thanks Pink...i really am stuck on what to do...my ex's mum and brother knew i was pregnant from the start and didnt get in contact then or have been in contact now (shes 9 weeks old today) since allegedly he asked them not to...but his sister was told by his brother 2wks before i gave birth that i was pregnant and when she asked Andy he told her its none of her business, but she basically said sod the lot of you, im getting in touch anyway. I come from a really close family and this just wouldnt have happened...i dont want emma brought up like that

My ex's sister got in touch with me via facebook about a month ago asking to meet up so she could meet my little girl (Kaycie was 2 at the end of last month.)  We met up with her and my dd's Nan and cousins at a play area- we made out it was a chance meeting to the Nan because she would of told dd's Dad that we had planned it if she knew.  After the meeting, the aunty phoned her Dad and told him about meeting us and asked him how he felt about her meeting up with us again.  He went mental and said that if she even spoke to me again or saw my little girl at all then he would disown the family! (He lives on a planet u see where the world revolves around him!)  We've met up a few time since but she is keeping it a secret from him for now.  she thinks he will come round to the idea in time (although in 2 years of her life and 7 months of pregnancy that he knew of my daughter exsisting, he hasn't- so I'm a ittle sceptical!)

It's been nice to meet up with my daughter's family- they have given me some medical history on the family which he never thought to mention when asked!  But on the 3 occassions we've met- his sister does mention a lot how her brother 'really should see his daughter' and that 'it's not fair she suffers as she's the innocent one in this all!'  Which annoys me because I did nothing wrong either- he just walked away and said he never wanted to know his child.  And I find myself thinking more and more these days that now my daughter has gotten to the age of 2 and he has not once bothered with her, then really I feel it has now come to a time where if he did phone and say he wanted to meet her, I'd be a bit inclined to say that he could meet her when she was ready to meet him.  Not that this is likely to happen at all. But anway, for the time being it is really nice for my little girl to know that some of that side of her family care about her.

thats exactly how i think it wil be for my dd...... its a tough one!

iv had no contact with his mother or brother and rarely see her dad,i just thought it might be strange seeing her and her children, and strange for them...seeing their uncles baby without their uncle,and when lo is bigger seeing her auntie and not her daddy x

why arent you sure about seeing her again? (dont worry if you dont want to say!)

i see my ex's borther all the time as he's really nice and loves my dd, and he's her uncle, i think it would be a shame to exclude all her other side of ehr family just for my ex's ways.... (ex barely sees her!!)

it went really well, she was lovely, but not sure about seeing her again and not her dad xx

Hope it went ok!!

how did today go? xxx

good luck

hope it all goes well

im going tomorrow to meet my ex's sister for the first time since having my baby 8 weeks ago, shes keen to maintain contact with me for her sake, which im sort of ok about as apparently she wasnt even told i was pregnant...

anyway...im basically ill tonight with nerves, i just want to tell her whats actually gone on, then il decide whether or not i want her to have a relationship with my daughter

need a bit of encouragment xxx