This is a tricky age - my son is also 10 years old and last week they had their first proper sex education talk. Well! He’s been asking all sorts of things (which is good and healthy for him to do - at least he’s asking us and not his mates!)  and coming out with all manner of phrases (which I’m understanding has been passed on around the classroom and not the content of the school nurses talk!!). It’s so confusing for them - their bodies are changing, the girls are looking decidedly older and there are hormones a go-go! Maybe your sons way ofdealing with his curiosity is by looking it up himself, albeit in a ’different’ way by looking at this animated website. Must say, I find all that Yu-Gi-Oh stuff a bit bizarre anyway, so god knows what the stuff you found was like!! Don’t be cross at him, he’s just finding stuff out. Have a little chat with him (whther he likes it or not!!) but keep it calm, basic and simple so you don’t embarrass him or yourself! Well done for putting the filter on the computer - that will help to keep prying eyes out and hopefully the only animation he’ll get to see now is of the Cbeebies variety!! In ourdreams eh? They’re just growing up too fast now and we haveto keep up with them. Another suggestion is to pop to the library and get a couple of age appropriate books out and just leave them in his room to look at by himself. Would love to say that this worked for my son, but he freaked out and refused to look at them! It was just basic ’whats-happening-to-my-body’ stuff, emotions and stuff like that. Now my son has had his sex education at school he may well feel more able to take a look at them again. Whatever happens, keep your cool, you’re doing a good job! Good luck , Debbie x

The computer should be in a family area so he isn't able to look at these things and sorry but the filter should have been on anyway. Take the computer out of his bedroom immediately and put it where you can see him on it. And why are you embarrassed to talk to your son???? My son is nearly 14 and quite ahead in terms of body changes, sahving etc and I told him all about puberty and I bought him a book and went through everything with him before he was 11 and anything he was unsure about he asked. If you don't tell him he'll get the information from somewhere else and it won't necessarily be the right information.

A ten year old shouldn't be having unsupervised use of the internet in his bedroom! Neither is ten year olds looking at any sort of porn normal!!!

the last thing you want to do is make him feel dirty-he jus needs a gentle talk-maybe it would be better if you brought him an aprioate book and monitored what he cxan see online-what he is doing is perfectly normal-my sons 11 and im terrified too!!

I have no idea how I'd tackle this directly with him but I've always said that computers in the bedroom are a no-no.  Maybe take it away?  I won't allow my girls to have one.  Ours is in the lounge.

how do i go about talking to him about this ? over the last couple of days he been very jumpy when i walked in to his room when he been on internet so i knew there was something not wright so waited till he was at grans for weekend and had a look and what a shock i got hes in to yu-gi-oh gx and that so when i pressed the google history foung that he was searching for naked chariters (sp) he had also started to touch himself alot more i just dont know what to say to him about this as im very embarresed have since blocked all these and put on the saftey filter now but would still need to talk about this hubby feels the same but where do we start HELP!!! advise need