Yeah you're right, I did say it was OK as I thought he needed the money but he is just making excuses. He says he's getting rid of his king size bed he's got for a single and maybe I should suggest getting her a bed as well at the same time.

Cos the way it stands now I don't feel comfortable with her going there and that's enough for me to say no. We have no legal arrangements in order which is what makes things tricky, I feel like I don't know where I am from one day to the next with him whether he's having her or not and that's no good for any of us, especially our lo.

Because he's doing work on the house there's ladders in the hallway and tools everywhere which is another reason I don't want her there! He is making things really difficult for me.

A ready bed would be better than a travel cot.  There's nothing wrong with them sharing a room.

Maybe he needs the lodger for the money aspect, but I would be telling him to be making sure the person taking the room knows he has a young daughter who stays over, so there is the possibility of her waking in the night.  He's finding problems, not solutions and I'd be quite frank and tell him that.  Tell him straight that a good father would make time no matter how much work he was doing on the house, a good father would make sure his tenant was suitable for his daughters arrangements, not that his daughter was suitable for his tenants arrangements and that he's not making a very good impression on you right now.  Maybe a short sharp shock is what he needs?

I posted on here a few days ago at my husband's lack of comitment with seeing our daughter, citing another excuse for not seeing her, saying he's working on the house. He said he was doing it for me and I asked what that meant and he said it was to sell it and I can get my 'bit.'

I think it's a convenient excuse so as not to have to get up early if I was to drop her off before work etc. Anyway, I've just found out he's taking a lodger into his house and they are going to stay in our lo's room! Therefore my lo will not have a room at her dads.

He says he wouldn't feel happy with her sleeping in her own room with someone else staying in the house and that it's not fair on the other person if he's getting up through the night to her!!! So he's basically putting the lodger first.

He reckons she will sleep in the travel cot in his room. I haven't pointed out to him that she's 2 so won't be in the travel cot much longer. And this lodger is going to be there for 6 months so she would have changed loads by then! He said she's only a baby, she's adaptable, she won't know!!!! He genuinely doesn't see my problem. I said my problem is that her room no longer exists!