I can undestand how you feel. As my partner thinks that I'm too soft and our parenting styles are so different. When he tells my middle son off which is not his. I just want to say leave it I wll sort it but I don't and have to bite my lip as not to say anything in front of my son. But I will then say something to dp when my son is not around. I also defend my son a lot. Wether it be right or wrong. We too have nearly slpit up because of it. You do really need to sit down and talk it through. My dp is a lot harsher than me.

You need to sit down and agree a set of rules you are both happy with and a set of punishments. That way you both sing off the same hym sheet. Your son never will be his, so you have to accept that.

Emma

Hi, My partner and I have been together since my ds was 2 as is the only "dad" my son knows he is now 6.5, we have had a daughter since who is 1.

  We are rowing alot about ds and his behaviour, Last week my partner cancelled my ds trip to the cinema as he was naughty, I didn't agree with it as it was meant to be quality time just me and him however I let it go.

Tomorrow me and the kids have a day trip to a sea life centre planned and my ds is estatic he loves animals, yet my partner told him he wasn't going when he refused to finish his dinner. I then told him he was out of order and that dd hadn't finshed hers and that its 1 rule for 1 etc.. He has told me that I keep making him feel that he can't disapline the kids as I point out the differance between them, which I haven't.

I think my partner is style of parenting is harsh whereas he thinks I'm soft, but the issue of our son not being biologically his has never been a problem before.

We saw his old friend lastweek who I have never met and I saw on his phone that he told her that ds wasn't his, but this really bothered me... anyone??