my dd is 3 next week and im so glad im not then only one struggling!!! i took her to toysrus to pick her own potty on the advice of HV i asked if she knew what it was for and she told me she would do her wee and poo in it, so i brought it, we got it home and all she does is sit the doll on it and tell me the doll is on the toilet!!! i have tried bribery but that isnt working! she is due to start preschool in jan but she needs to be out of nappies for a place at the council run one, otherwise i will have to send her to a private day nursery which i will have an excess to pay after the free sessions as u can only send them for half or full days at 5hrs each!!

im about to pull my hair out as i know i really need to get it sorted, but at a loss as how to approach this!!

m18 i am exactly the same situation and  getting lectures off ppl as dd is still in nappies(shes 3 in 6 weeks) she has no interest in the potty and is terried of the big toilet been trying for months but its just gone from she would sit there if i ask her to - refusing to sit on it altogether its a nightmare feel undr so much pressure from ppl saying im being lazy

My son (who is now 5) was exactly the same - I though that I would never get him out of of pull ups  - what did help was putting underpants on under his pull ups so that he could feel when he was wet.  I was told that the nappies that they have these days are so good that it is taking children longer top come out of them.

My son was not interestend in using the potty - so I didn't push him.  One day when he was 4 (just before he was due to start reception) I found him sat on the toilet. 

I can say that even though he was late at being toliet trained - when he eventually decided to use the toilet he has been dry at night (with the exception of a couple of nights). 

I know that some health clincs run 'toilet training classes' but I wouldn't worry about it they will come out of nappies/opull ups when they are ready + If you force the issue you will only make thingsa worse.

My 3 year old son is exactly the same.  I have tried everything, stickers, chocolate buttons.  He has potty and toilet seat, but he just isn't interested.  He is now the only child in his nursery class still in nappies.  Am considering getting one of the musical pottys out of desperation.

my ds was 3 in july and is fine with no pants on goes on potty on his own with no prompting but as soon as we put pants on him they are wet straight away can pull them down just doesnt seem intrested wont have a poo on potty or on toilet .he starts nursery on monday they will take him but wont {cant} change him if he poo,s i have to go and change him .was wondering whether to put him in pants or leave him in pull up pants for a bit and see how he goes .anyone any ideas PLEASE

my ds is 2yr 7 months and we are on day 2 of potty training using the singing potty and sticker reward charts although so he dont feel like thats all he has at the moment we have another reward chart for good behaviour and tiding his toys up so he really feels like he is becomin a big boy. sitting on the potty reading a story is what we are goin to try today just so he gets more used to it. but i do not dare leave the house

well yesterday went better than i expected. the whole time ds was at nursery he didnt have an accident and he used the potty, when we got homw though he refused to use it so he had a poo inhis pants but then before i put a nappy on him at bedtime he used his potty again!! yay!! so now hes running around with no nappy im just hoping he continues to use it. im so proud of him i nearly cried when i picked him up from nursery had to stop myself!!

Our son is 2 yrs 9 mths (3 at xmas) and not potty trained either.  We tried earlier in the year and he got really stressed about pooing so we had to leave it.  He will now sit on a potty or toilet and sometimes does something but he doesn't ask to go beforehand and would happily sit in the same nappy all day if I let him even if it was dirty!

He's possibly starting pre school in January (depends on class numbers) and at the moment I just can't see how he's going to be potty trained by then.

that sounds so familiar i could have written the post myself!! my ds is 2yrs 8months and refuses to go on the potty he always says he wants a nappy on. i leave him with no nappy on while we are at home but wont sit on the potty he would rather wee on the floor. i was told on thursday at nursery they want him to go into the preschool room but cant move up until he is potty trained so we have really tried hard this weekend and he has gone into nursery in his big boy pants but i know that he wont go and use the potty. we have tried stickers reward charts bribing him with chocolate he isnt bothered!!  was thinking about getting the fisher price potty that plays a tune when he wees but im not 100% sure he will use it. i feel pressured by nursery to hurry him up when i dont honestly think he is ready

I know exactly how you feel - DD was just the same! In the end I took the plunge and one night I told her the nappy fairy was going to collect her nappies, she helped bag them up and left them outside her bedroom door. (The fairy story might not appeal to a boy as much!)

It took 3-4 days of bribery with stickers & chocolate buttons to get the hang of weeing in the potty. I felt a bit mean making her go "cold turkey" but it worked for her - she had no alternative.

It took much longer for her to be happy to use the toilet but 6 months on she is usually dry & clean thru the day. Night-times are a different matter - still in nappies & often pooing in them but I keep reassuring myself we will get there...sometime!!

My Ds was just the same. He turned 3 in may and was not interested in the potty or toilet at all. We left him until the beginning of the summer hols when we both had time together and then decided to put him into pants, I still think he wasn't ready but felt like I should be doing it. He had loads of accidents at first and gradually started to go on the potty for wees but only when I took him. It has only been the last 2 days when he suddenly started saying - i think i will go for a wee and last night I was on the phone when he brings in a potty full of poo!!! Unless he has to go into pants i would leave him a bit longer or give him some nappy free time in a morning and evening. We introduced a sticker chart - let ds go and buy the stickers he wanted - that worked well at the start. Good luck (I thought ds would never get there but there does seem to be a flicker of light at the end of the tunnel)

ds has just turned 3 and it just not interested in using the potty he'd quite happily sit in his nappy all day and even if he needs changing if u ask him he'll say no. he got pottys and a toilet seat and he knows what is for but just wont use it ive tried him with no nappy and he'll just stand/sit there and wee  if u ask him if he wants to go he says no.he'll sit on the potty do nothing then as soon as he gets off he'll wee on the floor. hes just not interested we've done the big boys use a potty talk and tried reward charts but he just says no i need a nappy and gets really upset if he dosent have one on.

i just dont know what else i can do

any ideas thanks