I wish my daughter was like that. she is a dirt magnet like they say..lol. I`m the same as in new area but thankfully we have been adopted by my partners family and they are all male..lol. Good to have a little princess, but she enjoys being a tomboy and climbing everything. Keep us informed on how it goes.

His dad doesnt play rough at all with him, and we have no one here that could.  we have moved a new area and are starting from scratch with friends and there are no relatives around

I really feel for him,  he is deemed as one of the "lovely boys" in class, "a pleasure to have" polite and caring, very good at encouraging others to do things and try things when they dont want to, but fighting and rolling around in the mud is not his thing.  He could play in mud all day and come home clean, wheras all his friends owuld be black.  Its not that he doesnt like to get dirty, he just doesnt.  Being allowed to get filthy at school is a new thing, at his old school he wasnt allowed to, and I think that that has also affected the way he plays. 

I think also when he sees my friends boy, he is always tired.  We have upped his level of physcial activity and this has affected him more than i realised.

will see how things go

heidih

Does his father play with him?? How bout an ucle or friend of the family? my partner plays kinda rough with my daughter, but the mad thing is she loves it!! He swigs her around, hangs her upside down, throws her on the bed...She cries when he stops, lol. He has brought her up like she was a boy so she doesnt mind a bit of Rough and tumble,and if she getsa bang or falls over he cmforts her then gets her to shrug it off. If your son had someone at home to play like this, it would not require any "rough play" (fighting). Just a sugestion...or ask a male in your family what they would suggest....

my son is an only child, so has never had the opportunity of rough play with siblings, and his friends have never been the sort of rough and tumble rough playing sort of people

now, though, its being a problem for my son, because he thinks that everyone is deliberately hurting him and not playing nice.  at school there is a lot of outdoor play, and there is a lot of fighting (not always harmful) but rolling around the field, pushing each other whilst playing to get the ball (rugby, football, basketball) and he cant handle it

we have explained several times that its just playing and that his friends are not trying to hurt him, that he needs to stand up for himself and be stronger and play along without getting stressed but we are still having lots of tears

now, his best friend doesnt want to play any more because he keeps crying and says my son is always getting him into trouble.  my son says he hates this boy and doesnt want to play with him because he is always thumping and kicking him and is really horrible to him

im best friends with his mum, we like each other, so the boys have to get toghether whether they want to or not.  my friend doesnt see any harm in her son, although i have seen him thump my son a few times, but the son shines out of his halo and she never sees any wrong in him.  its not my place to comment.  she thinks my son is too soft, because he is a caring sharing sort of person who hates violence

how can i get my boy to toughen up without becoming violent

heidih