ok she has a seat but she seems convinced that she will fall in even tho she comes to watch me everytime i go and knows that i dont fall in

i had this prob with my dd. she'd rather wet herself than use big toilet (even with soft seat on it) then one day she went in to use potty, i lifted her up, put her on the big toilet, and she just went. she hasnt used a potty since and i have no idea what suddenly changed overnight.

Have you got a little seat for the toilet.  DS hates sitting on the big loo without his, think he feels his going to fall in.  Otherwise I don't know hwhat you can do.  Maybe others can help.

Good luck

any advice on tackling this she just screams and clings on to me