Sarah, every single one of us have been where you are today, I feel for you, I really do. If you feel you are not getting the care you need, then shout out hunny, tell them what you want, tell them what you need, you deserve to be treated properly!

Mother Nature can and has been a total b!tch, and the waiting now will be horrendous for you. I have had one natural mc and then the operation in June, I would always advise the operation, but you know what you want, and we are all different.

When they awful part is over, do your very best to look forward and not back, looking back will cost you more tears and hurt, you won't forget, ever. But you can move forward hunny, and every girl in here will tell you the same.

Lisa xxxxxxxxxxxx

Plumper,thank you for being honest.They did offer me the tablets to get things started but i turned them down as i thought it wouldnt take to long.I was also told i would be rescanned in 10 days so that should be Monday or Tuesday,although they didnt say if i had to phone them or anything.Tbh they werent very helpful at the hospital,just put me in a room on my own.I have said to my dp that if nothing happens by the middle of next week then i will ask them for the tablets as i cant face this wait much longer.Keep thinking its going to start as i keep getting pains then nothing.Sorry to have gone on but i have so much on my mind.You are all very kind under the  sad circumstances that have brought us all here xxx.

Sarah

You have a rocky road ahead, I'm not going to butter it up, you get dark days, real dark days where you don't see any light. You have the worst to go through hunny, but the one thing I will advise you to do is, if this goes on too long, go back and ask for help. I had the operation, and was physically fine within a week, mentally I was a wreck. But it was over quick, no prolonged mental torture (iykwim)

We started TTC a week after op, like you I wasn't interested in a 1st af, it depends on how you feel, only uou will know if you are ready, noone can tell you when you are ready, when is the right time.

One other thing I will say is, the girls in here are fantastic, a wealth of information and support, and all of us at one time or another get that damn cloud floating above us, and leave Bounty behind, instead of turning to the ones we trust, and know will understand, we turn our backs on them instead, don't do that, talk to the girls, they will understand, they will help, I promise you this, cos I have been one step ahead of that cloud now for a few weeks.

Dark days come, dark days go, but the goal is still the same, stay focused and positive hun, and you will reach the back of the net.

Good luck hun

Lisa xxxxxxxx

Thank you all for your kind words and advice.Congratulations Sarah on your bfp.I really think that concentrating on having another baby will help me get through the next few months.The thought of not having another baby is killing me.I really hope that each and every one of us gets our bpfs very soon xxx.

So sorry to hear this.  I think everyone is different and drs advice can be conflicting too.  I would wait until your mc and see how u feel then, I mc at 7wks and had a whole range of emotions sometimes I would feel fine and then other times I would just well up suddenly.  We waited until a normal cycle before ttc again but everyone is different, dont rush yourself and talk to your dp and see how he feels about it. Take care hun wishing you lots n lots of luck and baby dust

Hi Sarah hun,

Firstly I am so sorry for your loss hun, my heart goes out to you, I knwo no words can make you feel better at this time but you have come to the right place hun. All the girls here are absolutely wonderful and have been a lifeline to me, so I know they will be for you too. There will always be someone to help and we all understand everything you are feeling.

I'm Sarah (SarahKate as there sre so many Sarah's lmao!) 25, married to dh Ross we've been TTC for two years for our first take home baby with an ectopic last Oct, mc in February this year and another mc in June, am 5+1 pg just now and hoping that this lo is our very first take home bubs.

With regards to your question hun - it is entirely up to you. Providing your health is okay and you have stopped bleeding after mc hun you can try again - but most importantly you must give yourself time to grieve your loss and to feel really ready in yourself again - no-one, not even the doctors can tell you how you feel in your heart and only you will know when youare truly ready to ttc again hun.

I really wish you all the best hun and hope your stay here is short (in the nicest possible way ) welcome to the madhouse....

SarahKate xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hello and welcome but firstly Im so sorry for you loss hun ((hugs))

We waited until I had my first AF before we started trying again. I lost my little angel on 4th May at 16 weeks.

There are people who have waited and others that havent I think its down to the individual.

I hope your stay here is a short one

Lisa x

sorry for your loss hun.xxxxxx

i mc at 12+4 and i started ttc straight away. i concieved my lo 2 weeks after he is now 11 months old. so if you feel ready then go for it x

for the future and loads of to you xxxxxx

Hope you dont mind me posting this but i thought i would come on here to get to know you all.I went for my scan last week when i should have been 14 weeks.They told me my baby had died at 12+2/3 days.I was and am devastated.I choose to miscarry naturally and am still waiting for it to happen 8 days on.I know it is way to soon for me to start even thinking about ttc but i really need to try and focus on hving a baby cos i think i am going to lose my mind otherwise.

I know we cant ttc until i miscarry and the bleeding stops but i dont think i can wait until my periods return before trying.It took us 22 months to concieve this baby and the thought of it taking so long again is very scary to me.Has anyone started ttc again straight away or is it better to wait like the doctors say?