I lost Aidan in Oct and we started trying again after xmas as if I'd waited any longer I wld have chickened out! Took us 3mnths or so to get pg and then Ewan was born healthily in Nov

Good luck with ttc when ur ready x

hiya all,

i'm anika, i'm 23 and had my sleeping baby boy Ieuan David on the 15th of may this year, i was over due 40+11,  its been really and hard over the last 10 weeks, but now thinking bout Ttc,, and very scared of the same thing happening again.... how long did every-1 leave it before ttc again?  

Hi there - my second son was s/b at 39wks in 2005 due to a true knot in the cord.... He stopped moving and when we went to the hosp they cldnt find hb ... Since then I have had another little boy in 2006 and am pg again (not planned) and due in sept

My 1st pg after my loss was in all honesty hell which was why we had decided we wldnt do it again - I worried about everything !!!!  Even unrelated things happening - even tho I had had the sb and was obviously anxious about it happening again I also worried about things like m/c, prem labour, cot death all sorts of everything happening cos if one thing cld happen to me then obviously anything cld (in my crazy mind) Like u say tho I think it was because I was soo very desperate for the nxt baby to be born and alive! And I hadn't really finished greiving for my little man and I think i actually put all thast on hold while I was pg again....

I had pretty good care thru the pg - monitoring regularly and extra scans etc but until he was born safely and breathing my bp and pulse were on high alert!!! Stress levels were unbeleivable.... But thankfully all was fine and I vowed never to do it again yet here I am once again pg!!!

This time however cos my success stats are a bit better I am much more relaxed about this pg! I obviously have my days where I think OMG he's having a quiet day will I wake up tomorrow and this baby has stopped moving aswell??...... but they're not as frequent as they were last pg! I seem to have much less panicky moments this time round than I did last time! And I think cos I have now had a chance to get further on in the grieving process I am more logical about things that I wasnt last time if that makes sense?!?!?

all the best for a problem free pg....

CM

x

Hi, I had a stillborn son who I named Johnny on 30th October 1996 when I was 16, it damaged my womb and I was scared of getting pregnant again. After I found out I was pregnant after a 1 night stand in 2000 I was petrified. I ended up going into premature labour at 6 months and my daughter Harmony came out fine.

Hi Beccy

I've gatecrashed here also, our darling son Cameron  was born sleeping on 11 th April 2005 at 39+3weeks, I went into labour naturally and once we got to the hospital there was no heartbeat we also had no explanation.  We have since gone on to have our precious Daughter Ruby born 09th December 2007, I asked for the same team that I had when I went into labour with Cameron and they arranged that for us.  Towards the end of my pregancy with Ruby I was scanned every week from 32 weeks then once I got to 35 I was at the hospital twice a week to have her heart monitored.  They told me I could go when ever I wanted to be checked, I think this was just to reassure me more than anything else.  I was induced at 38weeks with Ruby.

I hope everything goes well for you

Donna

xxxxx

Mummy to Lewis Freddie (5 going on 50)

                   Cameron Alexander (Born Sleeping 11.04.05 39+3weeks)

                   Ruby Charlie (6months)

hello hun ive not gone through a still birth but would like to say my sister in laws baby girl was born sleeping a couple of yrs ago and shes given birth to a beautiful healthy boy last mnth so just shows can go well good luck hun  xx

hi beccy hun, hope u dont mind me gate crashing your thread, just wanted to say hello

hope u are doing ok, and will catch up with you soon

lots of love

xxxxxx

thanks hun.x Good luck.

Im getting scanned every 4 weeks at the moment but after 30 weeks will be scanned weekly my consultant and midwife are really looking after me and keeping a close eye im sure you'll get the same care

Good luck hope everything goes well for you

xxxxx

Lisa - thanks for sharing your experiance with me.  I am so sorry to hear of your loss.  Its so reasurring to know you had such good care with your next pregnancy, i just hope i will get the same.xx

Hiya Beccy,

I don't belong in the section so i apologise for crashing. We lost Hannah at 39wks in Dec 2006 and she was stillborn also................. we started trying as soon as we could and i fell pregnant very soon.......................... i gave birth to Hannahs little brother Jude on 29th Dec 2007.

In all honesty i found that my pregnancy was not too bad............. i had one or two wobbles but other than that i was ok and i think its because i had such a fantastic consultant. I was scanned every 4 wks from when i had a BFP till i was 26wks then it moved to every two weeks.............. i was then monitored once a week and scanned once a week from 30 wks gestation................ i was also given the date that i would be induced on from my very 1st appointment so i had something to focus on (i was induced at 37wks)............................ it made my pregnancy so much easier as i was basically just concentrating on the next appointment iykwim??.............

Anyway if i can help in any way please don't hestitate to ask........................... and i will pop in from time to time to hear your news.

love Lisa x

I am waiting for an appointment for an early scan to come through.  I've also been told i'll have 4 weekly, then 2 weekly scans and can have monitoring twice a week or more if i want it.  So i know i will be looked after.  Its just hard emotionally isnt it.  I am being induced at 38 weeks and i also have group b strep so will have iv antibiotics throughtout the labour aswell.  I have a long way to go, but i hope it goes well.

Good luck ladies.xx

hi there im charlie and i lost my little girl  Honey on 31st jan 2005 at 40+11.  this too was unexplained and not likely to happen again.  i give birth to my ds 12th dec 2005 and everything was fine.  im not 14wks preg and the rollercoaster has begun.  im back to the feelling ive always had before and its very scarey.  i had lots of scans and appointments with previous preg and i met my consultant on mon to find out the plan of action this time. at first i was conviced id mmc than now i think something will be up with abnormal scans.  my first  pregnancy was full of happiness and joy.  although we are really pleased to be preg again from trying.  the fear will always be with us all.  take care everyone xxxx

I really hope everything goes ok for you in this pregnancy and im sure they will keep a close eye on you!! Im having scans every 4 weeks until im 32 weeks then ill be having weekly ones and maybe be induced early depending on what my consultant decides!

When is your 12 week scan xxx

Hi ladies, thanks for your replies.  I was 40+5 when amber was borning.  My labour started at 6pm the day before, she was still moving at 10pm, but by 2am she was gone.  the post mortem didnt give a reason, its unexplained.  Its just so hard to beleive that one minute she was here the next she was gone.  Its hard to shake that feeling now with this pg.  But i think i feel better than i expected to.

Hi my names Kirsti and I had a stillbirth at 32 weeks november 2007 I am now 23+6 weeks pregnant and i was exactly like you at the start of the pregnancy I worried about mc and there being abnormalities and I was convinced I was going to be told at the 12 week scan that baby had died! Luckily everything was fine at the 12 week scan and 20 week scan I still worry about stillbirth but im not as worried as I was in the start ive actually started to enjoy the pregnancy!

If youve got msn myne is Mizz_Kirsti16@hotmail.co.uk

Hope everything goes well for you hopefully talk soon xxxxxx

hi my names nicole our little boy was born 7 june 07 and i am now 28 weeks pregnant.  I worried at the very beginning because they still wait till you 12 week scan before they do anything.........i just try to think about other things like the future of when the baby comes.

i hope you dont mind me asking how far you were and what happened but i completely understand how you are feeling and i am here for you if you want to talk about anything.

If you have msn my email is tweetypie_203@hotmail.com

BIG HUGZ nic 28+3 lil girl

Hi my name is beccy i am 27 and married to ian.  Our daughter amber was born sleeping on 12th sept 2007.  I have been ttc for 5 months and topped trying last month cuz gp said my bloods showed that i wasnt ovulating.  So i stopped thinking about it and bang, got my bfp on saturday.  I am 5+3.  Its my second pg and i am a little anxious.  Not feeling too bad or worried about another stillbirth but seem to be worrying about mc or something being wrong with the baby.  Guess its cuz i am so desperate for it to go right this time.  Anyone else in the same boat as me?