You could let him take him/her to the park or some where that they can have a nice time and you watch from a distance. know my mum did this with me and my sister and i had no idea but she said it was a way for her to know we were ok and for my dad to get quality time with us and a distraction from crying if entertained. My little boy cried for months when he was smaller and i dropped him off, know hes three and knows it is just the norm for daddy to come and get him every fortnight for one night so it does get easier x

My 21 month old LO screams for 2 hours out of the 3 his father sees him for each month... unless we take him out somewhere (which I try to avoid) then he doesn't even notice he's there.

hi there when i got with my ex he had another son who he ahd contact with, after seeing his son in a contact session and it going back to court for a review they advised if the mother felt comfortable to have contact outside the centre at first this was done with the mother around incase anything was to go wrong. after this he then started to have his son alone but under the condition that the mother knew where they were going and what time they where due to come back. they made sure they had to right phone numbers if something was to happen and to ring if they had changed where they were going i.e it started to rain!
it seemed to work well and they always had checks to see how it was going!
dont do what you dont feel comfortable with and just see how it goes and if u do let it go outside the contact centre make sure its all on ur terms

hope this helps a lil xx

You could let him have some unsupervised access when you go back to court the judge is likely to ask how contacts been going in the centre and if everythings been going well will probably want it to progress. Its good that you can both talk now it makes it a whole lot easier for your child as well h un, hope court goes well x

personnally i would keep to the contact centre's for as long as possible and maybe review it in a few months time... and go through ur solicitor to arrange it, say 1 hour a month on his own plus contact centre visits... he needs to gain ur daughters trust (as well as urs) but it does take time...

my lo is 17 months and still crys if im not in the room when x is there.... we dont do contact centres, we just dont talk lol its ok now but a while ago it was awkward silences... i just play wow and let them be, and its taken me a long time to be able to do that!

have posted on here  couple of times about me and my ex using a contact centre for him to c dd but was just wondering, ex has been keeping to the times and everything and the past couple of times we have started talking again (mainly because when he lifts dd out of pram she sticks her bottom lip out and then starts crying so have been staying with them just so she knows i am there though she is only 5 months so not sure if she making strange or not)

but anyway we due back in court for a review in 2 weeks and was considering letting my ex take dd out of contact centre for a couple of hours each week, but can access be arranged for outside the contact centre through the court or is it just arranged by personal agreement between me and my ex??? am still only considering this but would like to have something official in place rather than just me saying to him?

also wondering does any of your lo's cry when they go to their dads? i dont no if i could leave her for a couple of hours knowing that she will cry at first but at the same time i want her to no her dad and he wants to no her just dont want to b cruel

sorry its so long and i hope it makes sense lol