wow i was just wondering about that as i thought i would have had some email saying it had been received,thanks for that!

i know he's gonna start all this sh*t about "she tricked me"...ugh i can't be bothered!

Was that the CSA form you did on line?  If it was, I would ring them up and ask them to take the claim over the phone because I know from personal experience (and a few friend's experience) that these on line forms vanish!  After you have made the claim, I would call them regularly to chase them.

well i just filled out the form online, he messaged me saying he'd changed his number so thats that!

Phone the CSA hun, even if you dont want the money, its what your LO is entitled to by law.  My ex promised he'd provide everything, but nothing materilised until I phoned them.  Even if he refuses to pay, it kinda works in your favour as they'll - eventually - try to get it direct from his employer and if that doesn't work... if he ever trys to go down the court for access route it will look really bad that he hasn't paid a penny.

Keep a log of any texts, calls etc. and make sure you keep the exact dates/times written down for stuff if you can.

If he isn't bothering with access, then I'd say don't go down the legal route atm - unless you want to - the chances are he'll never bother to contact you.  If he is seeing your LO atm but not on set times/dates, then it would be worth seeing a solicitor to get them to put forward a schedule of visits, that way if he breaks them you've got it all in writing what days he's supposed to visit etc and things cant resort to "he said" "she said".

not really sure wot the circumstances r involving u and ur ex, u can get a non-molestation order preventing him from harassing u, but u need to have evidence (i got one against my ex but i had police reports and text messages) and you have to go to a solicitor who puts it to the court for a magistrate to grant it, although ur ex can then go to court to contest it. 

though i wouldnt really encourage this as it is a pain in the ass goin to court all the time, and unless u get legal aid u will have to pay. good luck, hope u get things sorted out x

I havent prevented him seeing her, he's cancelled on us, not turned up and made absolutely no effort towards seeing her, he went a full week with absolutely no contact and if i dont text/email him, he never bothers, yet i've still tried to keep him involved.

i don't feel like i can be the one to draw the line and tell him to leave us alone, but if she gets older and he still behaves like that, not turning up, not being there for her at important times etc, i cant allow her to be disappointed and hurt,

i just dont know what to do

Why is he been so nasty about things? Are you preventing him seeing lo? If your willing for him to see your baby i would go to a solicitor and get teh times and days set out that your happy with that way it proves your not preventing him from seeing lo and may get him off your back a little.

As for the money go to the CSA and get what your entitled to hun x

my ex has seen my daughter 6 times in her 12 weeks of life...and is constantly giving me nothing but abuse and hassle, has provided her with a total of 1 outfit, 1 jacket and a cuddly toy, and constantly blames me for him not seeing her, he went on holiday when she was in hospital ill and gives me no money to support her...

recently, he's beginning to make my life hell, calling me the most evil person he's ever known...all im trying to do is give my daughter the excellent life she deserves.

i changed my number but its not enough, is there anything i can do to get him off my back, some kind of official thing?