Hi I just wanted to add that my 4.5 year old has been reluctant to go into preschool and wanted to stay at home. He's fine and happy once he's in but been very clingy to me when it's time to go in. I am 31 weeks pregnant hence the similarity to you. I had a good talk to him and it turned out he was concerned that I would go into labour without him around to help. He said he wanted to be with me to look after me while I was getting closer to having the baby and was worried about me. I've told him baby shouldn't come until after he leaves preschool (due 6th Aug) and that he mustn't worry about mummy as mummy would phone daddy and his preschool. The things that go through their little heads! I have also decided to home educate my son as I don't like the idea of sending him to school a few weeks after the arrival of our baby. There are other reasons too. Glad to hear things have improved and good luck with your pregnancy! Jude x

hi thanx so much for ur advice everything seems 2 be ok now he is goin 2 school and not cryin every mornin

he has told me that he is goona help alot when the baby is born and be very helpful

get him at a relaxed, quiet moment and make it clear to him that there isn't anything he can't tell you, that he should never be worried about anything, that telling the truth is always a good thing (even if it's about something bad he's done or been involved in) and that you will love him no matter what.  Then leave it a day or so and re-approach the 'why don't you want to go to school' thing but not in the morning when you are trying to get him out of the door but again when he's relaxed.  Sit with him and eat in the evenings and chat about his day - if he's reluctant to talk to you, tell him about your day instead so it becomes normal.  Chat about the baby, what will happen when it arrives, how he can help you and what it will be like to have a baby in the house, taht kind of thing.  It sounds to me like he's worried about his position when the baby arrives - but probably finds it hard to express and doesn't really know what his problem is at the end of the day!  Hope it all works out - let us know how you get on.

my mate has started workin at his school this week and ive asked her how he is gettin on she has told me he is doing well but he is very quite when it comes to workin in groups.

ive asked him b4 why he doesnt want to go to school and all i get out of him is (i dont know).

Home educate him. Your going to be at home with a new baby anyway.

I would guess he sees a fair few changes at home coming up and he is feeling a bit left out / jealous of it all - you will be at home with new baby and he will be at school - he will be missing out !!!  Have you sat him down and asked him why?  If there is a problem at school, perhaps he is struggling with one particular area?  Perhaps invite a friend round for tea - although that may be the last thing on your mind at 30 weeks pregant !!!  Try and weedle it out of him, he may just need reassurance that you are still going to love him when the new baby comes along or it may be something more.

How is he when he gets to school?  is he happy to be left?  does the teacher say that he is doing well?

hi i need some advise my 6 yr old son never wants to to go school every mornin he always says cryin because doesnt want to go ive been and told the school and all they said is we will keep a eye on him im 30 weeks pregnant and i dont know what to do plz help