hi

i work in the legal profession and all too oftenhave many clients in your postion. few questions for you

1) is debt in both your names?

2) who is debt with? and for what amount?

3) do you own the home jointly? have you missed any mortgage payments?

please do not ignore your situation with regards to the debt as the way the current market is you stand to lose a lot more unless you solve these debt problems immediatley.

as for him he will come home when he is good and ready, what has caused his depression? you need to concentrate on rebuilding your life and trying to sort the fiancial mess he has left you inbefore it gets to hard.

hi

at the moment i would take him back if he comes home and sorts himself i think although the longer time goes on the less likey that gets as the more problems it creates. As for the gambling hes always played poker for fun maye the odd 10 quid the big money stuff only started a few weeks before he left, i think!!

Kerry

You may PM me the above details if you wish.

Just a quick question, would you take him back,is the debt in both your name’s,had he had a history of gambling on other things before the influx of on-line poker

Kez i will give my opinion regarding this tommorow as due to my own actions i had placed my ex wife in a similar position ( for which i will always regret ) ,but it's too late in the night for me to honestly discuss this with you so i will leave it till then.

Lee

hi would love some advice from a male point of view, will try to keep it short!

My husband left me 6 weeks ago, just disappeared, walked out on job as well, this was after arguments and strange behaviour and him saying he was depressed. Well he disapprered and had a few contacts via email saying he was ill and scared to come home but wanted to said he was in blackpool, but found at last week hes in america, dont know why. Still saying depressed etc and scared. Also found out spending alot of money on online poker. He has left me in a finacial mess also he took all savings cant pay mortgage wont answer me talking about selling house. The emails are few and far between now.  A few days ago said he really wanted t come home(not the first time) but again no action and now ignoring emails. I,m getting to the point where i just want to write and tell hin never to come back after all he has done, including the debt which is massive and leaving our son.

My family think he just using the depression as an excuse because he had a affair or the gambling, but i,m scared to do anything as has mentioned killing himself.

I have seen a lawyer but havent got a lot of hope really in anyway.

any advice on what i should do would be gratefully received.

Thanks Kerry