Thanks girls, my little one is 3 and a half. I spoke to a legal team and they say that the ex cannot stop me moving anywhere in the UK and like i said its only 30 mins by car from where the ex lives. She also told me that unless my boyf has a criminal record then it will not affect my court case at all, she said the ex cannot dictate whom i see. I feel so much better having spoke to someone that knows for sure but i really appreciate all your advice and comments x

I *think* that ex can stop you moving more than 200miles away. He may be able to contest this move but TBH I think he'd be laughed out of court - 30mins isn't much for him to travel to see his child!

He CAN contest it, BUT considering its only 30 mins away I doubt he'd have a leg to stand on.  As long as you/solicitor can argue why your LO would be better off in your new place and your reasons for moving I doubt you'd have a problem.

The whole thing of an ex being able to contest a house move I'm guessing was brought in to stop bitter ex's moving to different continents just to stick one up their ex's. 

Hi hun, i havent been through a court case but how old is your lo? I can only help upto the age of 3 with experience but i would say for any age to just have him there on a day out (somewhere that isnt your lo’s territory), round for a coffee a couple of weeks later but dont hold hands, kiss, cuddle etc, just act like mates for a while. After a couple of months sit on the sofa with his arm round you and see how they respond. Just take things slowly from there hun

Im pleased you have some happiness to take your mind off it all

Jennie x

You would really have to ask your solicitor these things but I dont think moving 30 minutes away is excessive, several hours maybe but definately not 30 minutes.  As for the new relationship, I dont see how it could be held against you. Your ex may try to make out its a negative thing but I cant see any judge taking it into consideration. You might be a mummy but you are still allowed a life!

ok well first of all I am in the middle of a court case with my lo's dad over joint residence of our son and the ex is making life difficult for me especially with the costs as im currently paying all the court fees. anyway I am in a relationship with a lovely guy, he knows all about my ex, the court case and my little one and he still wants to be with me. So far things are going wonderful and we are taking things slowly however I have just got myself and my son a place of our own to live. Because our new home is about 30 mins away from lo's dad I have been told that the ex may contest my moving through the courts. We would also be too far away from where my new man lives to see eachother more than once a week (which is what we both dont really want), the only way i can see the relationship working is if he is able to come to my new place but that would mean him meeting my son.

So my questions are Can the ex contest my moving with lo and if yes would he be able to stop us moving? and second how do i introduce lo to my new man and would me having a new relationship effect my court case? this is something my new man is really worried about as it could cause trouble in our relationship.

Thanks in advance for any advice xxx