lo stopeed at my mums on sat and although she didnt drop off to sleep and woke a few times she didnt ask to come home, and my mum told her she couldnt anyway, which her dad never does. she sed she'll stop her dads fri if she can come home after breakie so i have agreed with her dad for him to have her 5.30-11.30 fri nit till sat but advised him to take her swimming or the park or summit. but im due this weekend so we'll see, she sed this morning she didnt want to go as daddys house smells!!!!but im going to persist and try and get her to stop if he rings for her to come home then he'll have get a taxi and bring her wnt he, cnt expect a 40wk pregnant woman go out at nite to collect her.

Hope you get on ok is very hard because it's horrible when you know your child isn't happy with something but want them to remain in contact and for the father to have the contact he's entitled too.  The courts wouldn't blame you for her not wanting to be there, and I reckon it's up to him to make it more enjoyable for them so that they want to go.  Men !!!  good luck

he has toys for her and clothes and he has gold fish there, she has now sed that next wekend wen she is due to stop agen she will stop because she is going to daddies flat to see her fish but im due that weekend and i may have to fetch her bk to see her sister.i tried talking to him and have spoken to his mum who also tried telling him the same thing but he wnt listen.im going to ring him in abit and see what is sed.

It's a hard one as she is so young so prob can't really tell you the reason. If you are on good terms with your ex it is worth talking things through with him that way the courts can't say you've not tried and he'd be seen as being unfair should he make an issue of it.  If your not on talking terms then I'd suggest writing to him keeping copies and sending recorded delivery and trying to come to some solution.  Do you not have any old toys that aren't used at home that could go to her dad's with her as a temporary measure.

well ive told her that if she stops daddies sat ill go get her straight after breakie and we'll go get the flowers for the garden, but she told daddy she didnt want to stop and daddys sed ok then u dnt have to???why if he wants her to stop???he sed we shud try agen after the baby is bornbut i feel that we'd have go bk to doing it in stages as she now hasnt stopped in nearly 6wks and baby not due for 2 so wen we get round to trying agen itll be 2months plus before shes stopped over agen. i suggested him having her fri nite at 6 (she goes bed at 7.30) and then avibg a full day with her rather than doing the full day and then expecting her to sleep but he didnt want to try that either.

This is a hard situation, I have been there myself.  I used to talk about something fun we could do the next day, I did this by basic counting e.g after one sleep or after two sleeps we can go and buy sweets or see nanny. Just lttle things that were easily understood and I always kept to them. This was on days with me and my ex, it didn't take long for it to be understood that one sleep at daddies and sweets with mummy was definately going to happen... A friend said it was like blackmail, but at the end of the day I saw it that a couple of sweets (and that was it, just a couple of 1p chocolate mice) wasn't going to do any harm as it was just reinforcing the fact mummy was there after one sleep and the sweets were just something associated as a good thing. It was soon quite easy even with a new baby. Your little girl has had another woman in her life with a small child who suddenly wasn't there anymore.. I think she is seeing you as your going to have a baby as suddenly not being there aswell... Just hang in there and keep the cuddles of re-assurance up for her!

my little gal is 4 and im 37 wks pregnant so i dnt know if this is the reason but she dnt want to stop over nite and the last 3times she has ive had to go and get her at 9 -10pm at nite as shes bin in tears. my ex used to have a galfriend who had a little gal and they have now split so my lo has noone to play with and all of her toys are at his galfriends house and she wnt give them bk so my lo dnt have her xmas presents to play with either.

how can i gety her to stop over as court have made a reasonable contact order that we both have to stick to, im not saying she cnt go she just wnt.