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18/7/08 14:16
17/7/08 22:05
Oh hun - buckets of good luck for tomorrow! I know you'll do well!
I'm julia and I'm an ancient 41! I have a DD - 20 months old and fab - I had her the day before my 40th!! A late starter as I was interested in my career ( architect - own business etc) and simply didn't meet DP until late on. We were only going out for less than a year when we found DD was coming. A wonderful surprise. Hadn't even moved in together at that point! Now we have a wonderful family - I just wanted a wee baby bro or sister for DD.
This is all a shock as I had a great pregnancy before - but I guess at my age........( still feel dead young so its all a shock!!!!) I'm desperate to ttc again ( clock ticking?) but hoping I've not missed my sell by date......... a mmc has made me doubt my ability in this department!
Good luck tomorrow hun - I'll be thinking about you!

17/7/08 18:18
hi selwyn iam am like you still bleeding but since we have started chatting i am begining to feel much better it is nice to know that i have someone to chat to if you dont mind me asking where are you from and can you tell me a little about yourself.iam 25 years old have been married for 5 years and am a senior carer in a residental home but i have an interview for a postion as a pharmacy position tommorow and i live in heckmondwike west yorkshire hope to hear from you soon kerrie.x
17/7/08 11:28
How are you today?
I'm still bleeding - I thought I had stopped but obviously there is more to come. I have a scan booked for mon so hoping they can give me some good news at last.
I'm having such a hard time making my family understand how I feel - its so much easier to talk on here as people really do understand.
The mc forum is a great help. I just wish none of us had to endure this pain.
Big hug hun.
16/7/08 21:12
thankyou for your kind wordsit is nice to have someone to talk to hope we can be friends kerrie.x
16/7/08 11:28
Just wanted to give you a hug.
I've just had a mmc too - but none of your other worries.
You certainly sound as if you are going through hell and I totally understand why you want to hold on for a baby of your own.
hang in there hun - hoping they can help you tc.
15/7/08 16:12
hi my name is kerrie i have been on bounty for a few months i was 13 weeks pregnant but when i went for my scan my little one had stopped growing and i had a natural misscarrige a few weeks ago but when they scanned me they also found i had not only got another ovarian cycst but that the lining of my womb was also thicker than it should be nealy 2 cm thicker which my gp has refered me back to my gynacologist but they have already ruled out endometriosis because of my hormone levels but both my mum and nan had there wombs removed due to cysts and suspected cancer my mum has been fighting cancer since 2001 and finally goes into remission at the end of the month but i feel i have had no real support i am scared i dont know what is going on i was warned that if i got another cycst that i could loose the ovary they have been large cysts the last one was in november but my mum turned around and said have a hysterectomy as she would rather have a healthy daughter than grandchildren which really hurt me as she has got me and my two sisters and i dont have any yet she is already a grandma i have two nephews and my husband is the only son to carry on his family name i cant talk to him though as he doesnt understand he just thinks everything is okay and that i will bounce back he is not very good at offering emotional support sorry i have ranted on thankyou letting me rant on for so long i have needed to get this off my chest kerrie.x



Hi Kerrie
I didn't want to read and run so thought I would introduce myself.
I'm sorry for your loss and current heartache over your ovarian cysts and womb lining problems {{HUGS}}
When I lost my 2nd baby (had 3 MC's in all) I was told that I had a 'small cyst on my ovary but nothing to worry about' Told my GP about what the hospital had said and she arranged a scan 6-8 weeks later to check out the cyst. It had grown to 5 cm's within another week it was over 7 cm's and still growing. Whilst I was waiting for laproscopic surgery to remove it, it twisted and I had to be rushed into hospital and have it removed via laparotomy (very similar to a caesarean incision, so got a visible scar now).
However, I kept my ovary and went on to conceive and lose another baby. I'm not pretending that my problem is the same as yours but I have experienced a large torsion cyst and they are painful.
I'm expecting again and everyday is a worry. I've already had a threatened miscarriage but baby has managed to have a heartbeat and seems to be fighting at the moment. So never say never. It's not easy but you do find the strength to keep going, I promise.
Just because your mum and nan had to have their wombs removed does not necessarily mean that you will have to go down the same road... you are only 25 and medicine has come on considerably since your nan and mum were poorly.
Could the womb lining be due to having been pregnant up until 13 weeks. The lining of your womb naturally thickens up to support the baby and make sure it gets everything it needs.
I hope you get some answers soon and push the hospital for the support that you need.
Take care, Katy x