Hi! 

Could you try making rules for when he comes over to play?  When children play in our house (and the same goes for my children in someone elses house) I make sure they know there is no shouting, hitting, throwing etc.  That way the child knows what is expected of them.  I know children will be children, and it doesn't solve all problems, but it might work in this boys case, or at least reduce the bad behaviour when he is at your house.

Hi thanks for the replies.  It's very difficult though when this boy lives right opposite our house as I can't stop him from coming over and so how do I turn him away when he can see other friends playing in our garden/house??  What can I say other than the truth which it seems from what you've said would be too harsh.  He doesn't have any behavioural problems as his mum and I discussed very briefly his loudness, shouting etc the other day and she agreed that he was just a loud boy.  I will try what you said though and let my son say something to the child again and see what happens from there.  Thanks.

Hi i do feel for you but like the other lady said it may cause a lot of problems if you say that, i know you are at the end of you tether, does your son tell the other lad that he doesn't want to play with him. My children just tend to come straight out with it, my eldest son was quiet and there were no friends on his street then my eldest dd just tells them that she isn't their friend, in fact she can be very hurtful with her comments. My second dd is a very friendly girl and will play with anyone to an extent, we walk up with this other boy and his mum sometimes and we have nearly fallen out due to her son being very hyper and constantly hugging and cuddling my daughter and it really annoys her as he is in her face sometimes she will put up with it then others she loses it and tells him straight she doesn't like him his mum isn't pleased and at first she took it to heart i said look i am not going to force my dd to like your son. We didn't walk with each other for a while said hello but it was great then they made freinds again but they are both in the same class and even same group in the class so they see each other constantly anyway they are fine now they are at the end of year 1 so they are used to each other we walk up and down together when we see Melissa as had enough she just drags him off crying because he still doesn't understand bless him that he is in her face, it has worked so far we try to avoid this if possible as we don't want to see him upset we try and set off at different times etc but sometimes we bump into each other. Good luck. Sharon x

I understand where you are coming from but to go over and tell the mum that none of the children want to play with her son is a bit much I think I mean he is only 6 year's old and how do you know that he hasn't got any special needs difficulties.

children that you don't want your child to play with but are neighbours?

A boy has just moved in opposite our house that my 6yr old is also in the same class with.  This boy though is quite aggresive, impolite, loud, etc and my son doesn't want to play with him out of school but this boy can see my son playing outside and wants to join in.  He doesn't look after toys and has no respect.  I don't know whether to have a word with his mum and tell her the truth nicely that none of the children want to play with her son and why but obviously don't want to hurt her feelings.  Surely she needs to know so she can deal with it??  I'd be really sad if someone said that about my son but it's getting to the point where he doesn't want to go out incase he comes over.  Any advice please???!!