Hi Honey. 1stly don't worry 2ndly calm down poppet.

When your son decided to stop using the toilet 8 months ago did you then put him back in nappies/pull-ups or was he already in them during that time?

Also when you take the nappy away & he pees on the floor do you put the nappies/pull-ups back on?

My advice to you is decide when you want to potty train him then stick to it. Take the nappy/pull-ups away and put him in pants (A pull up is nothing more than a nappy to your son, he doesn't have the sensation of feeling wet like with pants). Once he's in pants don't put a nappy back on til bedtime. It doesn't matter if he has accidents, they happen, some more than others. It may happen abit more with your son as he maybe confused especially if he has a communication problem. But you did say he had been doing it so i don't think his speech problem effects this. You want him to go potty but keep putting a nappy on him (remember to your son, that's what a pull up is). Or he's in them during the whole process of the training or he decides he doesn't want to do it anymore then you put his nappy back on. That's enforcing the fact if he doesn't want too, he doesn't have to.

I don't know  your son or your circumstances but it sounds to me he stopped going toilet/potty because he couldn't be bothered anymore. It's inconvenient to stop playing/watching TV or whatever he's doing just to go wee when he can sit and do it in his pull-ups with no sensation of being uncomforatable and wet. But remember when you start you must continue. He'll get there in the end. Don't worry about all your friends children or what they can do. It doesn't matter all children are different.

The nursery he's going to be going to should help and support you in what you are doing with your child. They are providing a service for you, not the other way round. The staff that work there should know that children develope at different rates therefore know that chances of every child being fully trained when they come to the nursery is very remote, near impossible. I work at a nursery and We have little ones that come through that are still in nappies or in the middle of training. We work along side the parent to ensure the training will continue, we even start the training. It's our job, We work with children at that age. Don't mess with the nursery, tell them they'll have to help train him. or you'll find a nursery that will. I hope this is helpful to you. Please don't worry.

Send a PM if you need to.

when you take his pull ups off try an catch him when he is weeing and take him to the potty even if he is still going that might help an reinforce the fact that he needs to go on the potty.

DS was 3 in june and is starting nursery on monday. On the leaflet they sent out it said that they really would prefere for them to be toilet trained and dont mind the odd accident as long as the child is trying and tells them they need the toilet most of the time.

Thing is, DS is still in pull ups, he refuses to use the potty or toilet although he did use to use the potty for a wee 2/3 times a day and then decided to just stop about 8 months ago. Whenever i take the nappies off him and try to encourage him to use the potty he just runs off and wees or poos on the floor. Im just getting no where.

His speach isnt exactly how it should be, he went to speech and therapist and they said its a confidence thing, i dont know. So i can not even communicate properly with him and ask why he will not use it. He can say a lot of words but he doesnt really speak in sentences, he just says no all the time and does not explain in anyway why he doesnt want to. ARGH its driving me nuts i just wish i could get him to use the toilet.

Any help/advice much appreciated.