well i went and it turned out 2 b the worst day ever. as soon as we got 2 their house she started havin a go at my partner then she came out 2 the car and tried 2 make conversation wid me about wen we needed 2 bring them bk and wot they should have 2 eat [ her meanin macdonalds] as thats all she feeds them.

so we take them 2 the seaside,on2 the pier as they have a massive ball pit on the pier 2 let them burn off some energy,their cousins came as well. but after 10 mins it all started 2 go wrong '' our mum said u would buy as this'' and ''mum said u would do this and that''.

my partner then brought them a teddy 2 share which cost bloody £9.99 not alot but wen u have no money and u got a newborn 2 me thats alot of money especially wen i ended payin 4 everythin yesterday. they got the hump cause i wouldnt buy them 1 each so as usual im the wicked step mum. they had 2 b home by 5 which left us wid 4 hours 2 spend time wid them. my partner took them bk home for 5pm and i stayed wid my brother in law,while my partner was takin them home my neice told me that the 2 kids had said that they didnt want 2 know our new daughter or son as they werent their full brother and sister so why should they have 2 love them and spend time wid them and b nice 2 them.

wen i heard this i called my partner and told him, he then had a word wid his ex and as usual she didnt care just said oh well dont worry. im really gutted actually im heartbroken i cant believe they said that, my son is 4 and hes old enough now 2 know wen someone is bein nasty and i dont want him 2 realise that his 2 ''sisters'' dont want 2 know as he loves them 2 bits.

its got 2 the point now that ive had enough i dont want 2 c them again. ive even considered splittin up wid my partner so my kids dont have 2 listen 2 their crap and b treated like s**t by them. i dont know wot 2 do im so angry as well ive tried my dammed hardest ova the past 5yrs 2 b nice and under standing, ive neva tried 2 replace their mum ive neva stopped my partner seein them if anythin ive put my own kids 2nd so they r happy but not anymore. so sorry 4 the rant i just dont know wot 2 do.

oh i just re read your post..i hadnt realised the youngest was only 4 weeks..it is a bit soon...even with a child in good health i think its best to concentrate on your self and baby for a while.mothers need to re cooperate physicaly AND mentaly

hope all goes well

i know 1 day they will realise wot their mother is doin but at the mo its just 2 hard 2 cope with. i love the 2 kids 2 pieces even though they drive me insane and really know how 2 wind me up. i just aint got the energy at the mo 2 deal wid them and their mother. im still tryin 2 adjust 2 havin 2 kids myself and as our daughter was ill wen she was born and we had 2 stay in hospital 4 ova a week wen she was born im still tryin 2 get her better i know im bein unfair 2 the kids but i have tried 2 persuade my partner 2 wait till we r properly settled and she is better but he didnt want 2 know.

it might be best to just go...and bite ya lip. be nice...take interest in them...try and enjoy the day.

i know its hard, but one day they will grow up and be able to tell for themselves that thier mother is manipulating. and then you will find you develope a good relationship with them..its just hard in the mean time x

ello this is just a bit of a rant so i can let off a bit of steam. ive been wid my partner for 5 yrs we have 4yr old son and i gave birth 2 our daughter 4 wks ago, my partner has 2 girls wid his ex aged 11 and 9 who r very rude and dis-respectfull and i really dont like spendin time wid them i know its not the kids fault as their mother really cant be bothered wid them but we r goin 2 c them 2moz so they can c their new sister and that is fine but i really dont want 2 go as me and my partner did agree that i didnt c them again until they learned some manners and respect [ long story ive had real problems wen they have stayed wid us].

i have 2 go as they live 150 miles away and wots worse ive got 2 c his ex who drives me mad just lookin at her. i know wot will happen we will pick the kids up she will moan that he neva sees them enough she even thinks he loves the oldest more than the youngest which is total bull. then we will take the kids 2 the beach they will get their macdonalds and present then they will want 2 go home like they always do. they neva actually want 2 spend time wid their dad or brother they just want their presents and food which really winds me up.

im just 2 tired 2 deal wid them and their mother but i dont want 2 stop my partner and son seein the kids just because i dont want 2, soz 4 the long story i just havent got the heart 2 tell my partner that i dont want 2 go as he is lookin 4ward 2 goin and he thinks that the kids would have changed their ways but i know they wont have if their mother has anythin 2 do wid it.