinking around him, and help me buy things he needed

i dont get men

x

It kills me that my ex ignores my daughter crying.  My instinct is to comfort and protect her. His is to carry on texting his latest skirt.  What you feel is perfectly normal, we all want the best for our kids and a relationship with both parents if possible, but hun you sound like you've done everything you can you shouldn't feel guilty for his decision.  He's the one losing out and he'll have to face that when his son/daughter is old enough to make their own decisions!

I split from ex a year ago now, and after a long drawn out court nitemare, ex has decided he doesn,t want any contact with our son, until son can make decisions for himself.

This really hurts, and I find myself crying just thinking about it.  Just find it so hard that he can just forget and walk out of our sons life and not care.  Basically we were going to court for a contact order, and because he cant have the contact he wants has decided he doesn,t want any.

Maybe its the special bond us women have, but I could never walk away and not have a feeling of guilt. 

Does anyone else feel hurt or is it just sad old me?