hi thanks for your replies,im quite proud of myself i managed to get my point across with out sounding like an express train lol.

she is going to refer us which could take up to 2 months but atleast we are now in the system. thanks again xx

Why don't you phone your health visitor and ask her? She will know the GP and probably will give you a clue as to the sort of questions he will ask and the ones you need to ask. The other resource is the school nurse.

I would have thought you would be ok saying that your son has problems with anger and behaviour at school and you would like to be refered to someone who could help you as a family to talk though these issues before it becomes a big problem.

It might be worth writing a letter to the teacher as well. You might find that she sees his behaviour to be within the normal range for boys of his age. That doesn't help home life, but is reasuring that this might be a phase.

My DS is in reception and his behaviour deteriorates if he has a late night or is hungry. We have also found omega 3 oils have helped him to concentrate and behave appropriately.

Good luck. Lucy xx

Could he have allergy triggered hyper activity?

My son has this although it is not as bed as it used to be. Colourings are usualy triggers as are battery hen eggs(colourings in yolk due to feed), fresh orange juice, sugary coloured fruit squash, and monosodium glutamate(MSG/E621) found as a flavour enhancer in a lot of food inc. flavoured crisps, caffinated products(tea,coffee, cola, chocolate).

You can also increase fish oils by suplement which as helped my DS in school but we are still having some problems. We are in France or I would have tried to get him reffered, like your son he was under suspicion in pre school  but pulled it together in reception, we then moved to France.

Having spoken to an older sufferer he said it is like some one else is doing the things not you, your not in control of what your doing, you just do! It's like some one switched off the is this safe or not function in your brain.

Emma

i have a 10 yr old ds who has always had a bit of a temper,even in preschool he was a handful and was refered by them to presens as they thought he maybe borderline adhd.

but after tests etc etc he wasnt and they said maybe he found preschool boring and once at school and his brain is more active he will calm down and yes it was true,he wasnt perfect but much better to control and less manic.

but over the course of the last yr he has started slipping into old ways and is getting aggressive and nasty again,i know his teachers have expressed concerns to me about his silly behaviour and at home hes driving us to our wits end,when i sit and talk to him he is sorry but he cant tell me whats wrong as he says he dosent know himself.i asked him if he would like to chat with someone about his angry feelings and see if he can work them out.he agreed that it sounds a good idea.

i have booked us all into the doctors tonight(me,ds and dh) as we want to help him and hopefully the doctor can refer him to someone he can work his feelings out with,im so worried for his furture if he carries on with this angry behaviour.

his school arent much help hes teacher been off sick everytime i want to arrange a meeting or so it seems and his headmaster is more about his perfect pupils and labels the naughtier ones(i mean he even removed the more hyper children from the class if they have important visitors!!).

so what id like to ask is how do i start of the conversation with the doctor?im not very good with things like this and normally trip over my tongue lol dont want to go in and blurt it all out in one long sentence or sit there like a naughty schoolgirl not knowing what to say.knowing me i shall just blub my way through the meeting lol but any tips would be great.

thanks