Hey I know that feeling only too well... I had the same sort of feelings when I was pg after my loss at 39wks

The second u feel happy about this pg u feel guilty about it cos of the baby u lost and will never have... U worry people will think u only had this baby to replace the one u lost but thats not why cos u can never replace the baby u lost.... he will always have his special pplace in your heart and will always count as one of ur children even if others dont realise that! I think ur trying to replace the empty feeling in your arms and heart when having another baby and proving to urself that u CAN have a successful pg and outcome if that makes sense...

Ur little angel will b keeping u and ur new baby safe hun... And I;m sure smiling at your happiness....

I found even after my baby was born I felt pangs of guilt and tears when I thought that what I had with my new baby I wld never have with the one I lost ... U always think about it at different milestones the baby acheives and about the what ifs.... what if he'd survived I wldnt even be having this baby... then u feel guilty in respect of the child u do have and feel as tho ur being ungreatful!!

All I can say is accept this is the way u are going to feel and get upset about it but dont let it overcome u or dwell too much on it as u will stop urself frm enjoying ur pg and new baby when he comes.... Ur bound to have these feelings - its only natural and ur not the only person to think it and feel guilty about it - we all have in the same situation!

Just rest assured if u do the pg thing again - its easier the 2nd time after ur loss... I'm 32wks atm (due sept too) with my 2nd baby after my loss and am much less stressed and emotional this time than I was last time....

U will get thru it and its good to look forward to ur new baby - for u emotionally if nothing else hun.... Here's wishing u a speedy few weeks till this baby is born safely.... U won;t stop worrying or feeling guilty till this baby is safely in ur arms!

X

hi everyone.

i lost my little man late in pregnancy last year and now im due to have his brother on the 5th of september. Just a few weeks left  I feel really guilty like our Angel might think hes been replaced. i was looking at all the clothes i have for his little brother and i was really happy, had my music on and everything 
But then i was playing with this little new born pair of socks and  was smiling like a loon lookin farward to tryin to get Kyles little feet in them . then i burst into tears! i realized Jay (our Angel) never even got the chace to wear a pair. 

I miss him so much every day I'm sooooo proud of him i know that hes looked after me and his little bro all the way through this pregnancy. i hope he knows i am. 
My partner keeps tellin me that Jay knows .. but does he? i hope so.  

sorry just needed to get it of my chest. 
xx