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19/6/08 01:04
18/6/08 13:21
hi ladies awww its good uv told them its scary but wen its done its such a weight from ur mind i got pregnant at 17 planned and my mum was really mad as my partner is bengali and said baby wud b picked on ect...im now 24 have 3 gorgeous mixed race children and me and my partner have been 2getha 12 years and r expecting our 4th so just shows u neva no wot can happen!!
15/6/08 14:33
Glad its going well!
Good luck with the scan hun!
15/6/08 12:26
Just wanted to say thank you to everyone for sharing your stories, my Dad actually took it a lot better than my Mum did. She's actually coming round to the idea now and wants to tell everyone (although I want to wait until Ive had my scan on wednesday). xx
14/6/08 20:43
I moved out at 18, got engaged last year on my 22nd birthday.
I don't care if my mums dissapointed or not, it's not up to her, I'm an adult, I look after myself and my DF, we're happy.
I'm not telling her until the second trimester. It's our baby, not hers. We're going to be the ones bringing him/her up.
I mean unless our parents are going to be the ones supporting our kids, waking up to them screaming every night and buying everything for them, then they don't really have the right to be dissapointed.
IMO.
But then again, everyones situation is different.
I could cure world hunger and bring about world peace and my mother would still find something to be dissapointed with! lol!
14/6/08 19:36
hi. i was 18 when i found out i was pregnant with my DS, i did test and forgot about it and i came back and looked at it and it was positive. Me and DS dad had split up. I shouted to my mum could she come upstairs and showed her the test, she said oh your pregnant and went and told my dad. She offered me both options, keeping baby or abortion. She did that as a good parent, she was willing to support me both ways. Her and my dad had there loft converted for me and my DS, my mum came to all my scans and was my birthing partner. When i found i was pregnant with the baby no2 im 29+5 at the moment. My period was late, i sent DP to shop (i already told my mum my period was late) i did test and we both sat in shock as it said postive. We had been together 5 months. I didnt no what to do, i told my mum and she loved me and DP and told him her and my dad was here for us. My DP mum and dad were shocked. I knew i didnt want an abortion, after seeing DP with my DS and how he treated and excepted him as his own flesh and blood, why would i get rid of his baby. This was the week before xmas, and i felt it made xmas awkard as everyone was getting use to the idea. I remeber my DP dad being funny with me, so made my DP take me home. I cried to my mum telling her i didnt want to get rid of baby and she said i didnt have too. My DP rang and asked me if i would come back to his house, when i got there his dad hugged me and said we should all be supporting you not having a go at you. Thats where the subject ended, we were keeping the baby. Everyone is really excited about baby, even DP dad felt baby kick, at 5 weeks pregnant i would of never thought that would happen. Things always turn out for the best!!
10/6/08 15:26
hiya everybody! i was terrified to tell ma mum and dad, more so than anybody else. i actually had to tell my auntie first who im quite close to. she came round when i was going to tell my mum and dad but i couldnt even open my mouth lol. the words just wouldnt come out! so i just burst into tears and they kind of knew. they both just cuddled me and said everythin would be fine. im 20 btw, forgot to say. i dont know what id have done if they'd got upset because of how upset i was. so i feel for anyone whos mums and dads get upset at first, luckily mine were both great and excited from the word go. but understandably, a lot of you girls on here are a bit younger than 20, and i suppose im considered an adult now, but i definetely dont feel it!
but if you look at the stories below, the parents tht got upset, eventually came round, so you shouldnt stress urself. its not gd for mother or baby!
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8/6/08 16:11
I was completely wrong to worry as much as I did. After putting it off for the last 3 months I finally had a talk with my dad. I fully expected him to turn up on our doorstep with knuckledusters warmed up and polished ready for my partner but on the phone he seemed really happy and congratulated us both. He'd still rather that I had graduated first but life has a funny way of working out well regardless of the bumps on the way.
7/6/08 09:43
hey hun. try nto 2 stress about it.
i was 19 when i got pregnant with ds. 20 when he was bron. im now 22 and having my 3rd in 2 years! my dad was fine but in laws were horrible. theyve hated every time im rpegnant... they havent even acknowledged this baby and im 21 weeks!
enjoy ur baby hun n ul b fine!
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6/6/08 22:00
My parents are separated and living in separate countries so telling them has been quite hard. My mum was the easiest because I knew that she'd be shocked initially then be ok with it but I really couldn't predict the reaction of my dad. I completely chickened out and sent him and his wife an e.mail with a copy of my scan photo so they would have the chance to read it, reread it then call me when they've calmed down to discuss it properly.
I told my mum about 8 weeks ago and she's really coming round to the idea and has been incredibly supportive although at first she was quite upset because I'd worked so hard to get into uni and stuff that she didn't want me to throw that away. She did suggest that I have an abortion but that sent me into floods of tears and I couldn't stop for about 3 hours, she felt so bad that she brought me a milkshake and a huge bar of chocolate and apologised!
Still waiting for a reply from my dad.. really wish I hadn't done it by e.mail now!
6/6/08 19:08
with my first i fell pregnant at 17 i was so scared but told my mum she broke down in tears and sad she was dissapointed and she couldnt talk to me because she was so upset with me... well since i was like 20 weeks gone at the time so i thought she had to get use to it...
well everyone found out straight away and was happy for me... my mum phoned me the following day and she was actually more ok with it but said my dad was not i wasnt his daughter anymore no daughter of his would get pregnant at 17 and not be married and id have to get married and this and that and the other...
took my dad a week to come round to it but then he was sooooo excited and that .. the second time round told my parents and my dad was really chuffed for us he loved the idea i was having another my mum straight away said how can you afford a new baby this and that and the other .... but she was not mad or anything and she was fine after about 10 minutes once the shock went down
so now they are really happy
it does take time but your mum will come round to the idea and be really excited before you no it
6/6/08 13:24
Dnt worry they will come around my mum and my boyfriends parenst flipped they told me i should abort the baby and said some really horrible things. im 17 and my partner is 19 so i can see why they are worried il be 18 a weeks after my little man is born. i didnt think thy were ever going to accept it but they have and they are all excited and have spent a fortune on thier grandson! try not to stress urself about it cos thats not good when ur pregnant take it easy and keep positive everything will turn out alrite xXx
6/6/08 09:40
keep your chin up girl.im 22 and i just found out im having twins.i was 15 when i got pregnant with my son.my mam and dad were really dissapointed but they came around in the end and wouldnt be without their grandson now
6/6/08 08:27
i wudnt worry bout it too much i got preg at 15 wit my 1st my mum told me 2 abort but wen she saw my bump n felt him move she got so excited n woz the only 1 at birth wit me
6/6/08 07:10
i know how you feel. I even got my bf to tell my mum cuz i was scared of what she'd say and then she thought he was joking. she was wuite dissapointed as i was 17 at the time but now shes so excited i cant believe it. even my dad is excited, he wont admit it, but i can tell, i didnt tell him either, someone else did now they are fine about it.
Dont worry too much about it. Your mum and dad will come around, if mine did anyones will lol. Good Luck and i hope everything goes well.
jade (36+3)
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6/6/08 05:38
hey i know what ya going through lol when i 1st told my mum she burst into tears and went on and on and on about how she has failed me as a mum etc lol and my partner and i were just recently engaged! lol so i just didnt talk to her until she came to me all embarrassed and said "sorry for the song and dance i think youl be a good mum but im still a bit disapointed" and i said youl get over it granny!! haha! that shocked her a bit but made her cheer up to see how confident i was lol so dont worry they will come around eventually and if they dont there not worth getting upset over.
when i told dad it was a waaaay different story lol he really suprised me! i expected him to get mad and threaten to kill my fiance lol but he smiled gave me a massive hug and said "this is going to be really cool! im gonna be a grandad!!! ive dreamt of this day for years and even though its a little early than expected ive never been more excited! now i will definetely get to see my grandchild grow!" i just stood there with my mouth open lol! and mum wacked him across the head with a newspaper hahaha!! but my dad is dying of Lukiemia so im guessing that would have had something to do with it!!
5/6/08 22:22
I am 19 - Mum cried when i first told her, she couldnt eat or sleep which made me feel awful. She was disappointed, said i did so well at college and now i am throwing it all away. Everyone kept tellign me she will come round and start getting excited at the thought of a baby, but i thought not cuz mum isnt like that, she isnt big on kids! But despite what i thought it took 5 weeks for the complete turn around when i got a text from mum when she was with friends "Evry1 keeps calling me granny, i wil b so proud wen it finally happens". ur mum needs time, but if she is anything like my mum she will get excited, ive hardly brought a thing, mum keeps buying it all and getting herself really excited.
Katie 19 + 6 x
5/6/08 22:19
Aww hun, sorry to hear things didnt go so well
But dont worry, they'll come around. Its just the initial shock of you growing up and not being there baby anymore. My mum was upset more than anything, altho now she buys more than i do, and dad didnt talk to me for a week.But talk to them if you feel down about it. Say you want there support, and its happened so make the most of your pregnancy and dont threat over what anyone else says.
Hope everything goes well for ya hun. Rachael, 32+3 x
5/6/08 20:51
Exactly, ok we could all be happily married, have amazing career's n a nice big house first, but its not always like that is it.
How do u feel about it is all that matters at the moment? R u happy?
xxx
5/6/08 20:43
She was just disappointed as I only graduated from University in 2007 and my job had just started to pick up lately. I do wish I was older and married and had an amazing career.. but things dont always come in the order you want them to! xxx
hiya hun ur mum will come round i was 19 when i got preg n 20 when i had mia, my mum kicked me out, screamed at me 2 get an abortion n everything, she lasted bout 2months n my dad was only like it 4 a few weeks lol. she will come round dnt worry, ide b the same wiv my daughter n u probably would 2 CONGRATULATIONS BTW.{C}
MIA IS 3 MONTHS NOW, IM JUS BEIN NOSY ON HERE LOL
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