hi iv been sufering verry badly i lost 2 babys last year and never thought i would get preg again im 18 weeks preg but was on anti d before got preg know i had to stop them as i didnt want to harm baby in any way and i stoped smoking to, i have my sister preg about 10 before me and most of my friend preg to about 3 to 4 weeks apart from me witch is all lovely and nice to chat about baby to but im so scared still will i bond with my baby iv been buying loads of stuff to take my mind of things and my way of trying to bond i just cant see me copeing when baby is hear just miss my babys so much is all this normal? havent told any one how i feel before now as im worried what people will think of me

hey im sorry i thought i replyed 2 u, must have been in my head sorry. anyway i have been refered to consultant for the same thing. i have an 8 year old and was on anti d's but now i dont take them at all. just because you feel low from time to time doesnt mean that you will be a bad mom so please stop thinking that. having kids puts your whole life in perspective and you do eventually realise that the world aint such a bad place and when you have your LO u will have so much to take our mind off your worries. if you still feel that you cant cope ask your doctor to refer you to a team of nurses that will come to your home and help and support you through pregnancy and when babys born, believe me it doesnt make u a weak or bad person admitting that you need help.

anyway i am always here for you so you are not alone, good luck.

I spent about a year chatting on ttc after loosing and some ladies have had terrible experiences. I dont want to upset anyone by going on there and doing the 'hi, i'm pg but....'

thanks for your reply tho

this forums slow, i cant help but why dont you ask in ttc after loosing a baby xxxx

anyone?

7(+5) baby number 2, saw midwife today who is refering me to a consultant because I suffered bad baby blues then developed anxiety after a mc. I have been doing quite well recently and had started to ween myself off of anti depressants before getting my bfp. Has anyone else heard of this before? I'm frightnened my parenting abilities are going to be scrutinised.