I know exactly what you mean.Im now 16+3 weeks pregnant but still terrified even thou at the 12 week scan everything was fine.I had a stillbirth at 32 weeks last november so im not sure if im ever going to relax about this pregnancy.Im not as excited as I was with my 1st pregnancy but i get days were I am excited so I make the most of them.

Good Luck with your pregnancy and im sure everything will be fine.

Take Care Kirsti

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hey,, i just wanted to say you a perfectly entitled to woory about this preg and want to try not to get to attached! im 22+5 weeks and i still worry about everything! i lost my 1st at 19+6weeks wen i went nto prem labor due 2 a incomplete cervix! iv had a stich this time and everything is so far sogood! but i still worry and try to put things of abit! all i can say babe is try to relax a little and thik of the possitives to havig a angel baby not the negs! least ur babas got sme1 extra speical to look after him/her! all the best hope i help a lil luv clare xxxxxx

I had a mmc end of September at 10 weeks and concieved again November and am now 22+6 but still worry something will go wrong. All scans etc have been fine but I feel myself holding back with this baby as the mental pain with my last one was unbearable.  I do love my pink bump to bits but am a bit down at the moment as I was due on 22nd April.

Good luck and baby glue to you all xxx

thanks Vicki - Im seeing a counsellor every two weeks myself - I can speak to her about it this week!

love Laura x

Hey Hun!

I have been feeling the exact same feeling.  I am now 14 weeks and had a perfect 12 week scan.  It is totally natural to feel like this, although it doesn't always feel like it.  I have good days and I have wobbles too.  Now, I'm feeling pretty confident everything will be just fine, although the thought of my lost bean is always there,  I need to be strong and focus on the positives.

My counsellor told me that our minds go in to some sort of defense mode once we've suffered a loss.  It's our way of mentally preparing ourselves for worst case scenarios.

My word I am beginning to sound like my counsellor

I hope you will be feeling more confident soon.  I'm sure this time evrything will be just fine xxxxx

Vicki

thanks girls - I think the main thing I feel is a little guilty, as I feel like I cant love this baby as much as I did Eric!  and thats not this babies fault - it is here right now and deserves the same love its big brother got!  right, im going to try and stop mordling and focus on my little peanut x

Hi i feel the same im now 5+2 and feeling the same as i did when i mc last year.  I want to be excited but dont know if i could cope if it happened again.  I think anyone who has suffered a loss will feel the same way you do xx

HI Laura

I understand what you are saying.  I think it is normal what you are feeling, and is only natural to be a bit scared.  I found exactly the same in the due in forums but I think it is because many of them have never lost a baby before so do not have that fear.  TBH when I was pg with my DS I didn't think once about loosing the baby whereas this time I worried for the first 13 weeks until I had dating scan and then still worry now about the what if's.  I found it difficult to post on alot of the threads in the due in board and still do a bit now.  I also found that there were alot of ladies who sadly lost there babies, as selfish as I know it is I found it hard to read and post on those threads as it made me worry more (does that make sense).

As for bonding with your bubs I don't think you will have any problem, I think at the moment you are just holding back a bit.  Try and relax, I know it is easier said than done.  Once your hormones kick in you will start to feel more and more pg.  I thought I had escape morning sicknes then it hit me big time at about 7 weeks.

I'm here if you want a chat sweetie.

LOL

Leah

Hi all

I am 5+1 and as happy as I am to have conceived, I wish I could be as excited as some of the other girls in the Due in December thread.  They are already talking aboiut buying baby things, and prams etc - at like 7 weeks   I wish I could feel remotely sure this baby will be ok, but I cant.  I keep imagining going for the scan at 12 weeks and being told the baby had stopped growing again like my Eric did last year.  I suppose Ive had 6 days of just being so relieved that we concieved that its only just hitting home what could lie ahead.  I know its all out of my hands.

Does anyone else feel like this?  Less excited than the first pregnancy?  I dont think its fair to this baby - its here right now, and I should love it the same as I did Eric, but Im finding it really hard at the moment, almost keep trying to forget its there.

  Laura xx