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6/3/08 21:20
6/3/08 20:55
You know we dont mind .. anyhting to help a friend, yes your very shy face to face LOL so thats a good enough reason not to get rid of laptop xxx
6/3/08 20:50
i'm gonna agree with heather aswell tara, selling the laptop will make you feel more alone.
and if talking to people on here helps you get things off your chest etc then thats only a good thing.
6/3/08 20:48
Thanks Heather, i really dont want to sell it cos of the reasons you said. You know what im like talking face to face lol! Im very shy whereas on here i blab on and on all the time! Im surprised you all dont get headaches from reading my posts....lol
6/3/08 20:46
I'l find the number out tomorrow for you and send it you in pm as i ahve no credit ... its very rare i have credit LOL
You know you can talk to us tara so try your best not to sell the laptop as i think this helps you as you tend to say more on here than you would face to face and theres all the support on here which you could do with, getitng odf internet will make you feel isolated even more
I really hope you get it sorted Tara
6/3/08 20:37
I'll have a talk to Andy and see what he thinks, but if you could pm/text/whatever me the details at least i have them if we do decide to look into it.
6/3/08 20:35
I hope that talking alone will help for me too but i have a tendency to keep things bottled up that are bothering me for a long time until i get so bad i ust burst into tears and blurt everything out!! I think i shoul work on that though. After ive started work on health anxiety issues!
So....hows everyone and their lo's?
6/3/08 20:32
Ours is going up too
The loan i have dont matter if you have bad credit as mine is awful so is pauls but we have 2 one in each of our names LOL - if you want i could give you there number, not trying to push you into it or anyhting but if it helps and you can afford to pay a little extra a week then its better to pay that bit extra a weekthan go just about without anyhting
On the one i have you pay i think its £40 back to each £100 ... it was the cheepest i could find at the time not sure now though
6/3/08 20:30
i wouldn't say i'm 100% clear of it, but what i found that helped when i first found out it was pnd, was my sister took kayleigh for the night as i felt like i was coping with her very well or adjusting to having 2 kids rather than just jodi.
but my hv said something lee about helping out abit more and just talking to her, she's been a good help for me, and always checks that i'm doing alright and so on.
i did say to lee that i would refuse to go on anything like anti-depressants as i don't like the idea of "happy pills"
but just talking to lee and making sure i don't bottle anything up has helped and saying something when it seems abit too much iykwim.
6/3/08 20:27
We already have one loan that we're paying back, but we've been offered ones fm provident i think. Andys credit rating isnt that good an i dont really have one. We should be ok if we really budget, thats the only way we can get over it but at least when its paid off and were paying the normal rent every week we will manage alot easier.
Our rent is going up as of 7th April too. At the min its £59.75 and its going to go up to £64.27!
6/3/08 20:25
would something like shoppercheck work? same idea as heather, we have a loan with them and pay back.... about £6 something a week for a £100 loan.
6/3/08 20:23
Hi Steph, thanks hun
I start a post natal group tomorrow and really looking forward to it, hopefully i will meet new people other than the friends i have up here, i feel like theyre not really my friends because Andy was the one who introduced them to me cos they were his friends first, if that makes sense??lol!
Its nice to know i can come on here and always have people to talk to.
If you dont mind me asking, you said you had pnd? How did you get over it and what helped?
6/3/08 20:20
Could you get a loan where you just pay a small amount back a week like £5 - £10 to help pay if off, if you got £200 you'd pay just £10 a week back a least that way you wont hvae to use all andys wages and will still be lft with some to live off?
6/3/08 20:19
tara i know we don't talk much, and tell me to butt out if you want.... but i felt the same as you when i had pnd after having kayleigh, and one of the things that made me feel so down was what you said about being so far away from people...
we don't live miles away from family etc but its difficult getting on a bus or train to get out alot.
i don't know if theres anything around you but i found baby and toddler groups helped abit, you know just to get you out the house.
and i'm guessing that the stress with the housing hasn't helped... been down that road aswell, so i can guess how your feeling.
but if you want to chat i'm always about on here or facebook.
6/3/08 19:48
Theyre def going to repossess it but weve got an extra 28 days fron 13th march until they do and if we pay the balance in full we keep the house and if not were evicted then they will put us in temp accoodation but will not rehouse us in a council house.
When Andy gets paid were going to pay the balance but it means we wont have anything to live on till he gets paid again 4 weeks later
So at min we're just trying to sell the stuff we dont really need. Andys mum says she will but his psp off him and we're trying to get rid of laptop(even though i ont want to cos of bounty 
but we need to) and trying to sell Alyscias old tings like pushchair,clothes etc. Hopefully someone will buy them, fingers crossed. I just feel so ashamed of myself for being irresponsible and feel like i let Alyscia and Hayden down, but at least we will learn from our mistakes and wont EVER let it happen again.
My mums juat rang and Alyscias fast asleep. She says shes been really good. Haydens asleep at this end too so ive got all night to myself!
Tried Hayden on baby rice today cos he is so hungry and he loves it, h was smacking hislips and smiling his head off!
Ive looked into privatley renting but its so expensive, i think we'd be worse on that but im still looking and not ruling it ut completley. I will do anything to move away from here, im really starting to feel isolated and all alone here cos its so far away from people.
6/3/08 19:06
Awwww Tara dont appologise, its better to talk than keep it bottlled up inside
Hope you get the houseing situation sorted, what happens with that now? will you def lose house? is there any way you can pay it off?
Good luck with the group
Have you thought of private renting in chesterfield?
6/3/08 18:08
Sorry about yesterday, i really couldnt see a light at the end of the tunnel but now i can and feeling a bit more positive now.
Hope evryones ok an had a nice day. Alyscias gone to my mums for the night
I miss her already and its so quiet without her....well apart from Hayden screaming every now and then lol! So its just me and Hayden for the night, well until Andy gets back from work at 11! We took the sides off Alyscias cot last night and she loved it! She only fell out of bed once all night
Shes a big girl now and growing up far to quickly! Going to a post natal group tomorrow at the clinic, hopefully this means i'll make new friends that live closer, although i do really want to move closer to chesterfield so i can see everybody that lives round there alot more. Going to try the baby carrier tomorrow too to see if it cripples me or not lol!
Whats everyone got planned for tonight? Ill b puttng Hayden to bed, tidying up and then i think ill take a nice long soak in the bath till im all wrinkly and the watrers gone cold
5/3/08 20:54
Yeah we knew we were going to court and we got help and then they stopped helping us for no reason and wont help again. The court date is 13 march(ihave counselling that day too and andys at work so go knows how we're going to go!) and because we're introductory(sp) tennants tey have to laim repossesion within 28 days but if we pay the balanve in full everything will drop and we keep the house. We ended up oweing alot(i dont want to say how much) and now its still at about £400 not including court fees.
In the next few weeks we have nothing to live on till Andy gets paid then all will go on the rent we owe to keep the house.
I nearly cried when the man came round to remind me of the court date, he made me feel like sh#t.
5/3/08 17:26
Tara have they sent you warnings before? they have to take it to court to take your house away, its not as straight forward as just taking it - how many letters have they sent and how much do you owe? (((((hugs)))) dont worry too much at the mo as it might just be a letter to scare you, i have had them before, have you spoke to them?
5/3/08 16:33
Oh and do any of you know if anyone wants to buy a laptop and printer, a pushchair, a playmat, cd player or girls baby clothes??? Just a thought!
I know it sounds really silly what im about to say but it makes me smile to know that you call me your friend. Silly i know!
mmm...nachos were really nice, im full now...sort of!
Ive just got to let one more thing out and its going to kill me.......but........
" Wonderpets wonderpets we're on our way,
to help the baby animals and save the day,
we're not to big and we're not to tough
but when we work together we've got the right stuff,
tthhhhhhheeee wonderpets"!!!
Sorry, its been in my head all day! The joys of watching chldrens tv!!