thank you for all your kind words we kinda come to the conclusion that we will just let nature do its thing and see what happens so hopefully soon will have my own baby! thank you again xx

It's never easy, i had a mmc in november last year someone i worked with was due the day before me and my oh sisters was initally due a month after. I was happy for them but the feeling it should be me as well took a while to disappear. After about a month we did talk about a baby again and decided we would leave it up to nature to as and when it saw fit to do the necessary. I am now 24 + 3 weeks and to say i didn't worry would be an understatement. What happened will always be in the back of my mind and i don;t think anything will change that . Everybody is different don't let anybody tell you that you should be over it by now unless they have been through it they have no idea. I kept blaming myself thinking it was something i had done or not. I gradually found talking about it to different people it became easier , it's not a subject people like to bring up which is why sometimes i dont think people fully understand what it can do to you . You need to do what is right for both of you , it may take sometime to decide what that is. Hopefully things will become easier for you.

heya

im really sorry to hear about your loss. i mc in march and it was the worst feeling in the world i felt empty and lost. when we started talking about trying again i was petrified that i would loose this baby to. im pregnant again and havent stopped worrying everythings fine so far. i no that my mc happened for a reason but i will never forget my first baby!!! i think any1 who has suffered a mc will worry through another pregnancy but the mws are very good with regular check ups and scans

i wish you all the best xxxxxxx

i think its hard when u lose a baby and u feel like ur the only person thats going through it. i pushed my dh away because i felt like it was my fault that we lost our little angel. its hard 2 think about other peopes feelings when your going through so much pain. i eventually saw what he was going through. your husband has 2 understand how hard losing a baby is for a woman and maybe when you have had time to heal (for yourself and not your husband) however long that takes, suggest a baby in the future. like my mom always said 2 me never say never because you dont know whats going to happen in the future

congrats!! im sure ur right im just so scared and i am a natural worrier as well so just making it worse for meself i remember hating SIL as she was still preg when i lost mine and she already had one and i just remember thinking it wasnt fair! its just hard knowing i have to take hubby's feelings into account and then i get meself to a point of i think i could handle being preg and want one and then summat stops me i think i just need a slap round the face lol

thank you

xx

i know exactly how you feel. i had a mc in april. its so hard being around pregnant people. my friends pregnant and all she would do is show me her scan pictures and tell me what her babies doing. dnt get me wrong im happy for her but cant help feelin jealous and slightly resentful because i lost my little bean.

you have 2 do whats right for yourself and i thought the same as u that i didnt want to try again in case i lost it but i resently found out that i am pg. im still so shocked and worried that the same thing is gona happen but then i realize its a different pg and a different baby so yeah it might happen again but then it might not.

i have never met u but no way could you be a bad mom. good luck with whatever you decide to do and i wish you and your family all the best for the future.

hey dont really know what to do have not really been on here since the beginning of the year and dont really know who else to talk to about this.

i miscarried on new years day this year and i am still trying to get over which is unsuccesful i miss my baby so much and my sister in law gave birth yesterday with 2 other friends giving birth on tuesday and it is really hurting me atm bcos i miss my baby so much.

me and hubby decided that when i was pregnant that we would get married and brought our wedding forward when i lost the baby we decided that we would keep the wedding forward and try again afterwards.  well we are now married and i know the pressure is on to make a decision and i can decide and dont want to.  i know he desperately wants one but would be willing to wait for me and i want one too but have started a new job and i keep beating myself up about the angel i lost and i dont know if i really want to start a family as i am so scared about loosing it again or going full time and hurting the baby and being a bad mam.  i just want to cry all the time and dont know who to talk to about it

xx