You need to both sit down and decide what is acceptable behaviour and curfews etc for your children. Make a set of house rules and then make your OH understand that they apply to all children in the house and if they aren't kept punishments will follow. If he can not aggree to this his son has to go to his mothers as you have more than one child to bring up.

Emma

i have been with my oh for 4 years now, i have 2 children a girl 14 and a boy 7, he has 2, girl 19 and boy 15, we also have a baby boy aged 7 months..  Since christmas his son has been living with us, was no asking, after christmas, it was supposed to be a week here and a week with his mum, well he just never left...

I know we all bring our kids up differently, but i feel like im being taken advantage of, and i feel like im constantly nagging at oh to do something about the way things are..  He seems to do whatever he wants and gets away with it, this is now causing problems with my daughter "well he can, so why cant i?"  I know oh finds it difficult because he wasnt around while they were growing up (they were with their mum) i think he feels and always felt that he had to be the good guy, for them to like him, so to speak.. OH is a soft touch but his son is taking the p*** now, and its winding me up... I dont know what to do, i have tried talkin with ss and oh but its in 1 ear and out the other with ss, and oh doesnt see a problem!! 

Any advice???

mandy