It  sounds like its time to give him a kick up the arse!!  Ask him what he wants from your relationship because your not happy the way things are going.

I've been on my own since the end of last year and life is much easier now, i have less stress therefore make a better mum to my little girl. 

As for finances, use the entitledto.co.uk website which gives you an idea of what you may be eligible for.

Good luck and i hope all works out for you

hi...I think you need to sit down and talk to your oh......you say that he wasn't like it b4 lo was born so maybe its all getting to him more than he thought it would........although that is in no way a good excuse for treating you like this. Tell him you need to talk, that you can't go on like this and have been feeling like a single parent.........sometimes these things can be sorted out.

I've been separated from my dh since May.....its been an emotional roller coaster,lol......but I'm better off without him ,both emotionally and financially. Once you sort out the money side of things ,it gets easier.

Oh where do I start!?!? He's hardly ever in, always off with his mates & frequently out til 2/3am then sleeps til 2pm, gets up & is out again... he does nothing around the house and hardly anything with our 1 month old dd except give her a bottle on v rare occasions... but then how could he when he's never in!? I may as well be a single parent!!! He wasn't like this before she was born :s

To top it off he's now not come home at all til next day 4 times in last 2 weeks... including last night and he's still not back now!! Last spoke to him just after 4am when he said he'd be 10 mins YEAH RIGHT!  I'm so upset & angry... I really don't know what to do Part of me thinks just kick him out as i'm basically lookin after dd on my own so why not just be single... yea it will hurt in beginning but i'm hurting any way and in long run surely i'm better off out of it???

My family are all in the north so if i do leave i'd go back there so i'd have some support.

How do you ladies manage both emotionally & financially?