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Your hubby deserves a slap honey, they can be so insensitive at times.

My son is 5 weeks tomorrow and since he was born i've been so embarrassed about the weight i have gained, i was bed bound the last 2 months of my pregnancy due to severe spd so don't think that helped. i have always had a pretty nad diet and would eat alot of rubbish i was hoping breastfeeding would encourage me to heat more healthier thus lose weight but i couldn't get myself into the right frame of mond, so i've started slimming world. i did this before when i had my daughter 4 years ago and although i'm "on a diet" i'm eating loads but more imprortnatly i'm eating proper healthy food and i'ce lost 7 1/2 pounds in the first week. I am honestly eating loads of food and although i'm struggling today (having a major chocolate craving lol) i feel so much beeter for starting it.

I hope you find something that makes you feel better but don't give up feeding your lo because of it, there is ways of doing both its just about healthy eating and when you find thagt balance the breastfeeding will only help that along

Siobhann

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Aw babe sending you lots  and lots of hugs!!! I am in the same boat as you weight wise, I had a ECS with DD and was quite swollen for a long time so when DD was 8 weeks I still looked about 6 months pregnant. DD is now 7 months and the weight is only just starting to drop off. I am still a good stone heavier than pre-bump tho! Luckily my DH always preferred me curvy, well now he's got lots of curves but can't get near em lol!

Your DH does need to sort his act out and have a word with himself, how insensitive is that! Not to mention ungrateful, you have done a HUGE thing, I know not just for him, but it's his baby too and you have done, and by the sounds of things are still doing, all the hard work, all he had to do was get laid (pardon my crudeness but that's how it is!). The last thing you should worry about now is your figure, that will sort itself out, it's still early days. But I would recommend that you try to do some exercise, not to lose weight but like PP said it gets you out of the house and keeps you sane! Just a walk with the buggy is enough. And remember to eat plenty of fruit and veg too coz that'll do wonders for your milk and your bubba. xxxxxxxx

I've been quite lucky that the weight has shifted quicker this time than after ds but i eat like a pig.....i'm trying to curb it to eating healthy stuff rather than a bar of choc as it got so bad (6 bars a day at one point) that i don't have it in house anymore as i can't be trusted. I also try to get out for a walk every day even if it's raining cos it does me good (mentally as well as physically).

As for hubby....his behaviour is well out of order......doesn't he realise how vulnerable you are at the moment.....you've gone through the trauma of pregnancy and childbirth and now you're trying to give his precious child the best start in life by bf and all he can do is whinge......he wants a kick up the backside and start pulling his weight.......U both created this precious child and it's both your responsibility to bring the lo up and nurture them, and if that means less nights on alcohol and in supporting you gettting the kids to bed and helping with getting stuff done, quality time with the kids then that is what he should be doing. He shouldn't be flirting with anyone!!!!!! Sending you enormous hugs. xx

gotta have a rant sorry, yesterday was sitting in the garden with dh, mum dad sis lo the whole family, when my dh started going on how much food i am eating.  really taking the p***, he has no idea how hard bf is.  i have to eat to keep up my milk and have not lost any weight since lo was born, he is now 11 wks.  feel really depressed about it.  i am 36 lo is my 3rd child i fed all of them til they were a year old and now feel like giving up with lo so i can diet instead.  dh is dead fit and i feel like a frumpy old cow in my size 16 jeans next to him.  he also spent the other night chatting up our skinny neighbour while i spent all evening with lo trying to settle him,  by the time lo had gone to bed i joined every1 outside and they were all so p***ed dh and neighbour were all over each other.  feel really down, when i talked to him about it he said that they were only mucking about and its me he loves etc...and tryed to take me to bed,  but i just feel to fat for that as well.

oh well rant over i am off for a cup of tea and slice of cake lol