glad its been sorted out

Breaktime in dd school is 10.15 and back in class for 10.30 so almost 2 hours in between breaks.

I sent a note in to her teacher and her previous years note had not followed her to this years class we think due to her teacher retiring. The teacher called me at luchtime today to apologise for this and was really nice about it. She has now been told that if she needs to go she just ups and goes.

Dont know if I mentioned it yesterday but she was getting teased by some boys about it yesterday too so teacher also said that this has been dealt with.

Alls well that ends well, thanks for your comments and advice

Nicola xx

Was also going to ask when breaktime is. Most schools that I know have a breaktime between 10.15 and 12.15  or had it just been breaktime? Maybe the teacher thought she should have gone then. (Not saying that thats right given the circumstances but can easily imagine that that may have happened).

In the school where I work (juniors) every class has a list of children who need to be allowed to go to the toilet when they ask. It means that whoever is in the class (cover or supply teachers) knows who is allowed and who's trying it on. This list is generally passed on each year.

No child should have to hold it even if it's foe a few minutes

Might be worth asking what time break is also because our school have their morning break at 10:45am

Thanks Lucy,

I will give her a wee note tomorrow for her class teacher and also follow it up with a phone call to school office.

I am not one for confrontation really so will be calm and leevl headed. Still a bit angry tho as I dont really believe any 7 year old can hold a bowel movement back for 2 hours and they shouldnt have to, I know about causing a disturbance in the class and such like but stil feel 2 hours is too long xx

Thanks again

Nicola xx

Hi,

I have great sympathy with your daughter's plight. My DS has what may be simply food intolerances, but he soils most days. It has improved greatly on a lactose free diet, but the problem is still there. Last year he was in reception and had a fabulous teacher that let him go to the toilet whenever he asked and I was very worried about him changing class. I wrote a letter to his new teacher before the end of term and followed it up with an update on the first day of the new term. His classroom is right next to the toilet now (by accident or design, I don't know) and he still only has to say that he is going. I would write a gentle letter to the new class teacher and explain your daughter's needs. The school will also want to avoid any teasing and keep an ear out for name-calling if you tell them it is hapening.

I hope that you get it sorted and try to keep the school on-side rather than be confrontational.

Lucy xx

Hi, I need your help ladies. My dd is 7 and has an irratable bowel which causes her to swing from constipation to diarrhea (sp?).  We have been told by the docs not to allow her to "hold in" her movements.

Last year I sent a letter into the school advising that when she needed to go she was not to be asked to wait under any circumstances, this was followed to the letter even when they went to church. However she has come in from school today very distressed as she was told at 10.15 that she would have to wait until lunchtime (12:15), as a result she has had an accident and has endured some teasing from her classmates. 

Where do I go from here should I have to send a new letter every year or should the one letter follow her through school until otherwise instructed. 

I am sorry this post is so long and thank you to anyone who has made it to the end if anyone has any advice then I would be most grateful.

Nicola