Thanks Lisa yeah i took some time out and realise i was just being a moo.. I love him to bits he has been a total life saver to me and although we have prblems we have always came through them stronger and better than ever before. I think maybe we have spent to long under each others feet and when he finally finds work it will be a different story and we will be ok.

Baby plans kinda on hold we still going to BD without protection etc but not worry about getting that BFP yet maybe soon but not a worry now see what happens

Thanks girls Im glad no 1 judged me i feel like a sex a holic lol but thats not my problem my problem is how will a baby be made if he is unwilling to BD lol...

Anyways we have been to see a doc to day. DP has a very large lump on his jaw line and its huge. Its making him so paranoid and he hates himself cos of it so after 31 years i got him to the doctors and he is now being referred to a lastic surgeon and will be having it removed in due course his confidence has already rocketed the smile radiates the room im so happy for him. Now he is going to take another large step and try fix this prob we giving this month a last ditch attempt at saving what sex life we have and see how it goes if all else fails we need to look futher a field for help me thinks

Nicole x x x

nicole, every problem we encounter is real, even if it is only real to us. i am totaly getting p***ed off with my oh, he is pampering me to death, making drinks, making sure i drink it, not letting me do things, now, to you, that will seem silly, and you are probably thinking "ffs lisa, wake up and see what you have" but to me, it's a problem, and as much as i love him dearly, he is getting on my (o)(o)'s!!!!

your situation is affecting your life, so it is a problem. the one thing that stuck out to me was the fact that you said "i love him im pretty sure of that" that sentance alone tells me you are unsure hunny, so maybe you need some "you" time to figure out what you really want, put the baby issue aside, do you want to wake up next to this man in 10yrs time the way he is now? that's the kind of thing you need to be asking yourself.

go for a walk through the park, sit on the swings, anything, but be alone to think about what you want, only you can answer the question, none of us can help you decide. the one thing you absolutley shouldn't do is let if fester, you have a little girl that is watching and learning. do what is right for you and the little one hunny.

i wish you all the best, and hope you can sort this out.

lisa xxx

hi newmummy,

i know exactly how you feel, my dp has little sex drive and around ov i try and get him in the mood but he some times makes me feel like im sexually abusing him, its that bad.

he says he wants a baby but i keep telling him we have to actually have sex to concieve, this month im not teeling him im ov im going to do subtle hints like watch a porn movie or wear sexy undies.lol not very subtle i know.lol

what im trying to say is dont give up hun, try and relax and try and make it fun. take the pressure of both of you, and you'll soon see that bfp

xxxx becky xxx

Nicole honey don't feel guilty, of course your problems are as real as anyone else's, and that's what we're all here for - to listen and try and help if we can.

(((hugs))) I can't say anything that will sort out the problem, only you (and your dp if he's willing) can do that...maybe if you tell him just what you've told us he might wake up to the situation and be more willing to try and sort it out?

Anyway, I won't blether on, I really hope you can find a way through.  And if not we are still here to support you.

Hx

We talk about it so much... And we both know he has some problem with his sex drive amnd says he is 100% willing to talk to someone to try fix it but never does. This just leaves me feeling unwanted when im trying get him in bed at night he rolls over and snores. Grrrrr

I love him im pretty sure of that. But i dislike him sometimes. I cant sit and talk to him as its like talking to a wakll.. the words just bounce right back then im like a broken record repeating the same conversatio9n over and over again. Its bloody hard.

Im happy for all BFPs and dont think this is what set me off i think it was talkng to a friend this morning and she was saying how she had only had sex about 4 times in a fornight with her fella i was like you lucky devil hehe. Im hoping to have a chat as he knows the score him having no sex drive is making me feel unwanted and in turn os making me lose interest in sex and without my sex drive we would be going 6-8 months no sex but cos im still hungry for it i get the ball rolling. If i stop doing that then we wont have a child. He is 31 and has limited his baby making years to when he's 35. 4 Years of sex twice a year hmm i think that wont work out.

Sorry i hate going on and on about myself when people do have real problems

Bleah.

Nicole x x

Bless you newmummy, im sorry your feeling low (((((hugs)))) It might be best you have a break from ttc, it can be very pressuring for both of you, you want a baby so much that sometimes you can put your relationship second. You and your dp need to come first. Maybe go out for a meal or spend some quality time together. Im no expert but hope it helps. Love Mel xxx

awwww ((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))) hun. i could of written that a few weeks ago as that was how i felt. i decided to hang on in there and here we are ttc (well at least i think we are).

not sure what to say hun but i think you and your dp should have a good talk about of all this. lay the cards on the table and tell him exactly how you feel.

thinking of you x

Oh hunny dont give up, I am so sorry you feel so down, maybe he is hurting just as much hun, but they never like to show it do they, plus if he is having issues down below that is a BIG blow to a mans ego, and we all know how important that is too them. Hang in there hun maybe get him to the dr's i know its embarrassing for him but he needs to get it sorted and you both need to sit down and talk about how you are both feeling, If its worth trying to save it then try, I dont know if I'm just telling you what you all ready know hun sorry if I am, pm me if you ever need to talk I'll be here (lurking! anyway) lots of love hun, I know how you feel a bit my hubby is having issues at the mo so we are not ttc just yet.   good luck hun

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))

Sarahxxxx

AWWWW ((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) if it helps I always feel crappy when BFP's are announced coz although you're pleased for everyone you're also reminded of what you haven't got. Maybe if you're unsure of how you feel about your oh it might be good to spend some time with him away from the pressure of ttc and you might remember why you're with him?

I hope you sort things out.

xx

Hiya girls...

I hope you are all well...

Well... im guessing im not TTC tbh DP sex drive has plumeted so bad that even tho he wants to and we are 'trying for a baby' there is no possible way it will happen. (ok a slight possibility but i really dont feel hopeful anymore)

Im just really low about all this right now. Im actually at the end of my teather and think maybe me and him are not best suited anymore all we have done is argue all day every day and im the worst for it. Im pushing him away and i dont know why. So at this rate by xmas i will be a single mummy all over again

I dont know why im posting here theres to much good news for me to bring it down but i needed to tell somebody, anybody.

I so want to be with my OH but i dont iykwim. I feel like im getting no where fast with him. And im at the point of giving up.

Im so so so sorry to rant. Just feeling pants this week sick of arguing and crying and feeling so unwanted by a person who claims to want me every waking moment