Hello, I have not experienced this but I agree with the previous post that just because your son says he is happy in school it does not necessarily mean that he is. As you have said he did not have the wetting problem when he was not in school and it could be possible that it is the teacher who is the problem. From what you have said they do not seem interested in finding out what is causing this they are more interested in telling you about your child's behaviour which is a completely separate issue. If you have gone there to discuss his wetting then the fact that he won't sit on his chair shouldn't even be brought up! I hope you can eventually get to the bottom of this xx

We live in rural France and the schools local to us are very small 2 class rooms to cover ages 2-11 years old. There is only 20months between my oldest 2 and they were in the same class. Some of what his teacher said and did to him has only just come out fully 2 years on. He too would say he liked school etc it was what he thought we wanted him to say.

We knew it wasn't a good school as our oldest had been in year 2 before we left and she said the teacher couldn't controll the class!!!!! We were asked to see head and teacher often he was getting blame for things etc and they expected him to be fluent in French in less than 6 months!!!!!!!!He came back from school twice where he'd wet himself at age 6.

We got the full story that the teachers wouldn't let him off the step where he had been put as punishment to go to wee. So he wet him self in front of the whole school on the steps they had to go back into school on!!!!!!!! 

It all came to a head when he misbehaved and she hit him leaving bruises on his face. We managed to change schools mid year within 24hrs, this unheard of in France. He has been at his new school for 2&1/2 years now and the min he started he stopped wetting the bed started to behave less agressively and was happier. He is no longer as scared of teachers it took him 2 terms to dare speak to his new teacher when he moved up a class.

Emma

not really we already moved to be near this school because it was the better school for him and has made friends i think that be more stressful for him

ive asked him if he likes school,teachers etc and he says yes hes happy but dont want to keep on at him

how did you find out he was being picked on?

We had this with my son. The bed wetting is down to stress he only does it when he is stressed. His teacher was picking on him at school, the other kids were joining in.

We moved schools and he no longer wet the bed behaviour improved in short he was a different child. He has only had a cple of bed wetting incidences since when he moved up a class and got a new teacher and they  had teething troubles.

Is it possible for him to move schools for the start of the new year?

Emma

he has been in full time schooling for over a year so i think he would be use to it by now and he does not do it every day

ive got him to draw faces of how he feels about school,teachers,class friends even about him going to the toliet and about him messing/weeing himself and each one has a happy face except the weeing/messing

Could it be an attatchment thing???

Could he be doing it cos he misses you???

Children all react differently

thanks to all for their replies                                                                                                      JAMI74  we have talked to the school and they never mention him not going to the toliet but when we have they just say he has good access to them and thats it but they always mention his behaviour that he wont sit still,pushed someone etc

as for food he does not have school dinners he takes in a packed lunch so i can monitor what he eats

we have tried and asking him but all he says is he dont no why but dont want to keep on at him either

SUZ2006 i have already asked the school this and they have basically said no they dont want me coming in cause if they do it for one child the other kids will want their parents in

ive asked him if he likes school and he says yes, i think ive tried most things and dont no what or where to go next, i just feel im trying to help him with no sucesses

To be sure if it is the environment of the school that it is troubling him in some way, if you don't have other comintments (work or other kids) you could volunteer to help in the school for a couple of days and being in there but from the distance (ie not being always on him) Check his behaviour and how he play with other kids and see how he is at home that evenings.

Do you really think it's a behavioural thing? If you think it is school related (which you must do otherwise you wouldn't have mentioned that it didn't happen during half term) then you need to get to the bottom of what's going on at school to cause it. It might not necessarily be related to bullying, maybe he doesn't like using the toilets at school so is holding on until it's too late or maybe he eats different foods there which affect him differently, or maybe it is related to something that is causing him stress. I haven't experienced anything like this, my kids aren't at school, but I didn't want to read and run. Hope you find a way of helping your son soon. 

yeah that was our next option

yeah we already spoke to our hv who gave us some options about his behaviour  but will go back

yeah we spoke to him and from what i can gather he said that a boy chases and was fighting with him but when we spoke to his teacher they said it was play fighting (power rangers)that got carried away but its always my son thats the one who gets in trouble cause hes pushed or hit some1

I would seek a health rofessionals opinion TBH, just incase there is an underlying problem

Then I would possibly get my HV to tackle it with me

Have you talked to your son about school???

i desperately need advice about 5 year old son

he is going to school and academiclly doing well the main problem is he is weeing and messing himself  and started wetting the bed again but when he was off school for half term he did not do any of this we discussed with his teacher about bullying but they shifted the blame to our son and his behaviour

we have done sticker charts and taking him to the toliet before we go to bed

can any one advice what to do please