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10/8/08 16:17
8/8/08 21:10
can i join? i don't know how long i'll be waiting to ttc though since df has said he cant got hrough another m/c again. we have 2 healthy children and 2 angels who we lost in may and in july.
hoping in time he'll change his mind but until that happens be nice to talk to people in the same boat (even though i wish none of you were iykwim). x
8/8/08 20:10
Hi, I just want to say that i know how you feel, I just lost my baby boy due to placental abpraption. I was 34+2, and we are stil in shock, i still cant believe that this has happened to me. I had a perfectly normal pregnancy, no problems. We are still waiting for the results of the test, but the docs think that was the reason. Im very keen to start trying again, but im not sure when is good time. Any advice?All the best
15/6/08 14:08
Hello again.
I had managed to convince DH to ttc asap but now he's changed his mind again! ARRRGGGHHHH.
I think I'll just stick a pair of tights on (he has a tight fetish pmsl) and seduce him around ovulation time. He can always say no (but the lure of the 10 denier will be too much), PMSL.
It's not like he doesn't know how baby's are made so if/when I get a BFP he can hardly act shocked!
I'm still bleeding from the miscarriage (2 weeks now!) so might still have a long wait ahead anyway.
Hope everyone else is well.
xxx
12/6/08 20:48
hi carrie
hope you have a nice holiday it will do you good to get away for a few days
you will no when you are ready to start trying again
i am trying but with no luck i am back on cd 2
xx
12/6/08 11:14
Congrats to those officially TTCing - I am envious! But just another month and a half for me to wait. I couldn't believe my mother yesterday when she asked "any news yet"......so nosey and insensitive of her even though I know it wasn't intended. Have been religiously taking my vitamins and aspirin - this time round I don't mind taking them at all, infact I relish it as I feel I'm doing something to help myself. Anyway, am off on hols next week for 9 days. It will be our first holiday since we lost Alice so will be a bit strange. I have also found another way to stop me TTC - I've booked a smear test for this Friday and know that I need to wait for the results so no idea how long that will be...hopefully only a few weeks. I am also trying to lose some weight but attempts have been pretty pathetic!!! Hope everyone is well....lots of baby dust to those TTCing and patience to those waiting!!! Carriexx
11/6/08 15:48
hi
thanks that helps, i did not want to use towels cos they make such a mess,so now i waiting (still)
11/6/08 14:49
Hi there, I am on first AF after M/C and I am using tampons, I asked around and the general opinion is it is ok once you have totally finished your m/c, the risk is when you are actually miscarrying - the risk of infection is high as your cervix is open - HTH
11/6/08 14:46
hi donna
iu used tampax when i had my first period after the loss of my son this was because i dont like using towels i did ask my doc if it was ok and he said it was but if you are unsure it might be worth checking with your doc just in case.
just started the dreaded blob myself today i new i would it just seems that when you are trying it never seems to happen and dont understand but the docs dont seem intersted in helping you to conceive any quicker cos dont know bout any of you lot biu feel like i want to be pregnant very quick .
so what im asking for is do you girls no any advice or tips for helping nature move that bit quicker would be most greatful if any one got any advice for me .
take care all and sending you loads of baby dust
11/6/08 08:38
morning every one
hope you are all well? i have a really stupid question if any one can help, i'm waiting for my 1st af(still) after mmc on 12thmay, should i use towels or tampons when it finally shows?
i thought tampons would be ok but then my dh said something and now i'm not sure,typical men always confusing the issue ha ha
7/6/08 18:00
no how you feel kate it seems that everywhere you turn lately someone is pregnant or pushing a pram i just cant seem to get away from it and it not that i aint happy for them it just feels like i get it rubbed in my face everywhere i go .
and the worst for me is that my partners daughter had a baby a month after i lost my little boy and it seems to me that everywhere i turn i have a baby or people are talking babies or that they are pregnant and i just think why not me what have i done wrong that i cant be happy and i am getting older and my maternal instincts have defo kicked in .
due on friday and i no that i am going to come on because i have spotshat enough on my face and always get them when due on so that another month gone by
any way that enough bout me moaning hope all you girl are ok today and there no best time to start tryin g for another baby after loss it when it feels right for you but just remember if you are lucky enough to fall dont feel guilty cos you are and it never mens you wont stop loving your little angel you lost it just means that you have moved on and kept your little angel in your heart where they will remain until the end of time
lots and lots of baby dust to u all xxx
7/6/08 12:06
Crikey, talking about friends expecting - my sister in law is due in August with a little girl. A friend is due TWINS in September. My other sister in law is due october with a boy, and another close family friend is due a boy early November. How pants (and broody) d'ya reckon thats makin me feel? lol x
7/6/08 11:03
morning everyone
sorry to hear of your loss kate(((hugs))),
i also know what you mean about pregnant friends mine is my pregnant sister in law and just for that added kick she is due to give birth on my birthday (23rd july) which is getting closer, but here's the double blow i will then be 35 and classed as an older mother when i get my bfp( i will get it) just may take some time, but that's enough of my rant.
asda was hell but at least ds is good in there he just sits in trolley poppin bubble wrap off the apples,
glad your are going ttc kerry lots of dust to you hope you get the one of the 1st of many bfp on here,
take care everyone
6/6/08 19:22
Hello...I think this is the place for me now! I've come off the loss/bereavement/due in forums now but won't be ttc til November as I have surgery scheduled for late summer. Like OP said, its like a no-mans land! You don't feel you belong anywhere inparticular because you're no longer one or the other...just in limbo in the middle.
I lost my son at 36 weeks due to a knot in his cord. Its only been 7 weeks but DH and I are very keen to try again. Any advice on TTC so soon after stillbirth would be greatly appreciated.
GL to all of you TTC
6/6/08 17:54
That's great news Kerry, I'll be joining you once first af has arrived. I'm feeling really pre menstral so fingers crossed its on its way - its very weird wanting it to arrive!!
6/6/08 16:15
Hi Girls,
DF and I have decided that we are going to start TTCing as I know that I'll just keep putting it off coz Im scared!! So We are offically TTCing !!!
6/6/08 15:22
Hi Donna, I hope Asda wasn't too stressful, I've just come back from Morrisons with my dd who is 22 months and she hates sitting in a trolley!!
I know what you mean about it feeling weird wanting your af, I feel the same. I had medical management in March for a mmc and it failed and was left 9 weeks hoping my body would let go of the pregnancy sac but it wouldn't and had d&c, but what I'm trying to say is everytime I did a hpt I was so disappointed when it was positive - that was a weird feeling and was overjoyed when I got a negative, I never thought I would feel like that!!
I was due on 24th October and a good friend of mine is due on 9th October and I met her yesterday and she has a lovely bump and all I kept thinking was that should be me. Hopefully though like you say we'll have bfp's by then.
I hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine today - it actually feels like summer again!! xxx
6/6/08 10:40
hi
it's weired everyone say's it will get better,but all i saw was a long black tunnel but now there is a little bit of light,
am still dreading xmas(i know it's a long way off) but it's going to be empty with no baby. but looking on the positive let's hope santa empty's his sack and we all have bfp by then fingers crossed, untill then i'm waiting for my af and for once will be glad when it show's words i never thought i would hear myself say.
well i'm going to go jump in the shower get my ds dressed then go and do the hell trip other wise known as asda,
take care
6/6/08 10:22
Hey Donna
Glad you are starting you feel much better about it all. It does get easier.... just need to take it day by day.
k6/6/08 10:20
morning everyone
just like to say sorry for everyone loss,how is everyone today?
i'm still waiting for my af to appear but i went out with my best friend last night to watch sex and the city and have some food, and i can honestly say i have woken up this morning not feeling so sorry fo myself, hope eveyone else is ok, and lots of dust and glue to every one when we all start ttc
please can i join. i was dif but was told last week at my scan ive had a mmc.
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ive convinced dp that i want/need to try again as soon as ive stopped bleeding. i have a check up/scan on tue to check if its all come away naturally.
im suzanne, 26 and mum to kaden 12mths, who is keeping me going.
xxx