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13/8/08 12:08
2/8/08 21:48
Hi ladies, awwwww thanks for asking about us both, i really dont get much chance to come on here apart from at night and then when hubby is not on . a rarety in the day with my lo around.
Well all is well thankgod. i had my scan on the 22nd july hence my profile picture, i am now nearly 15 wks and im definately feeling more postitive about things now. i just couldnt believe i saw my baby alive and well, just was expecting a mmc again. i was in tears before the can, so stressful. im just focusing on getting to 20 weeks now, taking it step by step. i know things could go wrong at any stage. my next scan on 8th sept cant wait. ive also just bought a fetal doppler so i can listen in at any stage.
so sorry didnt post anything sooner,
How are you doing at the moment? hopefully everything is going well. keep me updated with things and hopefully you are relaxing a bit more now. take care
love weeny. x x
1/8/08 12:27
Weenie...littletink... ive just been reading your thread and nearly crying. I notice neither of u have posted since July. I was wondering how u both got on xx
1/8/08 00:57
Hiya girls i have just read your thread and was wonderin how u are both gettin on?? i Hope everything is going ok.. take care Helen x
9/7/08 20:34
awwww littletinks, im so so sorry you have been bleeding, you must be so frightened. cant beleive they didnt give you a scan there and then , its terrible to put you through the wait. what is wrong with these people? to be totally honest with you a pregnancy test wasnt going to tell you anything, and they should know that, because your hormone is still very strong in your system. it was with me when i mmc, and im sure you already knew this.
i really hope your little one is going strong i really do. i will keep everything crossed for you and hopefully things will be fine. please please let me know how you get on, i will be thinking of you and hoping for the best outcome. if you need to chat you know where i am.
take care and try to think positive. best of luck.
weeny67 x x x x
9/7/08 20:04
Hi Weeny67,
Iv had a bad day today i got up this mornin and went to the toilet and i was bleedin so i went to hospital they did a pt and it was still positive and they said all signs are there that the baby is ok but they couldnt get me a scan to reassure me so im nervously awaitin for tomorrow to come i know deep down it is goin to be abd news and i wanted this baby so much and its heartbreakin i feel just like i did last year and i dont think im goin to be able to cope with it this time it totally takes it out of me and i feel i have no fight left in me to carry on!!!
My midwife told me that the chances are exactly the same even after seein the heartbeat in an early scan!!!
xx
9/7/08 16:21
Hi littletink86, glad to hear you are going well with your pregnancy. im 11+4 now, i still dont feel any different to what i did when i last posted. Only difference is boobs are bit bigger and veinier and sickness comes and goes every now and then. what symptoms are you having? it is so frightening after mmc, you just presume its going to happen again. im so fed up of feeling like this everyday, its like having a black cloud hanging over you. my mum said to me this morning, "whats up with you, you look terrified" i said nothing. i knew exactly what was playing on my mind. im like this everyday, just milling over what happened last time.
i have my proper booking apt 22 july, then hopefully i will get my other scan because i wasnt dated with the early one. if they dont give me one im going to get really upset. i will be a bag of nerves all day, and im sure i will cry when im having scan, i just cant seem to shake these bad feeling off and to be totally honest im just going to presume the worst when i go. and any good news is a bonus.
Im sure ive read on another post somewhere that once a heartbeat is detected your chance of miscarrying goes down to 5% (yes the chances are still there to miscarry but very low). did she mention anything about this?
i dont think there is aything we can do apart from take one day at a time and hopefully this time things will be very different for us.
keep us updated on how you go on tomorrow, wishing you all the best . and thanks all the other ladies who have posted on here with there words of encouragment.
weeny67 (11+4)
x x x
8/7/08 22:09
Hi,
Yeah my midwife appointment went well and i asked all the questions i had to ask but still really help with anything!! I asked the midwife if because i have seen the heartbeat at 7 weeks does that mean that i have less chance of miscarryin and she said no the chances are still the same so my heart sank because i thought my chances had been lessened i was so wrong!!
I have my dating scan this week on the 10 july at 9.30 and i dont think i can go all this week i have been waking up in bits i just cant seem to push past what happen to me last year (mmc) its bringin back all the hurt i felt and i just keep cryin, my bf is findin it really hard to cope with it because he hasnt been through any of this before and i feel like im pushin him away and i know i shouldnt but i just cant help it im all over the place i want to know that my baby is ok but i truly believe that the doctor is goin to say the same as last year and i barely coped then how would i possibly cope this time around!!
Im 12 weeks and a day today and eveyone keep sayin well u have made it this far so everything must be ok but like u have said mmc u have no signs thats what is so scary that im gonna go on thursday expect to hear a heartbeat and see my baby and be told that there is no heartbeat and that im not goin to be a mam yet again!!!
Im so pleased that they eventually gave u an early scan thats really great and its such an amazin feelin to see the baby there and a heartbeat i know how i felt when i saw it on my 7 week scan i was over whelmed and never wanted the feelin of joy and happiness to disappear!!!
Im really happy all is goin well for and i hope it continues to go well!!!
xx
2/7/08 16:37
Hiya
I hope everythings working out for you all and all going well. I just want to say im 16+3 weeks pregnant and the worry never goes away. My bellys got a bump and still im not reassured. I had a mmc in January and although im past the stage where my baby died and ive since heard and seen my baby and the heartbeat i cannot push the worry aside that the same is going to happen again! I think its always going to be there unti my son is born..nd maybe even on my next preg i wont be able to relax even if this one goes ok because the terrible thing that happened to all of us will never go away it will always be there x i hope al your pregnancys go well including my own
)Jade x
13/6/08 17:53
Hi littletink86,
How has your midwife apt gone? I really hope that it went alright and that you covered all areas that you were concerned about. do you have you antenatal apt booked yet for the hosp?
I saw my midwife on tuesday just gone and i told her i had been having really bad back pain saturday, all day . it felt like someone had punched me in the kidneys, if i try to explain it. She said she would ring epau for me and get me checked over. was thrilled to get an apt on wednesday for a reassurance scan. believe me i was really nervous going and it was an internal scan too. all was revealed and saw tiny 7 + 4 bubba on screen with a good heartbeat. it felt so reassuring to see it and although like you were relieved to see alls well you still worry after about the mmc. i know im still worrying now. i always am going to be. until i can see my belly growing im going to be worried. she is refering me to antenatal hosp for proper booking in apt now. i hope i get that far. it seems like ages away. the nurse at epau said to me i will get a 12week scan too, but ive just got to take her word for it, if im not offered it when i go im going to press my concerns about mmc and say epau told me i WOULD get one. like ive said before, its worrying because mmc you have no bleeding or pain, its frightening really.
im also feeling very queasy the last two weeks all day no morning sickness at all just from about 11am onwards all day. boobs dont hurt at all now, just have a heavy feeling in womb area. must be growing / stretching.
Well like i said before i hope all went well, and that you feel ok, let me know how you get on with things,
take care and keep in touch
love
lorrina x x
11/6/08 17:29
hi weeny67,
yeah it was amazing seein the hb now just gotta wait til my next scan and i really hope everything is gonna be ok i have my first midwife appointment on friday so im quite nervous but excited at the same time!!
i really think ur midwife will see how upset u r and let u go for an early scan if not she is daft!!!
i have got sickness at the minute but im not been sick its just the feelin and its all day it drives me crazy and i have sore breasts to!!!
i read an article on the internet the other day that freaked me out it said if ur cervix is open and low it means the pregnancy is goin to be lost so i have been panicin then i checked the other day how low it was and now i cant even feel it its vanished i dont know if that is a good sign or not but ur suppose to be able to tell alot by checkin ur cervix which i didnt know at all still dont know if its true!!!
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xx
5/6/08 21:57
Hi again,
awwwww, im so so glad you have had an early scan and seen your little ones heartbeating. its such a relief to know that although you may not feel pregnant theres definately something happening in there. reassuring for that whole minute in there but i know it will be worrying for you to wait for the 12 week scan, and i know i will be exactly the same IF i get an early scan hopefully next week. I am really going to stress it to the midwife next tuesday i really really want one.
Its good to hear that you have a good relationship with your docs, i dont think mine give a toss to be honest otherwise they would have referred me straight away seeing the state i was in.
When is your next apt ? at the hosp for antenatal clinic? Have you got any stronger symptoms yet? Ive started feeling a bit queasy i the last few days all day. i just hope its a good sign. I really cant wait to see me little ones hb but im also dreading what they might find. Its awful that we have to feel this way when it should be one of the most wonderful times in our lives.
I would just like to say let me know how you get on and i will too, if you want to pm me i would be happy to reply. wishing us both loads of luck with our pregnancys and lots and lots of baby glue. x x x
5/6/08 10:53
Hi,
Thanks for tellin me ur story it really helped i knew i wasnt the only one that has went that awful experience so it really helps knowin that other ppl out there feel the same and im not just a moaner lol!!!
I had a scan yesterday and im 7 weeks and 3 days and i could see the heartbeat which was an amazin feelin but it makes me want this pregnancy all the more and iv got nearly 5 more weeks to go b4 i get another scan and b4 the risk of miscarriage is lower so im still worryin abit but i suppose with our past experiences were bout to worry its natural my doctors are really good tho coz they know how hard i took it last year so they makin every effort to keep me calm!!!
Talk to ur midwife and make sure u point out that the stress of u worryin about ur pregnancy is not good for the baby! They really should give u an early scan for ur own reassurance.
Take care and let me know how ur appointment goes with ur midwife i hope she understands were ur comin from and gives u and early scan chick!!!!
All the best
xx
3/6/08 16:23
hi littletink, just to let you know i know exactly what you are going through because the same happened to me in feb, a mmc. i got caught pregnant on the pill dec 07 and didnt find out i was pregnant till mid jan. obviously saw midwife and got referred to antenatal clinic for booking in etc, but wasnt sure how many weeks i was. i didnt have any pregnancy signs or anything, no sore boobs, sickness or nothing. to be honest i didnt have a good feeling about it to start with and kept doing hpts all the time coz i just wasnt convinced i was. all were positive. kept trying to tell myself i was definately pregnant, i must be with all the positive tests! got to antenatal booking apt and at the scan was told that they needed to do an internal scan because they couldnt see anything external. fair enough, then they did internal and found that the baby had died at 6 weeks. the sac was 10weeks in size. a mmc was confirmed. it hit me like a ton of bricks. the positive hpts were due to the fact that, i was told, the sac had kept the pregnancy maintained. just how long it would have gone on for is another question. had medical mangagement that was successful 5 days later.
what i couldnt get my head around was that my baby had been dead for a month and my body had shown no signs of rejecting it. i didnt have any pain, bleeding, or any other symptoms. its so hard even now to get my head around what happened. i know all women who have miscarried show different symptoms, and in a way, without sounding awful i just wish id had some bleeding or pain then i could have been prepared for the worst. its something i never ever want to experience ever again, no woman should ever have to go though a mc / mmc.
i am now 6 + 3 and tried to get into epau for an early scan, but was rejected because its not self refer and was told a doctor must do it, went to docs yesterday and was told she couldnt do it and that my midwife has to do it. sounds like they passing the book to me. so p***ed off with this, i broke down in the surgery yesterday she wouldnt offer the referal and told me to wait till next tuesday,(10th) to see midwife. she said to me that the last time it was probably a "blighted ovum" what the problem was. felt like screaming at her, that it wasnt that, it was actually a proper pregnancy of 6 weeks size! didnt have the strength to argue. got no symptoms again with this pregnancy, boobs just look a little bigger.
im am so so worried its going to happen again, last time there was factors ive tried to consider were to blame, etc taking the pill, using steriod cream for a skin complaint but was told that it was unlikely these would have caused the mmc.
this time i feel a little more optimistic , because 1, i know where i am in the pregnancy regarding dates etc and 2, like you have done everything by the book, although there are no guarantees . i just really hope all is going to go well this time, i really need to know now if my pregnancy is going well, so if the worst has happened i can get it over with now and not another 6 weeks down the line at first booking apt. im really going to make sure the midwife listens to my concerns when i see her next week and hopefully get an early scan before the 12week mark. going to be nervous again.
just to let you know you are not alone, and that talking to the ladies on here is a great help, you can seem to let it all out. whereas yes family and friends have been supportive but i dont like going into too much detail.
i wish you all the best with your furture scans and that you have a happy healthy pregnancy . if you wish to pm me i will be there if you need a chat.
take care
3/6/08 14:02
Hi,
Im new to all this but i just feel like i need to talk to someone that doesnt know me.
Its lovely having ppl supporting me family, friends and my partner but i never feel able to tell them what it is i really feel.
Last year i had a missed miscarriage i went the full 3 and a half months without any signs of anything been wrong i had broke up with my bf at that time so my mum was the one that came with me i was so excited to see my baby and when the nurse told me she couldnt find a heartbeat and that it had died at 8 weeks i was heartbroken my world fell apart i could sleep or eat for days i always blamed my self did i do something wrong?
I eventually had to go through counsellin because i couldnt get through it on my own.
I blocked everyone out and everyone was so concerned for me.
Now i have been seein my new bf for about 4 months and i love him so much and we found out i was pregnant it was a shocked but we both agreed its what we both want.
So we did home pregnancy tests (3) and they were all positive this was on the friday then on the sunday i woke up with alot of pain so went to the hospital were they told me i was losing the baby i was gutted. So they sent me for a scan to confirm it!! We had to have some blood tests taken, to measure the hcg hormone if it doubles every 48 hours the pregnancy is on going!!! So on the tuesday they took blood and the hcg was at 318 then they took more on the thursday and the hcg was 806 so the pregnancy is still on going i was shocked because i had been lead to believe it wasnt on going but i was happy that it is!!!
But now we under monitoring so we had a scan when i was 5 and half weeks and the it was in my womb and everything looked great she said!!!
We have our next scan tomorrow im 8 weeks now but i feel like there is goin to be no heartbeat again i am so so scared!!!
I have really bad sickness but i read in a book that serve sickness is a sign of a failed pregnancy i dont think i could cope with going through that again i want this baby so badly so so badly!!! I cant even put in to words what this baby means to me!!! I have done everything by the book!!!
How can i stop my self from gettin so worked up when i feel like the same thing is gonna happen to me all over again!!!
30/5/08 20:48
Hi there,
I so know how you are feeling. I've been feeling pregnant...all the usual stuff-sickness, really sore boobs and tired. I'm 10 weeks this week. However suddenly I've stopped being sick, boobs are a little sore and I feel less tired so my head has convinced me that this one has gone ( I lost me last one 2.5 years ago) I had a dating scan nearly 4 weeks ago, where they felt I was nearly 7 weeks and a heart beat was seen I have to say I couldn't look at the scan- I was too scared I'd hear what I'd heard before....'its gone', so hubby looked for me. I am now waiting to hear about another scan- the waiting is like torture as I'm so sure this little much wanted surprise baby has gone, cant feel positive at all. I've had no pain, no discharge, or bleeding..........
You are not alone in your worries, and if there is someone watching over us, hopefully we can both post the good news when we have our scans- I can only hope!
In the mean time, I know our minds can play nasty tricks, and although I'm haveing a hard time being positive....try and be positive...I'll try if you try!
Take care of yourself, contact me if you want a chat,
Love Trudy
24/5/08 19:13
My hunny was desperate for me to have an early scan this time, I wasn't so bothered. To me a scan wasn't going to make me feel secure so what was the pont in pushing for one. Good luck with your scan when you get it. I never enjoy them, i'm just terrified what they will find.
24/5/08 16:37
Hiya, I'm not too bad. I'm not a priority for an early scan but tbh I'm not sure I want one - to know that it's ok would be wonderful but knowing that it could still go so very wrong too..... I've been booked in with the mw for the 7th June (10+2) and she'll send off for my scan then for me and I'll have to traipse across town to the blood centre for my booking in samples. Another 6 weeks and I'm sure I'll be fine x
24/5/08 16:09
You heard anything about a scan yet ?
Hope you're ok.
22/5/08 22:16
Evening - not sure how I'm feeling. Not as negative but not wholly positive either. Got docs in the morning to register my pregnancy so will see what he says - Not met him before so really hoping he's not a git. Thanks for asking after me xx
Hi Girls,
Thanks for all the concern i have just been so tired lately havent really had time to come on here and reply!!!
Everything went fine when i had my scan and baby was still goin strong thank god!! Im now 17 weeks but gettin a bit concerned coz i still havent felt the baby move or even had that bubblin feelin everyone says they get!!!
I have also been told i have got antenatal depression which puts me at higher risk of havin post natal depression it just seems like its one thing after the other i just want everything to be ok and i want my baby here with me now and it just feels like every week there is a new problem!!!
I have a tiny bump so ppl keep sayin everything is fine because if u get a bump it means the baby is growin but when i havent been for a scan for so long u just never know when something could go wrong i read a thread on a different forum about a women who lost her baby at 20 weeks i couldnt believe it that must have been so hard for her been so far on and then been told that she isnt havin the baby its just so awful!!!
I have everything crossed that my baby is ok and healthy!!!!
Hope everyone else's pregnancies are goin well let me know how u's are all gettin on??
Speak soon
lots of love
xxx