it hurts but like last poster said look at the bigger picture he's done you a favour.  i bet he's like my ex, can't be on his own and will just treat her like s*** too.  just imagine if your son had a girlfiriend treating him like your ex treated you. you'd be glad he'd escaped and could find happiness.xx

i dont mean to sound blunt but it sounds to me as if hes done you a mega favour. you need to get support from family and friends and keep your chin up. let him get on with his life with her - at the end of the day try and move on hun i know its easier said then done but you will find ur soul mate one day...it might not come straight away but it will you never know whats around the corner. i hope you can work thru this and get yourself together for you and your son. let her get cheated on, abused, mentally and physically. i hope you feel better soon were here if u wanna chat xx

Well at least he's proven what a complete tossbag he is! So you won't have any doubts that you made the right decision to split. If it was me I'd be thanking my lucky stars I got out now!

I have just found out that my sons dad who I have just split up with (who was abusive, cheated on me, lied etc) has gone back to the girl he was with before me, 4/5 years ago.  

You may have read my previous posts, I truly loved him and he treated me so badly for so many years!

When I was pregnant with lo the ex came home one night after a night out and didn't delete his texts, he had sent her one saying I know I am with someone else but I still love you!  He sent her a birthday card the first year we were together but didn't get me one! But managed to explain his way out of these!

I am so heartbroken I can't put into words. I feel like he has totally used me for all these years to help him with work and provide him with a son.

She already had a daughter and he would never have had a child with her! It feels like now he has got what he wants from me and fufilled his duty as 1st born son (very culturally aware family) he has gone back to be with her - who by now has 2 daughters.

I am in bits. I really am. This hurts more than the abuse, the prostitutes etc etc.