Hi

Please do not mention Parental Alienation if you do go to Court - they do not recognise it and frown upon it being mentioned.

Before taking any serious actions (although I believe it is serious), get yourself along to your local Families Need Fathers meeting. Going down the solicitors route will cost you a small fortune.

You will find its location on www.fnf-org.uk

It is not just for fathers - it is for the entire family - ie fathers, mothers, new partners, grandparents etc etc

They guys that run the meetings are very informative and will steer you in the right direction. Some even act as McKenzie Friends and will accompany you to court (at a small cost) - though in most cases, they do not have the right of audience, so are there to take notes and prompt you.

Even if you do go down the solicitor route, you will gain very useful knowledge from these meetings. (Just a small donation of perhaps £2)

Good Luck with whatever you decide to do

Hey sorry just realised u said he was 6 so hes still very young and would still be attahced to his mum. A playstation at that age isnt very good he should be out playing with other children, i hope u get something sorted.

Hiya, im a mum but i really feel you need to speak to someone to see what they advise maybe a solicitors the best first choice then to see who they advise you to see with regards to his feelings etc. As for him not wanting to stay at your house, my dp has a daughter from a previous relationship and shes the same with not wanting to sleep because she misses her mummy. In reality we can see that her mum is no good but a child cant see that and just think their mum is like anyone elses mum. Shes really happy to come with us and is fine up until her mum insists her she has to ring everynight before she goes to bed which then just upsets her! so i would say dont ask him if he wants to go home like you say see if he says anything to u, but even if he did i would just say that this is his time to see his dad and hell go back to his mums the following day. Wve been going through the court for the past 4 years so i know what its like because his ex would never let him see her so we do have it stuck in concrete which i always think is best then u all know where u stand. But i also think its wrong that shes having to bribe him into going to your house. How old is he im not sure it was wrote in your post, but i would definately say get some legal advice and see what the ywould advise you to do. As for the clubs and things is it not possible he spends that time with you as well so that you get more time together?

.....generally acting as a near-3yr old should be. My eldest is and always has been a growing concern and i'm concerned the less he see's us the worse his situation is going to get.

Hello, This is Salsta’s partner Alex.
I have a 6yr old Son from a previous relationship, and he has always been of some great concern to me and Salsta my partner for 4 years. My Son is distant, introvert and moody. My youngest gets very excited when his older brother comes to stay, as he’s only 2 he doesn’t really understand he’s annoying his older brother. Recently my eldest has been getting upset when i pick him up saying he doesn’t like our youngest and that he doesn’t want to stay the night. My Ex keeps asking him "Are you sure you want to stay with Daddy" in front of me whenever i pick him up. She makes such an issue of it lately he then starts to get upset.
I was called up the school this week where i was told he recently drew on another childs jumper, is generally distant and not concerntrating and he is falling behind with his work. The head teacher said she had spoken to him and his only concern was staying at ours at the weekend.
My Ex recently took him on holiday, i didn’t see him for 3 weeks, so i asked her if during her holiday she could find the time to ring me so i could speak to him. I didn’t get a call at all during his holiday. He told me he spent most of his holiday in a kids club and not realy with his Mum. When he came back his finger nails were very long and very dirty, its kind of down to me to keep him clean. He started school without his hair being cut and his nails in a terrible state. When my Ex works my Son goes to a kids club called cosmic club above his local shops. Her partners Auntie looks after him or her step-sisters grandmother (she had a child when i met her by another fella) or members of her family have him. I was told a few months ago by my ex that he feels pushed from pillar to post by coming to stay with us. I am told its important i listen to him if he says he doesn’t want to stay, by both her and his headteacher. He has also said to his teacher he doesn’t like going to "cosmic club" but his mum says she won’t listen to that and that its important he keeps going to cosmic club.
Whenever i pick him up he is on his playstation. When he was 4 he was playing Grand Theft Auto, which i strongly opposed and she eventually stopped him playing. Whenever i phone he is on his playstaion. When i asked him why he doesn’t want to stay the night with us he said its because we don’t have the "Wall-E" game and his mum does. HIs mum doesn’t take him to activities, whereas i take him to kickboxing and trying my best to arrange for her to get him enrolled in a football team. The headteacher agreed with me that he needs to get out, learn new things and interact with other children to help build his confidence. I took him home early last night because i made the mistake of asking him directly if he wants to stay, which in future i think instead of asking directly i will just see if he causes a fuss without anything being said to him. His mum said at the door that it will work to my advantage and i should tell him i have the new star wars game to persuade him to stay, when i said "But i don’t?" she said "well he doesn’t know that". She said it was important he continued to go to his cosmic club, and i said "its important he see’s his Dad regularly" which seemed to get lost in translation.
I am considering taking him to see a child Psychologist (sp) to see if they can give me some advice, maybe even a solicitor to concrete the times he visits me at weekends. I am the structure in his life, we teach him manners, he speaks like a teenager with such an attitude at times, but it feels like all the work we do at weekends then gets lost when he goes home and is shoved in front of the Playstation.
I feel  like an awful Dad, but i know i’m not. Our youngest is a bright young man we always get compliment