TAC, no, definately NOT kidding...Im sure I told you, in fact I swear I did....... it also had £30.00 of argos vouchers in...which of course we didnt send back...boys needed new bedding and all....it was last year, and when it came to Charlies actual Birthday.....he sent nothing......this year he got the child and dates right and sent them a tenner....woohooooooo

Nicky.......personally I would give your son the card......and slowly but slowly it will start to sink in what a total prat his dad is.....BUT......the only way he will see it......is by allowing him to have the card. Once he realises his dad has no idea how old he is...everything else will fall into place.....you are not being a bad mother, just giving him what was sent and passing it on....which if you dont...when he does find out later it was witheld...regardless of the reason...it will come and bite your ass......

My boys just open their cards, take the cash and bin the card. They no longer stop to read, its simply grab the cash and grab the argos catalogue......simple creatures.....x

cheers girls, im probably not going to give it to him, i would of done if it had the right age on it and just something simple but I think he is just trying to play games with me and use the boys if that makes any sense at all. Why are men such prats !!!

To OP, I'd say to put card back in the post return to sender with "My son is 8, NOT 9" wrote on the back.

Sounds like a total Idiot hun.

*hug*

ha ha manic ur kidding?

whilst were on the subject lol

my ex sent card (only 2 days late) but with no postage -

Hmmmmmm......harsh/fluffy/harsh/fluffy......tsk tsk........ok......

Last year.....March to be exact.......we recieved a birthday card on/around the 20th......from the father of the year.....saying....To Charlie, have a wonderful birthday mate, I think about you all the time and love and miss you very much.......

However....the finer detail being......

March is JACKS Birthday (the 30th actually)

The 20th is JOSEPH'S Birthday (which is June)

And June 30th is CHARLIE'S actual Birthday

SO....look on the bright side......2 out of 3 for your ex aint bad.....and I could tell you what I was told.....from a mate at work which was ...be grateful he bothered.....or.........you can do what I DID do....return it, with the dates of birth written on the back for further reference and tell him when his memory returns, you may consider sending him a photo so he can recognise his children and if the mood takes you, you may show them a picture of him thus returning the favour........

Ignore the f/b message......he was probably drinking at the time!

yes id email back too about the age thing - with something very sarcastic - as for showing ur son imnot sure hun- if you think itll upset him on his special day perhaps show him the next day?only u know how ur son will react really

happy birthday 8 yr old xx

I would email him back and let him know how he got the age wrong .....see what his excuse is!!

Ooh....that makes me soooo angry ....my ex-bil was like that, played the injured party saying how my sister deserted him (he treated her very bad and she was more than willing for him to see the boys when it suited him)and then demands to see his kids when hes the one that lets them down ,only gives them cards/pressies when he remembers etc etc.......

The thing is ,is that you know the truth and all the people who matter to you know the truth too so don't worry about what others think.

i am fuming. its my eldests birthday tomorrow he going to be 8.anyway he hasnt seen his dad for around 20months now, communications broke down and he didnt bother, i also have a 3 year old who wouldnt even recognise his dad now.

he emailed me on facebook totally out of the blue saying he had posted morgan a card and he doesnt understand why i dont let him see the boys and all his mates say he should turn up on my door and demand to see them, but wait for it he said he was too nice for it!!! the bloody cheek of him have had no money off of him and he basically kicked us out the house we was living in forcing a sale of the house.

so the card turned up yesterday, i opened it and the t*** only got a card with aged 9 on it. cant even bloody remember his sons age its not that hard he was born in the year 2000, insides it reads hoping to see you soon son from your ( and the your is in huge writing) daddy. i dont know what to do now i probably would of given it to him if the bloody age was right!!! i just cant believe men are that thick to not remember their kids ages, oh and both kids didnt get anything  from him christmas and birthday last year !!