MY DD was 4 when she got it !! It was really wierd, sometimes she would go in the loo and most times in her pants, i went thru everything from ignorning it, sticker charts, telling her off , I thought it would never end, there was absolutely no reason why she did it even the dox said there was no reason, the only thing I could think of was maybe it was a "control thing" , Then all of a sudden she stopped doing it and we have never looked back since. Just bear with it it will sort itself out.

DON'T GIVE UP!!!! See Bombs away! It will happen - they just want to take control of the situation & do it in their own time!

Redlawrey - LMAO at him DENYING doing it!!!!!

Just to update you - I posted a while ago - my DS is still doing it.  He seems to go through phases of being ok but is awful at the moment.  I even have the potty facing the tv so he can still watch while he's on it, and he brings a toy with him to sit for a wee, but prefers to take himself off behind the curtain or a door or whatever for a poo in his pants.  I don't think there's anything more I can do, I just change him without a fuss. I do get angry when it's 3 times in a day though, you cant help it.  But I do use a horrid cold wet wipe when he's done it in his pants and I make a big fuss of only using dry toilet paper after he's done it right - he hates wipes so I live in hope this might make a difference!  If I watch him and time it right then I get his trousers off 'casually' 'just in case' if he's in the right mood after dinner and he'll sit on the potty when he's ready, but just not when he's dressed.  I give up!

Hi

I'm having same problem with my ds. He is 3 in a few weeks and has been weeing fine since beginning of Sept and completely dry at night since mid to end Sept but poos in pants sometimes 4 times a day. It really stresses me out! I've tried being calm, shouting, bribery!! but nothing works. But I'm def not going back to nappies/pull ups. He will go to  nursery after xmas, I think that nursery staff should understand that these things take time. I spoke to health visitor about it and she said a few things like sitting them on pot after breakfast or just before when they usually go and give them a book to look at, wave poo goodbye(!?) when flushing down toilet, using a star/reward chart starting with tipping a poo out of pants and into the potty, (because you have to start somewhere!) and then further stickers for poos actually in potty and finally letting them watch you or older brother/sister having a poo!

I'm just hoping that as he matures he will get the hang of it and just think that when i look back on this in years to come i will think i was worrying about nothing.

Good luck

Another one here with the same problem - my DS who's 4 has mastered wees no problem - will take himself off and use loo.  Has even told me twice he needs a poo and then pooed on the loo.  However most of the time it's in his pants, and then he denies doing it.  Also, he tells me he 'doesn't know' it's coming.  I'm at my wits end, and today to cap it all nursery want him back in nappies - I can understand that they dont want to clean him up but last time we did this - 18months ago, he just went all the way back to weeing/pooing in nappy.  Any advice gratefully received as I really don't know what to do next.

Thanks girls

hi michef! my lo has just turned 4 and wees are no problem but we too have tried everything to get him topoo on the toilet but he seems to wait till bed time or when we are out of the way. i keep having chats with him to ask why and he doesnt know-promises to do it on toilet etc but still lucky if we catch him. we wave bye bye to poos when he does do it and make a huge fuss and show him how happy we are etc.

today he has told me its cos it takes too long!!

think he thinks it will stop him playing so i try to explain that it takes longer to clean up if he does it in his nappy.

god its so stressful. we try not to get mad and tell him we are sad but its hard!!

got another one to get through tthis yet too...arrgghh

Oh my god! I thought I was the only one with a weird child who poo's in their pants, 6 months! I logged in to find advice for our problem but it seems we will just have to wait. Wee is great always in toilet no accidents but he refuses to even acknowledge that he has done a poo in his pants and is really irregular so I con't even try to put him on the toilet. I haven't even tried nights yet when should i do that????

Hi, this is probably not want you want to hear byt my DS who is nearly 4 still poos in his pants.  We thought he would grow out of it as hes been dry day and night since his 2nd birthday and im shocked to say weve never had a wee accident - day or night ever !  But poos are a different story, he hides away all quiet and does it in his pants. 

Ive tried bribery, telling offs, giving him cuddles and gentle explaining, sweets, charts,   embarrassing him, you name it but he just wont do it in the toilet or potty.  Im not sure how much longer this can go on for - everyone says 'oh he'll do it when hes ready' ???  when is this going to be - its driving me mad !

Well we have had a relapse again today. Another poo in his pants.  He also hides by himself, shutting himself in a different room.  I have tried forcing him onto the potty when I see him doing it, but he holds hi pants up and I can't get them down, I've tried leaving the potty in the room and walking out to leave him to it, but I realised it was all just causing confrontation and stress which I want to avoid so I just put up with it, try not to get too cross when he does it (tried that and tried acting disappointed etc) Nothing seems to make any difference so I am just thinking he'll stop doing it sometime soon

My DS is really good with wees and will even ask to go if he still has a nappy on after his sleep.  He's done 3-4 poos in the potty at the start, which would tend to upset him when he saw it.  Since he's been in pants he will always do it in pants rather than on the potty - I guess it doesn't feel wet so it doesn't bother him, but seems to have a real phobia of doing it on the potty.  He's always been a 'hider' and goes behind the curtains or the sofa so I try and look for the signs.  Yesterday I caught him behind the curtain and dumped him on the potty in time - he screamed at first but then I hid him behind the curtain whilst on his potty and he was okay lol!  But back to pooing in pants again this morning . . . . I've tried bribery etc. and he's been quite constipated over the last week where he's been holding it in - which is making it worse as when he does go it hurts. 

I have had exactly the same thing, your post sounds like I have written it!  He was fine pooing in potty or toilet then suddenly kept doing it in his pants. I have not got to the bottom of it, rewards of sweets and praise don't seem to make any difference.  He just seems to be going back to doing it in the loo or potty now thank goodness.  I thin kit started when he was constipated though

My Ds is the same. Hes 2 yrs 4 mths and started training nearly 4 wks ago. Great with wees says when wants to go at home out playgroup etc. But poos totally different has only twice pooed in the potty. I also see the signs and ask him if he wants to go but he screams and runs off saying no. He will then come and say 'mummy I pooed my pants' but doesnt seem bothered by it will start laughing. Luckily he tends to only go once a day in the late afternoon so we are usually at home. Im not putting him back in nappies will just persevere hoping once he does one if I praise and reward him hell get the mesage.

Hi  my ds is exactly the same but then he gets all upset wen he has pooed in his pants, i think he is a little embarressed bout pooing in his potty, ive tried everything also its 50/50 wid him if ne1 around it goes in his pants but if we at home he alone he goes on potty hes only 2yrs 4months so im hoping it will just click in2 place soon, also he startin playgroup 2moz so he sud get used 2 seein the other kids askin 4 da potty,

I defo wudnt put a nappy/pullup back on as it will confuse him and he will more than likly start weein in it wid out askin 4 da potty, my dh sometimes 4gets to take ds pullup off in da morning and he just wees in it and gets lazy for the rest of the day

Gudluck, it will work itself out soon

 x x x x

It does take them a bit longer to get the hang of pooing in the potty/toilet,both my 2 lo's got the hang of telling me when they wanted a wee within a week but it took a futher 2weeks before they would give warning that they wanted a poo.My ds used to tell me he wanted a poo while he was half way through doing it.They will get the hang of it.

hi i am having the same problem! my son will be three on friday and we have been training on and off since feb, he was doing really well even poos then went right back to stage one in about april, no we have got the wees under control but he always poos in his pants! i just dont know what to do, the health visitor said put him back in nappies as hes too young but i feel this will defeat the object of all the hard work we have put in with the wees and also confuse the hell out of him!?

 he says bye to his poos when we flush them away and if we ask him where poo goes he says in the toilet, its like he cant poo sitting down, as when i notice him looking a bit concentrated i take him to the loo and he strains and strains but nothing happens, then within a minute of coming out its in his pants!!!

 aaaggghhh its so stressful i dont remember this with any of my others!!

sam x

my ds caught sight of a poo he did in the bath and he went hysterical. It was his first poo out of his nappy and it frightened him witless! he reuses point blank to do a poo in his potty or toilet even though i know he is desperate. But then when i put him in the bath he did it in there again but goes hysterical afterwards. it has only been a few days since the whole training started but i still do think its going to be a big problem. A few posts have been on this subject from various concerned mummies. I am going to see the health visitor today to have a weigh in so will mention it to her and let you know what she says (if indeed there is a solution)

Hi, I did read your post but my ds is slightly different in the fact that he doesn't hold it in like others in your posting.  He just will do a poo in his pants whatever.  He has done poos in the potty or toilet when he is naked so his isn't because of being scared??

Hi there, ive posted a similar post below...read that there are a few replies on there.

I think lots of mums are in the same boat, my lo refuses it all out even naked!

Good luck

I have been potty training my ds for two and a half weeks now and is very good with regard to wees whether we are in the house or out and about.  He generally tells me when he needs to go or I remind him.  He has only had a couple of accidents in the last week or so, whilst he was too busy playing which is expected.  He has even been dry five nights out of eight which I am so happy about as he must have good bladder control.

However I don't think he has grasped pooing yet.  I know the signs when he is straining and I ask him do you need a poo and he says no, I ask him again and he says no and then does a poo in his pants.  Even if I don't say anything he still does this.  He has done a poo in the potty or toilet a few times but this is either when I have seen the signs and placed him on the potty or toilet.  Or if he is naked he sometimes then sits on the potty himself and does a poo.  I do give him so much praise and rewards (sticker chart and smartie) for doing a poo on his own but this still doesn't work if he is in his pants.

Has anyone else had similar problems with this and wonder how to overcome this problem.