Could you not supervise him with lo yourself in a suitable location that you feel safe in? 

If you don't want to go down the contact centre route hun, then don't.  You've got court orders against him which any judge would have to take into account - as well as any police reports you may have filed. 

in reply to jo im not that keen on the contact centre but i do want dd to have contact with her dad and i think its really my only option and would rather i put forward that option  than me sayin no and the court saying well he is her dad and his name is on the BC and them then awarding access with no supervision. just want to b sure that he isnt going to walk in and out of her life coz i dont think that is fair on her, and at the mo he is a stranger.

is there any other options?

non-mol is a non-molestation order (couldnt b bothered typing the whole thing sorry!) it prevents my ex from harassing me, or using threatening behaviour or encouraging anyone else to do so.

in relation to the contact centre my solicitor told me that i would go down with dd hand her to someone there and then they give dd 2 her dad and they go to a room, but there doesnt b anyone watching them just someone watching the exit so he cant leave with her though i dont no if they have the power to stop him leaving. but my solicitor also z that when parents leave their kids off usually the fathers can take them out say 4 lunch or that so dont no wot way it would work with dd.

the only thing is the nearest contact centre is only a bus ride away from me which i dont mind but if they dont have any spaces i would have to go to one of another 2 which is 2 bus rides away which is gonna b a pain in the ass coz it would prob take me bout an hour to get there then having to wait and come back again.

Hey, I remember when my solicitor initially told me about contact options that the ex could apply for she mentioned contact centres - but she told me they are STILL only run by volunteers and not as safe as they sound. I know my situation is different but I wouldn't allow my ex near my son in a contact centre as I know he would def try and take him. I guess at the end of the day it'd be your choice - but i'd def not use one! x

what is a non mol order?

Just out of interest, did your solicitor say whether the people who supervise in the contact centres have a legal right to stop your ex leaving with your LO (obviously they can call the police cus of the orders, but can they actually prevent him leaving?).

I know when my partner looked at contact centres in 2005 they said that the people who supervise are volunteers - mainly retired - and they have no legal right to prevent a parent removing their child.  I think that may have changed by now though.

Good luck hun, my understanding of contact centres are a large room with multiple familys etc in.  Supervised by someone who sits there and reads a book rather than scrutinising each family.  They also have funny opening times and weekends are very oversubscribed, so you have to take more or less what times you're given. 

Saying that, there is no reason you can't sit outside the room incase of trouble while he's having his time with your LO.

well its taken me about a month to get a court date as i had to go to court to apply 4 the non-mol order and prohibited steps order and then i had to wait 4 them to b served on my ex by the police. then got a date to go back 4 him to contest it.

sorry hun how long did it take for it to go to court. I would like a supervision order, as my son is quite shy would cry.

I used a contact centre years ago for DV. My ds was older, but there was a baby in the centre. Dad didn't have a clue, and everytime baby needed anything she was brought back to mum.

hi all posted a thread a while back about my ex and dd. we r in court tom as i had to get a non-mol order and prohibiting steps order against my ex as he tried to take dd.

however my ex is now proposing supervised visits by a family member, which no-one in my family will agree to, although i do want dd to have contact with her dad and im 110% sure that he would never hurt her my solicitor has z that i can propose supervised visits in a contact centre, as im not entirely happy with unsupervised at the mo just incase he tried to hurt me by not returning her by a certain time or that and making me worry, just wondering if any of u lovely ladies has done this option b4?

dd is only 14 weeks so im unsure if there is help in these places if like she starts crying and my ex is unsure of wot to do etc as he hasnt had much hands on experience of feeding changing etc and now she is also showing the signs of teething and can b quite crabby.
any advice greatly appreciated.....