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5/8/08 20:46
5/8/08 18:45
Hey Girlies,
Glad Daniel is doing so well Lane, the pics are gorgeous!
Hope you are feeling ok Jen... I'm alright-had a tour of maternity unit on Sunday as it is all brand new since I had Finn-the old unit was like something out of the dark ages!! So the new one is much better, still got to go through the agony of it all tho-it's just it'll be in nicer surroundings!!
A friend of mine (who had previously suffered 2 miscarraiges at 13 weeks and had a few probs conceiving) was due to have her first baby a week before my due date and she went into labour at on thursday when she was 37 weeks exactly-she gave birth by emergency c section to a little girl, Ruby May who weighed 5lb14oz. I was lucky enough to see her as we went round on the tour and I nipped into the room where my friend was and the baby is so beautiful-like a doll! Really brought it home that it won't be long now!
I'm fine, really chilling out! Made a cake today! Finn was at nursery and I was actually a bit bored so I ended up going into town to look for yet more baby bits that I really don't need! We are also debating the name of our wee one at the moment as finding it so hard to decide, might have to wait until bubs arrives to make final decision!
Had a bit of increased discharge so hoping that means things are slowly gearing up! Apart form that no real signs.
It's our 3rd wedding anniversary tomorrow so will be going for lunch-yum!
Big hugs- xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
3/8/08 08:40
Morning today is meant to be my due date according to the scan. Daniel is 3 weeks and 3 days old lol. My due date to my LMP is on Thursday 7th.
I tried expressing today and got 4 oz which i gave him before bed. He took 3oz at 11pm, it took him about 20 minutes to drink it and he slept until 4.30am. Might do that again tonight, it would have been great if i hadn't been daft and stayed up till past midnight lol.
Hope you are all well. Not long to go now.
31/7/08 20:27
its only a few days they put me back,
c-section scars take a while to stop - i felt much more with it after 4 weeks, if thats any help, although when i had jacob due to hot summer, i did get an infection in it - doc may swab it and give you specific antibiotics. also try asking about dressings - i didnt get any but i think they can help. when i was in the hospital they made me feel lkie a druggie asking for pain relief - duh, major surgery!!!! then thankfully my midwife said why was i trying to wean myself off the drugs so early on, and to give myself a break.
we havent told jacob yet - we are waiting til he asks after him - he has been to see my grandma a fewtimes in the home she is in and hasnt clicked at all. the childminder offered to have jacob for the funeral, and as julian had been asked to be a bearer i thought it would be easier, i also wanted to focus myself on the service not my son, which sounds awful!!! i have always been one of those who say you should take children to funerals, but this time it just didnt seem right.
anyway, i will draw aline under funerals now!!!!!!! please god, lets hope so, when i was pregnant with jacob i had three to go to within 4 months, horrendous. so let that be IT.
i am gettgin ZERO sleep at mo, and exhausted. just give up and go to jessica's room, and read/ doze off alternatively for about 5 hours then around4/5 am go back to bed til jacob wakes around 7/7.30. will be prepared for jess!!!
got a letter off my docs that my iron levels are low and i have to call them monday for a telephone appt to discuss my iron results - they tested them at consultants appt as i was so out of breath. might be why my sleep is all out of whack, who knows, or maybe thats just the frquent loo trips and general disconfort and restless legs!!!!!!!!
well, i just am like the rest of you, and you were lane, just really want to see my baby, cant believe we have made it so far, just last hurdle left now, but aware that every last bit of time on there, whilst annoying for me, is for the better for babba.
we set the crib up yesterday , jacob helped with the spanner!!! and then we put one of his teddies in a nappy and sleepsuit and put ti in, so jacob goes to look to smell her nappy and see what she needs. he finds the idea of pooey nappoes hilarious - wait til he sees the reality, lol!!!
31/7/08 19:46
Glad the funeral went ok Jen. How did you explain it to Jacob in the end.
So they have put you back how much now and does it make a difference to when bubs gets here. What were their reasons for putting you back this late.
Had a restless night with Daniel the other night but it was so hot i think he was thirsty. Back on track now.
My scar is still sore and after the midwife had a look today, as i couldn't see the doctor til tuesday, its more sore. She said its fine that i am still needing pain killers and to keep cleaning the scar as i have been and to ring her on monday if i am still not happy with it.
If it does get bad i wonder if they will take a few inches of my stomache before they resew it lol.
30/7/08 22:14
hello!
my date got chanhed to 31st august - after a scan - cant renmemeber which one!!
we put the crib up today and yest i washed car seat cover and moses basket linen too
it was grandads funeral today, helped to say goodbye and remember his good (great) pointsi hope i get to a grand age of 91, sound of mind, fairly fit and pass quickly and peacefully in my sleep. i know he would have been happy with that, and i just keep on thinking that
feel crap today - tummy bug or something, or crap buffet food at the wake!!! also sent jacob to bed with a dubious rash - we were really no sure what to do, but he is well and i have recently been using fabric softener which i havent before . still, we will check him tonight before bed, an hope he is well - sure he is, but its that panic with rashes isnt it
28/7/08 21:20
Evening girls...
woooooo, it's hot here! I know what you mean lane about trying to get the bedroom cooler-Finn was born during a heatwave in July 2006 and we could not get our house cooler than 26 degrees and that was at its coolest-our double glazing is crap cos it only has one part you can open and it is not enough when it is so hot! Finn only wore a nappy for the first 6 weeks of his life!
Your profile pic is so cute lane-wish I could make it bigger!
When is your due date Jen? I thought we were both due on the 28th and that makes me 36 weeks on Thursday? It is getting quite exciting now thinking it could happen v soon (or not for 6 weeks!)
Going to go and iron the fabric from our moses basket as Kev got it down from the loft so I've washed it all and can't wait to set it up!
We are having a massive clear out-made £70 at a carboot on sunday so that was good-every little helps!
Oh and Lane I am on facebook and would love to add you (and Jen) as a friend you will find me under Emily Hadley and it's a picture of me and my bump and Finn touching it!
Big hugs xxxxx
28/7/08 20:04
sound slike you and daniel are doing great!!!
jacob was born june 05 and there was a heatwave, it is awful trying to keep them cool when they are so young, but the weather is great, and lucky for me, people are understanding enough to see why i dont want to do much!!!! i would hate to be earlier on in pregnancy and suffering but eg no-one knew yet!!!
as long as i have my ice cubes and gaviscon im great
well i have just a day short of FIVE FLIPPING WEEKS!!!!!!!!! although may be a little less if i get booked in for csection - if i have a vbac it will be because i have started off by myself earlier
five weeks seems like an eternity feeling so stretched. i am really enjoying not being at work and getting all my nesting done slowly but surely (and very thoroughly, lol)
hope you are all well
jenny
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27/7/08 09:40
Morning all.
Well this weather is quite nice isn't it. Although i wish i could make the bedroom a little cooler at night time.
Glad you are both doing well. How long have you both got now it can't be more the 2 or 3 weeks. I have put pictures of Daniel on here but for some reason they have gone to the snapfish site and no-one can view them here.
Do you two have facebook, maybe we could add eachother so we can keep in touch when we have all had our little ones.
Daniel continues to be a really good boy. He is staying awake longer now too which is great. I love talking to him and now i think he is starting to realise who we all are. He stayed awake for two hours this morning after his feed...he's flat out now though lol.
I am getting lots of sleep at night as he only wakes once. Well i say once...he fed lastnight at 8 and woke at 2.30am then he woke again at 7.15am which isn't really night time. I am not trying to get him into any sort of pattern because i just know if i start waking him when i want him to feed it will all end up in te air.
Everything is still too big for him, but i am not going to go out and get a load of tiny stuff as sods law it will last a few weeks at the most. I am going to get him weighed on tuesday so it will be interesting to see how much he weighs.
Hope you all have a good sunday and don't do too much.
26/7/08 21:49
thats so true, em , we are nearly there now. you forget this last hurdle, esp in the heat, but i have loved today, out in the garden allday - i even got to continue my nesting urge and clear out the outhouse!!! all helped along by copious amounts of cold fizzy drinks (i get thise tesco spring water ones, tho id really love fat coke!!!) and half frozen ice cubes.
yum
jacobs pressie came today from an ebay shop - i got him something for his brio track - a 'log loader'!!!!! from jessica,
tho today he turned round and said, oh mummy, why cant you grow a baby boy in your tummy???!!! i just said i already i had, i grew him, he was so perfect i didnt need to grow any more baby boys. god i hope they got the sex right now!!!! three scan people have been 99% sure, so well go with it
well, checking out now, apparently dh has told me blooming marvellous has an online sale, so going to look at that - dont need owt now wexcept for big knickers for me if i end up with c-section, but hey, online shopping with dh's approval, so who cares?!!!!!
25/7/08 16:19
Helloooooo there!
Well, it's good really that Jessica (!) is going to be within the normal range size wise and that she is getting ready to make an appearance by moving in the right direction etc BUT I know that you had agonoised over the decision to have a c section in the first place and had decided to go with that option so now you must feel a bit confused to say the least!
If it is any consolation I am cacking it about giving birth again. I had a terrible time myself last time and was so, so close to having an emergency c section but consultant managed to pull Finn out with ventouse-yuck! Everyone is trying to reassure me saying it shouild be easier second time around etc but I'm not so sure!!! As you know I have done active birth classes in an attempt tp prepare myself so have been carrying on with the yoga that I learned during the classes to get bubs in correct position- at the min baby is not back to back (as Finn was) so got to try and keep it that way! I have been drinking the old RLT for a couple of weeks now-on to 3-4 cups a day, I leave it brewing for ages as well! Think it has made my braxton hicks more noticable-also thinking of trying evening primrose oil in a few weeks as that is supposed to help....
Whatever happens-we are nearly there-don't want to count chickens and all that but back in December it was hard to imagine we aould be where we are now wasn't it?!
Big hugs to everyone xxxxxxx
24/7/08 21:24
hello
had second growth scan today - and she has slowed down growth rate, so tho still big, not outside normal limits, lol!!! also she turned in the night - i had awful night,ended up on sofa so i could read til i fell asleep - may explain why i was so uncomfy
she is nowface down
tho roa whatever that means they said i need to get her on my left side.didnt see consultant grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
so because of this registrar said to return at 36 weeks - i am 34w 4d at mo, but the reception wouldnt book me in til i am 38 w, which given the c-section they said they would do at 39w will prob be a bit too late!!!so now i am back to uncertainty, having finally come to the decision to elect a c-s, we have had a chat, also with registrar, and decided if it all kicks off by itself prior to due date, then to go with vbac, otherwise if i get to my elective c-section date then to go with that. SO!!! the main things still for me are that 1) i dont go over and 2) i dont have an induction following last times palaver.
so now i have to go and gen up onall the stuff re: optimal positions to get bab in, drinking raspberry leaf tea etc and also some birth info, because i cant remember from last time, and it would be helpful for vbac ladies to get a one-off class on birthing tecniques, would certainly reduce anxiety, having already had a failed labour previously.
i have come to be more positive as the day goes on, altho my spd is not great, i think it will not prevent me moving round in labour as it did with jacob, so its all good, best get on and do my homework now!!!!
gulp! i would like a chance to try it tbh, tho very scared about it, guess just same as for a first baby really.
well hope u r all well, ciao for now
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24/7/08 21:20
Just a quick message to say congratulations Lane on the safe arrival of Daniel, sorry Jen about your Grandad, and to announce the arrival of Cara Grace on 10th July, weighing 6lb15oz. We are all doing well now, after an intense induction, a naff epidural, and a retained placenta!
Good luck for the next few weeks! I'll keep checking in.
Love,
Linda and Cara
22/7/08 21:45
hello -
cant beleive 12 days gone already
i just love watching all the tiny little but huge developments they makeglad finn had a good birthday!!! hope you are ok - how is the spd? what are you up to at the mo?
i am nesting
was washing all the sofa covers today, ans scrubbing skirting boards. hmmmgoing for second growth scan thursday, and to see consultant so hoping for a date for section.
funeral isnt til next weds, so feels like ages. grandma is in a home: im going to see her tomorrow or thursday hopefully, my parents said she was very happy: grandad was blind and he used to work her pretty hard, and tbh i think there is some sense of releif and time for her now, she can rest when she needs and do what interests her and generally go at her own pace. i feel very mixed up about his death: like you say em, part of me is being pragmatic about it all, but he was quite a selfish man (he sent the rnib guide dogs lady packing saying why did he need a dog he had my grandma for that, he has refused all offers of support and help that would have made her life easier, he refused to admit she was in pain and give her her medication unless she asked, which because of the dementia, she didnt remember she had the pan relief meds) and arrogant, so i am trying to forget all that and remember the man i remmeber as a child, and that we are all human and have our negative personality traits but that doesnt make up bad people
anyway, sorry i rambled there. families eh?!
well best go, going to order a pressie from jessica for jacob: going for a brio style crane which lifts freight off a train. taking him to scan on thursday.
22/7/08 16:11
Oh dear Jen, I am so sorry about your Grandad. I am very close to my grandparents (3 of whom are still with us) and it would be devastating to lose one of them. My heart goes out to you-I know you are being philosophical about it but it is still very sad-big hugs xxxxxx
Not sure about telling Jacob-I don't have any experience of these things sorry. I would probably err on the side of explaining things before the funeral tho to prepare him.
Lane, aww, glad Daniel is doing so well-I can't believe he's 12 days old already! That time has zoomed by. Have you put any pics up yet? I can't wait to see some!
We had a lovely time for Finns bday too-had a fab party with our family and then a great day out on the steam train on sunday. I had a growth scan yesterday due to my bump only measuring 30 weeks at 34. All was well and baby is estimated to weigh 5lb 5oz!! I was quite surprised as didn't expect bubs to weight that much already! V pleased tho, also got a good view of babys face which was lovely as the baby looks just like Finn did when he was born-Kev and I both said straight away-'looks just like Finn'!!!!!
Got mw appt next wed-There are 37 days left until my due date so that feels really close!
Take care everyone xxxxxxxx
22/7/08 10:19
Hi Jen i am sorry to hear about your Grandad. It doesn't matter how old they are when they leave us its still hard. I suppose you are right about your nana, it may very well be a god send that she isn't aware of what has happened. I suspect it will be harder on the rest of your family putting her in the home but she will be going to a good place i am sure.
Hows that bump doing......i have lost total track of time now so i can't remember how long you have left.
I can't believe Daniel is 12 days old already. Although it is almost like what did we ever do without him. He is starting to recognise his name and look at us when we talk to him. The feeding is still going well and he is only waking once or twice a night. well he has his last feed about midnight then about 4 or 5 the 7 or 8 so i can cope with that. It makes it easier that George is now off school for 6 weeks as i am sure i would never get him to school on time right now lol. Time just flies by me these days.
21/7/08 22:19
hello everyone
glad you are back home and bag gone - whoo hoo! hope daniel is well xxxxx
my grandad died on friday morning so its beena bit of a weird time. we came home from our holiday early - only a day - in a sense its lucky my grandma has senile dementia as i dont think the full weight of loss has hit her, she keeps asking the same questions. anyway, because of this, she will be going into a home, luckily my grandad had plenty money some of which he put into her accounts, so she is going into a real plush sw***y one, still though, its awful to think of her in a home. well it is horrible he has gone, but he went how he would have wanted: quickly and whilst he still had all his marbles.
havent told jacob yet - he saw hime once a week and he will only miss him when he goes to the house and wonders where he is: also we will be taking him to the funeral, so any tips on telling a three yr old about death: i would have addressed it already if he was closer to him, or if we had been to the house, i just dont know whether to leave it til we go to the house or at the funeral
17/7/08 20:15
It's always pants when people get your hair wrong. I hope you didn't pay for it.
I am always one of those people who say oh yes lovely thank you and pay up while holding back the tears. I then rush home wash it and try to make something of it.
I am now back home and bag free. It feels sooo good not to have to drag that thing around.
17/7/08 16:03
Happy birthday Finn!!!!!!!!
lane - really please daniel is doing well, you will be rid of your catheter and that that first poo is over and done with
i have to say i will be prepared this time - no codeine phosphate and after similar sugery for ectopic, they gave me a suppository to help me go, and i will be demanding one of thos for when the time is right
i remember feeling like i hadnt escaped the feeling/ pain of childbirth with my first one after jacob - it was horrific!!!anyway, my brother has just got back from taking jacob to the playgym on campsite - its been the first rainy day here on our jollies. i have just had a haircut from hell - told the hairdresser the length i wanted and also that my hair is curly so bounces uo more and even ignoring the curly bit she has cut it three inches shorter, so my chin length cut i wanted is actually around my ears. ah well. it will grow back...
at least i wont have to worry about what to do with it anymore!!!
tarrar
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17/7/08 10:11
Morning all.
Happy Birthday Finn
It will be great when you get your date Jen it starts to feel more real if you know what i mean.
Things are going great here. Daniel is so good. He only cries when he is hungry and that just if i don't get him on the boob quick enough lol. He is getting better at feeding which means he is going longer between feeds. Last night i fed him about 12.30 and he didn't wake up for another feed til 4.15. Feeding takes about 20-45 mins depending if he needs his bum changed and how hungry he is. He falls asleep while feeding most times. It's so funny seeing his face once he is full he sort of looks drunk...all smiley and sleepy.
I can't wait til he smiles for real as he has such a lovely smile even with wind lol.
I am going to try to put a few pictures in my profile today at some point.
I have to go back to hospital today to get this cathita out thank god. It's such a pain in the bum. I don't want to go anywhere unless i have to because its so hard to stay clean if you know what i mean. More good news....i finally had a poo pmsl.
hiya
glad to hear you both ok.
getting exciting now isnt it em?
i have been getting period type pains for last week or so which i never got with jacob so hoping something is stirring down there. i am petrified at thought of vbac, and has really brought home to me how there is no support offered to women to help them deal emotionally with prospect of one, they could do with a one off session.
anyway, i have finally faced up and booked in for a couple of hypnotherapy/ birthing sessions with a lady i used to work with, next weds and the one after that i will be 37+ and 38+ respectively, so hopefully i will hang on til then and at least have some kind of mental preparation for if things start off naturally!!!!
my parents had jacob last night and we went out to local greek restaurant, which was lovely.
saw mw today and all ok , except my iron levels, so i have to go and look up good foods to have and supplement my diet and take the floradix supplement more regularly
see consultant next thurs with hope of a provisional date if i am not getting ready by myself. EEEK!