You need to get help of some sort for the family as a whole.

I had to live with a step dad that hated me and it coloured my whole life. You do not want your DD on anti d's at 17 due to his attitude etc. like I was.

Talk to your HV about any help you maybe able to get.

Emma

Thanks hun, I think it all stems from his past, He has rose coloured glasses about his mum ( no longer with us) he has her on a pedistool but his sisters tell a completly diff story, she would lock them outside in the snow if they palyed together, if he made his sisters  laugh they would all be in trouble.

He rfuses to talk about any of his child hood and has just mentally blocked out the abuse that I know for a fact happened.

Hi hun

Sending you a big hug, sounds like you need it.

I have to be honest i think the only way you will ever sort this out is to talk to your partner and ask hm where the problem comes from. Has something happened betwen them that has been kept from you? or is it just because she is not his.

You cannot have a situation where you all live together but your children cannot play together they will miss out on so much and if she doesnt already, your daughter could start to resent the little one. Might be a good idea to have a quiet chat with your daughter to see if she can throw any light on the situation, and regardless of what she says, make sure she knows you support her.

Think your partner probably has issues you dont know about but they are his issues and your children shouldnt suffer because of them

sorry cant be any more help, hope it gets sorted for all your sakes

xxx

thanks hun, but he wont talk about her at all, this is not a not a new situation.

He says he dosnt have a problem with her but can honestly say he never says any thing nice to her its always, snappy or sarcastic.

im sure he dosnt hate her...

i would sit him down and tell him how you feel, and ask him how he feels toward your daughter, because after all she is part of you, and he loves you...     

he may just be aprehensive about wether your dd will manage ds properly, but if thats the case then he needs to let her try as thats the only way she will learn...  im sure you wouldnt have left him with her if you didnt trust her ability...

good luck with it all

... xxx

Ive been with my dp  5yrs we have a 3yr ds between us and I have a 13yr old dd from a previous partner.

My dp just dosnt seem to even like my dd, he wont let her play with our son, they arnt allowed out in the garden on there own.

well yesterday I needed to see the doc wehn i rang them they said the doc would see me if i could get there in 10mins, so didnt have time to sort ds out but dd was at home ( teacher training day) I asked if she would look after him for 15mins while i popped to doc, only at the end of the road, she is very mature and is very capeable of doing this, any way dp has found out and hit the roof, told me she is never to look after him and I should agree with him or pack my bags.

I realy dont know what to do, I have to bend over backwards to keep the peace between them but he wont move even the slightest.

Sorry no question to this thread, im just at a loss as to what todo.

I could write so much more, I swear he hates my dd, the way he acts towards her  seems that way to me.

If you have got this far thanks.xx