Thanks for the replies, you all been a great help, im going back to my dr this week to see what other options he can offer. If nothing else, then i will try other resources. Thank you.

Social services will not take you're children. They dont like taking children from parents, and only do so in extremem cases. It might help just having an adult to talk to who understands your frustration, but they do have connections and the ability to get families the right help and support. A social worker may just be able to get the referral that your children sound to need. There is just not enough resources in schools and such like, its not fair children like yours. All cases should be referred, not just the most severe. Children should be helped before it gets to severe, in the long scheme of things that would save on resources! I cant imagine what it must be like, and I hope you get the support that you all need xxx

i think u shold try ss or speak 2 hv,they have both helped me no end they even sorted out  a charity holiday 4 me and kids,they wont take them from u thats only in extreme cases.they will b able 2 give advice and get u on the right track gd luck hth

I'm sorry I don't really know but didn't want to read and run.

It sounds positively awful. Were your healthvisitors any good? I wonder if they'd be able to offer advice. It's terrible that the GP and school aren't being more helpful. I wonder if it would help to try a different GP.

I don't think social services do take children away just because their parents ask for help but I can understand your fear.

I have 2 kids, both girls, aged 7 and 4, both in full time school. My eldest was diagnosed as having "Hyper-kinetic disorder" when she was 3, and although i have tried to get professional help, no one is willing to give me any, mainly because while she is in school, she is settled and behaved, though has signs of dyslexia so can get very frustrated with herself.  My youngest was diagnosed as being an "elective mute" in nursery, and since starting reception last september, her teacher and i have been working with the educational psycologist to help her inprove her speech and physical respnse, she is like this wherever, when ever. But since before easter, i have been requesting to see the school psych, and with less than 2 weeks of school left, i still dont have an appointment with him.

My eldest i have tried to see 2 child physicians in behaviour, and both had said her condition isnt extreme enough to be taken on board, and my youngest seems to be getting ignored now. Thing is, i need them both referred, their behaviour at home is grinding me down, the eldest will hit and bully the youngest, and with me she screams and turns nasty, the youngest just does not acknowledge anything i say, and her behaviour is now turning nasty, i get woken up most mornings, by being hit. This morning i got woke by my youngest throwiing a roll-on bottle at my face, and my eldest kicking me in the chest........this has been going on for the last 18months on and off, even though i have told the dr's, they still say they are not in the extreme cases, so im just left to deal with it on my own, and i dont know how much more i can cope, i would never hurt my kids, i love them to death, but after trying all dicipline methods, wioth out smacking them, like star charts, praise etc, nothing is helping.

Does anyone know where i can turn to help ? I dont want go social services they will take them from me, they are always welld ressed, fed, clean, and have good manners n front of most people, but i just need help with them.  Sorry for going on so much.