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25/9/08 13:54
25/9/08 13:31
I would call them anyway as that one seems like it was set up a year ago and its possible more have since but, because they do the breastfeeding work, they would know where all the resources are and be able to point you in the right direction. Just make sure they know that you are desparate and close to stopping. I really wish I had called the one, even though it was miles away, as I now know they had the support in place that would have helped me.
Going to have a coffee and veg a little, Izzy has gone down for her nap and I have a few mintues to spare. Oh and feel free to add me on facebook. It would probably take me an eternity to work out how to do it!
25/9/08 13:19
its miles away but i'm going to for others in my area
25/9/08 12:41
lol, it is often what is just in front of our faces. Takes a new pair of eyes.
25/9/08 12:37
lol hun i should have know that Sheffield pct is my employer. thank u very much
25/9/08 12:09
http://www.sheffieldpct.nhs.uk/news/5-1-breastfeeding.php
I found this news article and this is exactly where you need to go and get support. Don't know if it is near you?
25/9/08 11:30
i've just pmed u hun xxx
25/9/08 11:26
i was told there arnt any surestart centres near me
25/9/08 10:54
Good for you. But seriously find a support group around you. Generally they seem to be situated in Surestart Centres but they are accesible to all. I have only just found out, despite asking months ago, that there is one nearish me that is staffed by fully trained bf counsellors. How helpful would that have been in the beginning!
Enjoy the baths
25/9/08 09:35
well ladies i'm going to carry on. after fighting for 3 hrs with the bottle she just wont take it. so im going to try my hardest to continue. going to have lots of cosy baths baths together xx
24/9/08 23:07
I do wonder if your lo is having the 16w growth spurt early ( the dates are rough guides really). I found bf really did become less demanding after that one plus your lo gets more playful around that age & can entertain self better.
I just read your other threads - my hv told me to have lo weighed every 2-4w as bf babies don't gain weight like clockwork every week. Do you have a nice GP? If you're worried you could have lo checked over in case she isn't well at the mo. Or, if you are feeling really down & tired maybe your gp could check you for anaemia, check your thyroid function & make sure you're not getting depressed. I will keep my fingers crossed that you have a better night tonight & hope you feel better about things tomorrow xx xx
24/9/08 22:48
hi ladies thanx for the advice.
nope no contraceptive pill. and yeah i've tried all sorts xx
24/9/08 22:29
no dummy wont take one
24/9/08 22:29
I meant to say also, your boobs will feel softer and emptier now, this is normal once your milk supply is established & with expressing, if you are tired & stressed you might not get anything out. As you are worried about your supply having dried up I was wondering have you by any chance started a contraceptive pill recently?
24/9/08 22:27
I assume you have tried all the fenugreek, Milk Thistle etc?
24/9/08 22:26
Hi, firstly BIG HUGS! And I agree with the other PP's, only switch to formula if you feel it's the right thing for you, not because others say so.
Now I don't know how old your LO is, but could she be having a growthspurt? DD always has mammoth feeds and gets up a lot in the night when she has growthspurts, and my boobs do feel empty. If it's a growthspurt all the suckling is going to help up your supply and things should settle in time.
Also, if you are feeling down in the dumps that can cause your milk supply to reduce, as can anxiety and stress. So the best thing there to do is just let your baby suckle as much as possible, go to bed for a day with her and do nothing but cuddle and feed on demand. The extra sleep will do both of you some good! The things PP listed are also great to up your supply, like oats, dark chocolate and feungreek.
If you are feeling in any way upset at the thought of stopping BFing, don't do it! It is very possible to mix feed, like PP said allow your LO to suckle at the breast first then top up with formula after. You may find that she will take less and less formula as your supply increases. The main thing is again to allow LO to suckle. And again, I agree with PP's, find a BF counsellor and get some proper advice, some HV's don't know their ar*es from their elbows when it comes to BFing... Too busy staring at charts and government guidelines!
But at the end of the day if you do feel that swapping to formula is the only way forward for you, please dont feel bad about it, babies ARE fine on formula. I strongly believe that a happy mummy equals a happy baby! Just make sure it is a decision you are happy about it first, don't do it just coz everyone else says it's the best thing for your baby. Trust your instincts, they are there for a reason.
HTH xxxxxx ((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
24/9/08 22:24
very sad.
i seem to b feeding every 2 hrs in day for half an hr to an hr everytime its draining me xx
24/9/08 22:21
I can hear such sadness in your 'voice'. It is possible that your lo is having a growth spurt, they don't always conform to the weeks and if you lo was off colour because of the shots it could be that she is trying to up supply. I don't know how often you feed in the day but if you try and do a 2-2.5hr feeds during the day for a couple of days it will certainly boost your supply. Also, does she have a dummy as it is possible that she is using you for a dummy in the night to get back to sleep. and you should really be in bed! (mean that nicely btw)
As the previous poster says, lying down to feed can be more restful. See how you feel in the morning, I am in all day tomorrow so will keep checking and maybe something will click. But if you do decide to give a bottle, don't worry about it. It is not the end of the world and if dh is worried about you, perhaps he could do the middle of the night feed so you can continue your sleep :0
24/9/08 22:16
i have tried everything. think the growth spurt happened at 11 weeks xx
24/9/08 22:14
has she had any signs of a cold? a temperature? or teething signs? She could still be going through the 12w growth spurt ( it can last ages)
Maybe try some calpol or calprofen to see if this settles her in case she does have any pain from teething as this can make feeding very uncomfortable in the jaws and ears
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my friend says theres one near where she lives so we r going to go together xx