hi - i have been going through this with my 16 yr ol dd for the past year, she has now been officially moved out for 3 months and things have gone from bad to worse and she is becoming someone i dont even recognise anymore, i wont go into details on here but pm me if you would like to chat x

Thanks for the reply, but my dd does not want to live under my roof now she has been to her dads, and is not wanting to come home.

How do I handle it tonight, do I let her stay with him, or do I make her come home and shell hate us even more.

hi,my ds is 15 years old and like your dd he wants to go and stay with his "real"dad who hasnt seen him 13 years,never provided for him infact totally denied he was his son to his so called girlfriend,telling her he never had any children.....my ds lives with me my partner his 2 brothers and sister......like you i have ground rules coz i firmly believe we need to have them.....he doesnt come in when he is supposed to,he has been caught drinking,smoking and hanging about in a gang and im usually up at the hospital with him every weekend coz he has been in a fight......he seems to think that he will be able to do as he pleases if lives with his dad but his dad is the same can only hold a relationship for a few months if he is lucky......we have put the foot down with him,we dont give him money anymore and if he is late in coming home we ban him from his laptop and ground him and we stick to it now....he is begining to learn that we are the adults and he is the child and rules are in the house to be obeyed.......if he doesnt like them then thats tuff but while he is under our roof he will do as we tell him end of story......hth

my dd aged 15y, has decided she wants to live with her 'real father' (never seen or provided for her ever) beacuse she doesn't like having our house rules & boundries, but her dad thinks it ok for her to stay out drinking, smoking, come in when she likes and goes to bed whenever. at the mo she is staying there temporary (been there a week). coming to discuss more permant arrangments tomorrow night, don't know which way to go with this, really want her home but she is making it really hard.

father is currently just living with a new girlfreind  in her flat,and new gf wants to be my daughters firiend. He also is not ever in a realtionship long.

Advice greatly received.