PR doesn't give him residency rights just a say in how she is brought up.

It sounds like neither of you have been legally given residency.

Emma

i had eating problems so asked ex to look after her whilst i got sorted and when it came for her to live with me he said he wanted custody so instead of taking her i went to the solictor and put started custody prodceedings....his name is on the birth certificate so he does have pr....

i am talking to my solicitor tomorrow about it all so shall see what she says

You need to find out what is going on.

Do you have legal custody of your DD at the moment in the eyes of the law? Your Ex doesn't have a residency order of any kind?

Because if you have legal residency at the moment the next visit you could just refuse to hand her back and there isn't any thing he can do about it. The police couldn't remove her because you have the residency order at present so legally she should be resident at your home.

If you think she is in an unstable situation eg about to be made home less you could try for an emergency residency order to get at least tempory legal residency, while the court reveiw it.

Emma

If DD wants to call her mum then I dont have a problem with it I really dont what I have a problem with is her telling people that she IS her mum

My solicitor is crap and ive had hassle off DD's dad today telling me he is letting his OH deal with it now

Apparently his OH nearly kicked them out the other day and thats my fault apparently

I've spent the whole day trying not to throw my phone at the wall as he has wound me up that much, been in tears most of the day too and am taking it out on DP

Well I think the call me mumy bit is out of order, although my mum made me call my step dad dad I didn't see my real dad though.

I only ever call him dad if I am speaking to my mum now.

It isn't right to teacher her to call her step mum mum and tell her to call your by your name. If your DD wants to call her mum that is some thing you can't stop.

Good luck at the solicitors.

Emma

Ex has never liked DP anyway apparently he looks like a loose cannon but hand on heart DP has never ever ever laid a finger on me and I know he wouldnt as well.

Ex is always trying to cause problems with DP and I, the ex's fiancee causes problems with me and DD. For some reason she thinks its her god given right to tell people my DD is hers and is telling DD to call me Dea and not mummy

I am seeing solicitor tomorrow and giving her a huge kick up the ass so hopefully that will make me feel a bit better too

Not good!

At least you can put in your SS report that they don't use seat belts for her etc. If they are having her full time they need to buy a car big enough for every one to have a seat. They need to any way even if it is only for the week end. 

What a stupid thing to say about your DP!

Why on earth would you agree to pay his court costs he wants to change things he should pay to fight for what he wants. Is he mad or some thing would he pay for your court costs if you were taking him to court?

I hope you get your DD back and well done for try to send her to a place where you thought she would be safe while you recovered from an eating disorder.

Emma

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH that feels a little better

I am currently going through a custody case with my ex over our 4 year old daughter, in 2006 I got told if I didnt sort my eating out then I would be in hospital on a drip (stopped eating & was making myself sick) well after a months of trying to sort it out I realised that DD was eating less and less and her weight was dropping so I asked her dad to look after her whilst I got my eating etc sorted out...he agreed to this and then when it came to it in 2007 for her to live with me again he changed his mind and said he wanted custody of her....so the custody case started.

He has moved in with his new partner and she drives me crazy. She is 28 and I am 21 and feels its her right to tell me what is and isnt right for DD, tells me when I can and can't see her and now DD's dad has had the bloomng nerve to ask me to pay for HIS court costs!!!

Well this weekend I had DD and was due to drop her off at noon on Sunday. At 10:30am I got a text from his fiancee saying they were picking her up now as they had somewhere to be at 1pm (she lives 15 mins away from where I was staying at my mums) they finally arrived at 11:30am and DD's dad kicked off at me telling me I am not to dictate what will and will not happen with DD (all because I refused to pay HIS court costs), he started swearing and raising his voice to me outside my mums house and my 16 year old brother told him not to talk to me like that especially not with DD around. DD walked off to my DP and then DD's dad walked off to the car down the road and called for DD to follow him....she went.

I asked my brother to look into the car and see how many children were in the back (ex's fiancee has 4 kids and a 5 seater car) he said there were 3 kids in the back of the car excluding DD, ex in the passenger seat and his fiancee driving. DD is only four so requires a booster seat by law but with 3 kids in the back excluding DD there would have been nowhere to put the seat. DD's dad placed DD in the car on one of the kids lap and then they drove off.

We got the reg and phoned the police and they came had a chat with me and then left....

....now im getting moaned at from the ex's fiancee for calling the police!!! Ex hasnt said a word about it at all its just been the fiancee. She's been given a fine and 3 points and she thinks its unfair, that I am being childish, causing hassle and is generally trying to make me feel guilty about calling them....sorry but i am pretty sure she would have done the same.

I cant do right for wrong with them over DD, i try to be more involved in her life and I get moaned at, so I stick to the argreement and get moaned at, i keep her dirty clothes to wash....get moaned at....send them back...get moaned at...buy her things she needs....get moaned at...dont but her anything....get moaned at..

And whats more the cheeky blooming numpties have said that if my DP is to be involved in DD's life then they want maintence money off him!!!! ARE YOU TAKING THE MICK OR WHAT!!!!

Rant over for now and breathe..................