Thanks. I just keep thinking that there were good reasons for me ending it, and I said that I didn't want to try anymore, as I couldn't forget all the sh!t that I got frm him when we were together. I'm scared to even consider trying again aswell, as if it didn't work out I would feel even more guilty. And I don't want to confuse the kids either. 

Could of been the kick up the arsé that he needed. Sometimes they are just plain stupid and do not realise how good that have it until you leave or kick them out.

What I would say though is dont rush into things. Do it on your terms, and let him know what you expect from him. He has to be aware that if he slips back into old habits that is it, there will not be another chance.

hi everyone!

my husband and i split up 7 weeks ago, as i'd had enough of feeling like  single mum. we had been together for 4 years. when i was pregnant with dd1 he went out getting p***ed whenever he wanted, didn't tell me he was going anywhere, just strolled home in the early hours. i also found texts between him and another girl on 2 occaisions (including pictures!). when dd1 was born i did everything, looked after baby, the house, the lot. he barely lifted a finger. he still went out drinking whenever he wanted. then i got pregnant with dd2, and the going out drinking got worse again. and again, after she was born he didn't do hardly anything to help. he would come home from work, and sit in front of the computer for hours. at the weekends he would laze around in bed, while i got up with the girls, then when he did get up he would sit in front of the tv or computer all day, and ignore the girls. i told him on numerous occaisons to sort himself out, grow up etc, but things never changed. i left him 7 weeks ago, as i was sick of it all.

now, he is being much more mature, being wonderful with the girls etc, and helping out when i need him to etc. now i'm not sure how i feel. i never stopped loving him, it just got squashed by anger at how he treated me and the kids. now i'm starting to remember what a great bloke he is, and i keep thinking that maybe he has had his wake up call, and we may be able to sort things out. am i being crazy? any advice would be welcome. i'm so confused!